Goal-Setting & Rewarding Behavior

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Time to stop avoiding everything it is we have to do; it’s time we start setting goals for what we want to achieve. So much time can be wasted sitting around in thought contemplating what could be accomplished – no more of that, time to start doing. Time to start taking action for the course of your life.

“It is the set of the sails, not the direction of the wind that determines which way we will go” – Jim Rohn

Set your sail, determine your course of action; find goals that are meaningful to you and plot your way of achieving them. Create achievement milestones that could be followed up with potential rewards. Rewards could be anything from new purchases to pampering yourself. Remember happiness is the main goal and balance is happiness.

Balance is difficult, moderation is no easy task. List your goals and list your potential rewards for accomplishing these goals. Rewards similar to goals can be used to stretch an individual’s comfort zone. Determine whether these goals are worthy of such rewards and if so be sure vary your rewards in terms of new experiences.

Your rewards should always be something you can look forward to, they should be something that motivates you on the days when your heads not entirely in the game. This is why I say to vary your rewards, when your rewards no longer peak your interest you gradually will start to lose your flare and motivation. Rewarding and loving yourself despite any circumstance is key to growing; remember you deserve to reward yourself for all the hard work you’ve done.

Think of your reward as a toast, a toast to what you’ve accomplished and a toast to what’s to come. If you choose not to reward yourself your journey can become stale and boring fairly quickly. Your reward is a confirmation of a job well done allowing you to reflect and pause while also making the journey worth enduring.

Remember not to get to caught up in rewarding yourself. Delaying gratification is the biggest determining factor of someone’s success or failure. If an individual is unable to control their willpower they slowly lose control of other aspect of their life. Loss of willpower can be exhibited in society’s addiction for videogames. Addiction to video games has quickly become a norm within the past 20 years. It is not unusual for a child to spend multiple hours in front of the television per night.

Remember to exercise your willpower. Will power is like a muscle it will lose its strength over time unless you’re willing to exercise it. Choosing to give into every single desire has a downward spiral type effect. Giving into temptations reduces your self-esteem and creates an environment that promotes the cycle of self-sabotage.

Will power is everything… What’s the point of creating goals if you know you’ll never take action to achieve them? Create goals, achievements and milestones you know you’ll complete. Be sure to stretch your comfort zone but make sure your goals are realistic and measurable.

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Don’t settle in a place where you’re unhappy. Don’t settle for what others think. Settle for what you deserve.

Thought is the wind, knowledge the sail and mankind the vessel” – Augustus Hare

Set sail; start moving forward striving for your ideal life. Remember not to overload yourself with rewards but instead reward yourself when it’s deserved. Immediate desires will shatter a potential future if you let it. Map out the journey ahead and don’t steer off course. Love yourself. Remember life’s about the journey not the destination.

“Everything comes and goes, I dealt with the undertow keeping my head above the water, pushed on now I run the show” – Classified

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Almost Famous; The Celebrity Influence

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We all have different ideas of how we would like to retire but not all of us live in a way that we will be able to do so. The way we consume day-to-day takes a toll both on our health and our overall financial status.

We live in a day of age where wealth is more emphasized by the things you possess such as clothes, cars and odd commodities rather than actually owning money itself. Instead of collecting savings we’ve chosen to collect debt. We’ve chosen to emphasize lifestyles we can’t afford conforming to the so-called celebrity lifestyle.

Truth is most of us aren’t celebrities and never will be. Most of us aren’t all-star athletes and will never make millions of dollars. Although this truth should be universally known the rise of social media has influenced many to convince themselves they are “almost famous”.

Fame doesn’t bring happiness. Fame is more of an delusional lifestyle that’s sold to fans. Truthfully, a celebrity’s life is not much more spectacular than yours or mine.

Emotional stability and consistency

The biggest advantage celebrities possess is the income and support they receive. They are able to stay on top of their development with numerous coaches, trainers, managers who keep their heads in the game.

Remember we aren’t all raking in the big bucks like celebrities or all-star athletes and most of us likely never will. Thus why we need to be our own coaches, trainers and managers. We need to take initiative to correct our own mistakes day to day. We need to build momentum and keep looking ahead. We harness the power to accomplish great things with consistent action.

To retire healthy and with savings should be the focus for everybody.. so why are we thinking short-sighted?

“Are these things really better than the things I already have? Or am I just trained to be dissatisfied with what I have now?” – Chuck Palahniuk

Back to Diluted Realities – The Ego Illusion Part 1

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