Accomplishing Goals

What is it you want to accomplish? Maybe you want to start living a healthier life? Maybe you want to start saving money for the future? Start saving for a dream home? A future business?

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Whatever it is you want to accomplish there are fundamental steps to making these changes occur in our daily lives. The biggest factor without a doubt being focus. Without focus we wander lost and without purpose. With focus and concentration we can strive to live purposefully, taking actions to improve the overall quality of our lives bringing us close to the dream we’ve established for ourselves.

To reach your vision it must be deeply engrained, your actions must come from a place of passion. Your vision should be your first thought when you wake and your last thought before going to bed. Your vision should be something you cannot go without, something no one can convince you to shy away from.


8 Principles to Accomplishing Any Goal

Visualize
Visualize where it is you want to be, visualize the end result, and visualize the journey. Where is it you want to be at the end of your transformation? Is it realistic? Can you see yourself taking the steps to get there?

Create a vision & action steps
This is where imagination becomes so important, we need to see it before it ever actually comes into being. Note everything you may encounter, note every opportunity, every risk, create actions steps incase these scenarios ever come into play.

Commit to action
A goal is just an idea without effort and consistent action. Wake up everyday with the intention to knock something else off the list.

Keep the end in mind
We all begin from different starting points, for some success and happiness might be harder to attain than others. Keep the end in mind; don’t quit, you’ll get there in time.

Accept failure and uncertainty
The road of success is buried in misfortune, don’t let failure affect your emotions. You’re going to fail its inevitable, you’re only human… we all make mistakes. Learn from your mistakes and move past them, don’t linger.

Evaluate and re-evaluate
Evaluate yourself, what does your progression look like up until this point? What could be done differently? Are you really utilizing your resources most efficiently? Your time? Are you taking the proper actions? Do your action steps need to be revisited? Is something missing?

The biggest question we should ask ourselves is “knowing what I know now, am I taking the best possible direction to reach my outcome?”

Things change that includes our vision and priorities. The more we come to understand about life, human nature and wholeness the more we redirect our energy to gain purpose from our actions. The more we understand our feelings and emotions the more aware we become and the more willing we are to make the correct choices.

Revisit your vision
is it what you truly want? Are you truly willing to sacrifice everything necessary to accomplish this vision? Are you fooling yourself? Or do you truly believe?

Give your best effort and persevere
If you’re completely sold on your vision and completely willing to sacrifice whatever it is to get there then there’s no better time to start than right now. Effort is between you and you, don’t limit yourself; work for everything you deserve.

Stay poised, don’t get down on yourself if you’ve been at it for a long time. If your vision is really worth it you’ll stick with it. Failure and mistakes are just stepping stones, don’t let them define you. Remember, if it was easy everyone would do it. Not everybody can musker up the strength and courage but for those who can glory awaits.

What is Happiness?

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Everyone’s definition of happiness is different. The concept of happiness never changes but how we attain it does. Happiness is gained by simply valuing yourself and your role in society. Plain and simple.

Not everyone is born into great power. A lot of us are born below the poverty line and because of this we have barriers to our happiness. Happiness isn’t having money but money does allow happiness to flow. We can attain happiness through personal growth and what better propels personal growth than income. Having the income to buy the things you need to move forward is a huge relief. Constant burdens of debt and financial trouble easily put a strain on life making the future seem hopeless. For these reasons financial stability is extremely important when it comes to bettering yourself. Regardless if you love the job or not it’s important to have consistent income. Be gritty and don’t give up.

Bettering yourself comes hand in hand with valuing yourself. I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times “love yourself”. Seems easy yet it couldn’t be any more difficult. So often we forget how critical we are on ourselves and stand in the way of our own happiness. Remember this moment is all we have no need to reminisce about the past or worry about the future just live and let live. You are the sum of all your choices and moving forward with good intentions will help to balance a strong healthy well-being.

Another method that brings us to value ourselves is the service we render to others. We all need a purpose and a reason to get up each morning. Sometimes we lose our purpose and forget who we are when we live in isolation with our thoughts. We need to be free with the outside world. We need to find reasons to get outside, our reasons to be healthy and our reasons to live a truly great life. Having influences outside of ourselves helps this. We need a support system when times are tough, a mentor to teach us wisdom and a family to call home. Love is everything. Love, love, love don’t forget it.

Ultimately happiness comes from appreciating yourself. How you love yourself will influence how you treat everyone else. Remember to work on yourself be proud, be humble and always have the best intentions in mind. Live life to the fullest and don’t be afraid to get outside. Find your niche. Find a hobby and someone to share it with that’s where true happiness comes from.

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Creating a Vision

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Without imagination we are unable to see into tomorrow, without imagination we must live with our pains and are forced to live the day-to-day reality hopelessly. With imagination we are able to establish a vision and more able to customize ourselves to acquire the tools needed to thrive in tomorrow’s world. With vision and imagination we are able to project the potential concerns and able to make the changes needed to succeed.

Imagination and a creative approach to problem solving is essential but without willpower nothing is possible.

Willpower is everything. Its the ability to do what needs to be done rather than doing what would be prefferred as more enjoyable. Life isn’t easy. One of my favorite sayings is from a Billy Ocean song “when the going gets tough the tough get going”. Willpower is the ability to perservere through hard times, through struggles and adversity; its the difference between someone reaching their potential or not.

Willpower is action and without action we are left in our minds to speculate. Refuse to speculate choose to participate instead.

Participate by creating a plan of action:

  1. Stop to consider where you want to see yourself within 1 year, 3 years and 5+ years.
    Determine what you hope to have accomplished within these periods of time.
  2. Fill in the gaps
    What are your strengths and weaknesses and where can you improve?
    Determine which skills are necessary and which are irrelevant moving forward.
    What will need to be learnt that could potentially increase earning potential?
  3. Be proactive
    Consider all the threats and situations that may arise. Have strategies planned for dealing with these issues.
  4. Determine short, medium & long term goals. Be realistic and reasonable.
    “God grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Reinhold Niebuhr.
  5. Create milestones & rewards
    Break down each goal step-by-step. Determine a proper course of action in order to have these goals accomplished within the given timeframe. Reward yourself in new and exciting ways when you finish on time.
  6. Revise, Re-evaluate and Reorganize.
    Determine whether your plan of action was reliable and efficient.
    What worked? What didn’t work? What could have been done better?

Your plan of action is a rule of measurement which we can more precisely evaluate or progression towards our goals. Be realistic with your plan. If you refuse to follow your plan of action don’t expect to reach your goals, its your choice.

Your plan of action should inspire the next step towards your vision. Actions should never wander aimlessly because the next step is clear and specific.

“Where there is no vision there is no hope” – George Washington Carver

Decide on a vision and do everything within your power to get there. Be resourceful overcome and persevere. All you have is this moment. Your future is created by what you do now not tomorrow. Don’t sell yourself short of what you’re worth. Love yourself, take action and begin now.

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Personal Growth & Development

“Lost time is never found again” – Benjamin Franklin

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Success is a small list of daily habits carried out with consistency over an extensive period of time. Ideally we fashion the lives we want with the actions we choose yet most of us are sabotaging ourselves with destructive habits. Its time to wake up and start taking action.

We all use our time differently and these differences will determine the course of where our life will flow. Choosing to wake up never intently thinking about the future we tend to lead ourselves down a rabbit hole we cannot escape. Gradually our self-destructive habits take a toll on our resources and our self-esteem creating an uncontrollable downward spiral which usually leads to reckless spending and consumer debt. The effects of debt can be soul-crushing making the future appear hopeless.

We must consciously choose to look at our choices with a long-term approach in mind.

“People do not lack strength, they lack will” – Victor Hugo

Distractions are everywhere. From binge watching TV shows to never getting off social media many individuals are wasting their time gaining no benefit from their actions. More often then not these individuals are sick of their monotonous routine and actually experience negative side effects yet they continue to live the same patterns.

We all have our strengths and our weaknesses but it’s up to us to take personal responsibility for our own growth. Once we stop stretching our comfort zones our lives become plain and dull. We need to create a plan of action to accomplishing what we believe is possible or else we will never get there.

Don’t live hoping, wishing and ultimately regretting. Take action and see what’s possible. You determine your own worth. If time is money then don’t let yours be wasted, be conscious with how you manage it. Determine what you’re willing to sacrifice for the greater good and take progressional steps to get there.

Before embarking on your soulful journey be sure to consider the following:

  1.  Transformational change begins with your attitude.
    Be positive and have faith that your circumstances will become better with time.
  2. Make your goals clear.
    What do you want to achieve and how are you going to get there?
  3. Evaluate your current support system.
    Do the people around you support your new goals and ideas or are they discouraging?
  4. Create/find a safe haven conducive to your growth.
    Find an efficient place you can be alone; somewhere to reflect, think and be productive.
  5. Start everyday with a plan.
    Evaluate and plan everything you need to accomplish the night prior
    Prioritize your tasks as efficiently as possible
  6. Set the mood for your day.
    Find a way to make your mornings joyful whether it be reading, writing, listen to music or engaging in physical activity.
  7. Enjoy the process.
    “Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is more important than the outcome” – Arthur Ashe. Remember to have fun along the way or you’ll soon lose your “umph” and inspiration to persevere.
  8. Do what works for you.
    Everyone’s vision of success is different. Don’t let people persuade you off the right path. Remember your values and what you’re ultimately trying to obtain. Remember not to stress take life as it comes, you can never plan for everything. Be flexible but always considerate of how your actions affect others.
  9. Learn from the best.
    Whether it be the best teachers or the best sources, choose to go straight to the source whenever possible. Don’t believe everyone tells you. Question everything; learn to make up your own mind if there’s no evidence pertaining to the circumstance.
  10.  Be humble in the face of humility.
    Don’t rationalize why you failed instead re-evaluate how the situation could be done differently and act. Don’t complain or go into a negative state of mind, learn from your mistakes.
  11.  Be consistently persistent.
    Get up when you get knocked down. No pain no gain; we stand back up only to grow stronger if we’re willing to learn from our mistakes.
  12.  Read, read and read some more.
    By other’s faults wise men correct their own.

Information is everywhere there’s never been a better time to learn for free. Whether it be online pdfs, audio books or credible articles the power is at our fingertips and is more available than ever.

“The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance, it is the illusion of knowledge” – Daniel Boorstin

Always have good intentions and seek to understand the knowledge parted. If you know you’re doing the right thing don’t let others convince you otherwise. Be confident in your ability and act with conviction. Don’t let anyone stand in the way on your path to becoming your best self.

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Healing Power of Writing

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Since I began writing my blogs I have felt this enormous sense of ease that has taken over my life. Still I run into my occasional problem but nothing I can’t come to understand. Blogging to me has helped me tremendously by giving me a different perspective when tackling my problems.

Writing has a profound effect when immersed creatively. As an author of an expressive piece of writing a lot of relevant insight into one’s life can be gathered. Writing can have a therapeutic effect improving mood, well-being and reducing stress. Reflecting and writing about good things can help us to feel more positive and motivated while also balancing the mental tabs of an overcrowded mind.

Writing about certain topics can help an author to gain insight into his/her priorities to better understand his/her emotional reaction. Expressive writing is thought to help enhance self-regulation and facilitate mental health. Whether reflecting on positive aspects of life trauma or visualizing our best possible self, writing allows individuals to examine a previously unexamined part of their lives.

Trauma writing is predicated on the idea we must revisit, re-experience and re-evaluate past traumas to release pent-up emotion and to really let go. When we choose to hold back from sharing our traumatic events we tend to experience chronic autonomic arousal and immune function deterioration. Writing can be an outlet to deal with pain rather than just blocking it out.

BPS or best possible self-based writing tends to bring awareness to ourselves when considering higher-level goals. Writing about our best personal self allows us to clarify our goals while reorganizing priorities and deciding on values. BPS writing appears to offer the same therapeutic benefits as trauma-based writing without the damper on mood.

“I write because I don’t know what I think until I read what I say” – Flannery O’Connor

Writing is a journey and can be a vessel to take you from point A to point B. If you’re feeling writer’s block remember to just let it flow. Write on whatever topic is concerning you this very moment. Write about where you would love to see yourself in the future. Write about your dream vacations, your dream home and your dream job. Write about writing. Write about psychology, spirituality or health. Write blogs about blogs. For the love of God just write and see where it takes you.

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Goal-Setting & Rewarding Behavior

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Time to stop avoiding everything it is we have to do; it’s time we start setting goals for what we want to achieve. So much time can be wasted sitting around in thought contemplating what could be accomplished – no more of that, time to start doing. Time to start taking action for the course of your life.

“It is the set of the sails, not the direction of the wind that determines which way we will go” – Jim Rohn

Set your sail, determine your course of action; find goals that are meaningful to you and plot your way of achieving them. Create achievement milestones that could be followed up with potential rewards. Rewards could be anything from new purchases to pampering yourself. Remember happiness is the main goal and balance is happiness.

Balance is difficult, moderation is no easy task. List your goals and list your potential rewards for accomplishing these goals. Rewards similar to goals can be used to stretch an individual’s comfort zone. Determine whether these goals are worthy of such rewards and if so be sure vary your rewards in terms of new experiences.

Your rewards should always be something you can look forward to, they should be something that motivates you on the days when your heads not entirely in the game. This is why I say to vary your rewards, when your rewards no longer peak your interest you gradually will start to lose your flare and motivation. Rewarding and loving yourself despite any circumstance is key to growing; remember you deserve to reward yourself for all the hard work you’ve done.

Think of your reward as a toast, a toast to what you’ve accomplished and a toast to what’s to come. If you choose not to reward yourself your journey can become stale and boring fairly quickly. Your reward is a confirmation of a job well done allowing you to reflect and pause while also making the journey worth enduring.

Remember not to get to caught up in rewarding yourself. Delaying gratification is the biggest determining factor of someone’s success or failure. If an individual is unable to control their willpower they slowly lose control of other aspect of their life. Loss of willpower can be exhibited in society’s addiction for videogames. Addiction to video games has quickly become a norm within the past 20 years. It is not unusual for a child to spend multiple hours in front of the television per night.

Remember to exercise your willpower. Will power is like a muscle it will lose its strength over time unless you’re willing to exercise it. Choosing to give into every single desire has a downward spiral type effect. Giving into temptations reduces your self-esteem and creates an environment that promotes the cycle of self-sabotage.

Will power is everything… What’s the point of creating goals if you know you’ll never take action to achieve them? Create goals, achievements and milestones you know you’ll complete. Be sure to stretch your comfort zone but make sure your goals are realistic and measurable.

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Don’t settle in a place where you’re unhappy. Don’t settle for what others think. Settle for what you deserve.

Thought is the wind, knowledge the sail and mankind the vessel” – Augustus Hare

Set sail; start moving forward striving for your ideal life. Remember not to overload yourself with rewards but instead reward yourself when it’s deserved. Immediate desires will shatter a potential future if you let it. Map out the journey ahead and don’t steer off course. Love yourself. Remember life’s about the journey not the destination.

“Everything comes and goes, I dealt with the undertow keeping my head above the water, pushed on now I run the show” – Classified

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Book Summary – Laws of Growth by John C. Maxwell

1_1_1 laws of growthMisconceptions about growth that may be holding you back. “I assume I will automatically grow”, “I don’t know how to grow”, “it’s not the right time to begin”, “I’m afraid of making mistakes”, “I have to find the best way before I start”, “I don’t feel like doing it”, “others are better than I am”, “I thought it would be easier than this”.

Start today, start taking responsibility to grow; responsibility for your own personal development. Transition from accidental growth to intentional growth by asking the big questions now. Where do you want to go in life? What direction? What’s the furthest you see yourself going?

Fight for good habits and rely on hard work to keep them there. Focus on positive self talk, stop comparing yourself to others and move beyond your limiting beliefs. Start building a positive network, if you want to start feeling valuable add value to others.

Remember there’s always time to slow down and pause. Learning to pause allows growth to catch up with you turning experiences into insight. Schedule time to pause and reflect or it will always get knocked off your to-do list.

Ask yourself. Do you know what you need to improve? Do you know how you are supposed to improve? Do you know why you want to keep improving? Be conscious of the journey not the destination, growth is lifelong and you will constantly change beyond your goals. It’s difficult to remain engaged into anything if you haven’t found a way to value and appreciate the process.

Assess the environment. Is the environment conducive to learning? Ask yourself questions that help you to understand who and what nurtures you personally and figure out if you’re getting those things. Ask yourself, what songs lift me? What ideas speak to me? What experiences rejuvenate me? What people encourage me? What activities revive me? What spiritual exercises strengthen me? And so on and so on. Change your environment to suit you and be deliberate with whom you spend your time with. Challenge yourself and focus on the moment, moving forward despite criticism.

Create a system where you can flourish, constantly reprioritizing while taking the big picture into account. Be organized and precise with your deadlines, an effective system promotes consistency. Embrace the value of bad experiences as a learning tool. No pain no gain, time to start taking responsibility for your life.

Build your strong character and rely on it. Inside victories precede outside ones. Our inside development is totally within our control. Follow the golden rule – people matter. Only teach what you believe – passions matter. Value humanity above all virtues – perspective matters. Recognize everyone has a weakness. Be teachable and willing to serve others. Strive to finish well – faithfulness matters.

Stretch your comfort zones. Settling for the status quo leads to dissatisfaction. Set yourself apart from others. Change starts internally. Let stretching become your lifestyle.

Consider trade-offs. Be willing to give up immediate gratification for personal growth. Give up the fast life for the good life. It’s important to know what you are not willing to give up just as it is to know what you are willing to give up. What trade do you need to make but have been unwilling to make? Most people settle in and learn to live with a limitation or barrier that can be removed by making a trade.

Cultivate curiosity, approach life the way a child does; with a beginner’s mind set. Make why your favorite word. Learn something new everyday, grow through failure. Get out of the box and start enjoying life. Learn something that takes you completely out of your comfort zone, just be certain that it’s something you’ll find fun.

Stop thinking “can I?” And start thinking “how can I?” Stop thinking “more work” and start thinking “what works”. Stop thinking “one door” and start thinking “many doors”. Stop doing only things you’ve done before start doing the things you could and should do. Start doing more than what’s expected. Stop doing things occasionally and start doing things daily. Give yourself an effectiveness audit so you can be sure of what you’re thinking.

Ultimately the overall message of this book is to focus on self-development not self-fulfillment. Don’t let objects or people own you. Keep growing and keep giving. Make the decision to put others ahead of your own agenda. Serve others instead of yourself. Sometimes the seeds you sow take long to grow but you always see a harvest.

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