Building Self-Esteem & Following Your Word

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It’s crazy what we can accomplish when we really set our minds to something. When all distractions are eliminated and focus is at its peak we’re able to accomplish so much it’s ironic we accomplish so little.

What do you want to get done today? What’s today’s top priority? If you could reflect at the end of the day what is it you want to say you did?

Do you wake up in the morning with achievable goals in mind?

It’s difficult. Not everyone knows what it is they want to accomplish. Most of us have been laying back and relaxing so long we forget we’re capable of achieving.

We neglect ourselves till our self-worth is diminished and we no longer value ourselves. When we neglect action we begin to believe life’s opportunities are based on luck. We begin to believe all power is out of control and things will never change.

Wake up with a sense of purpose. Where do you want to be within a week’s time? A month’s time? Start to live according to your plans.

Build your self-confidence and self-esteem with little steps. Begin with something small and gradually challenge yourself more and more as you build momentum.

Follow your word. Your word is everything to yourself and others.

What is your word? Your word is following through with whatever it is you say you’re going to do. Your word is integrity.

Your word builds other people’s faith in you. Without following through on your word you become unreliable and toxic anchor. Following through with your word you can build the greatest of plans. Following through with your word you can build the strongest of support systems and a favorable reputation.

Where to Begin:

1) Write things down. More often then not we have so much on our plate our brain decides out with the old in with the new. We begin to discard thoughts that deem unimportant to the current situation. If you can’t take action now write it down and take action when the opportunity presents itself.

2) Be honest with yourself and others. Part of following your word is not offering false promises. We have to be honest with what we are truly capable of so we don’t overpromise. Be humble, more often then not its better to undersell that way you can exceed expectations.

3) Have good intentions & strong morals. Life is full of different influences, don’t let them distract you and throw you off. Living according to your values and purpose will become its own reward over time. Don’t deviate.

4) Hope for the best but be realistic. Don’t let doubt limit your potential. When you say you’re going to do something do it with a positive and open mind, don’t let stress get in the way. Choose not to complain or dwell but rather to look at the situation in a new light.

5) Remember the concept of karma. Do unto others as you wish to be done unto yourself. Live life in a purposeful way and gradually you’ll build a network of like-minded individuals. There world is full of infinite possibilities and the internet offers many ways to find social groups. Choose to create and publish, find your niche. Don’t be limited to your local community, get out there.

Remember you can build true value by living through your word. Choose to lead by example, not everyone is ready to live in such a way. Don’t procrastinate, start taking action and conquer anything that plagues you. Don’t let fear stand in the way from you living the life you’ve dreamed of. Start with little steps and begin from there, life doesn’t get easier we just get wiser and better at managing it.

Remember this concept of self-esteem and don’t forget it:

“Self-esteem is like a difficult-to-cultivate flower. It requires frequent nurturing that occurs when you keep your word and follow through on your promises.” Derrick Bell

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Almost Famous; The Celebrity Influence

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We all have different ideas of how we would like to retire but not all of us live in a way that we will be able to do so. The way we consume day-to-day takes a toll both on our health and our overall financial status.

We live in a day of age where wealth is more emphasized by the things you possess such as clothes, cars and odd commodities rather than actually owning money itself. Instead of collecting savings we’ve chosen to collect debt. We’ve chosen to emphasize lifestyles we can’t afford conforming to the so-called celebrity lifestyle.

Truth is most of us aren’t celebrities and never will be. Most of us aren’t all-star athletes and will never make millions of dollars. Although this truth should be universally known the rise of social media has influenced many to convince themselves they are “almost famous”.

Fame doesn’t bring happiness. Fame is more of an delusional lifestyle that’s sold to fans. Truthfully, a celebrity’s life is not much more spectacular than yours or mine.

Emotional stability and consistency

The biggest advantage celebrities possess is the income and support they receive. They are able to stay on top of their development with numerous coaches, trainers, managers who keep their heads in the game.

Remember we aren’t all raking in the big bucks like celebrities or all-star athletes and most of us likely never will. Thus why we need to be our own coaches, trainers and managers. We need to take initiative to correct our own mistakes day to day. We need to build momentum and keep looking ahead. We harness the power to accomplish great things with consistent action.

To retire healthy and with savings should be the focus for everybody.. so why are we thinking short-sighted?

“Are these things really better than the things I already have? Or am I just trained to be dissatisfied with what I have now?” – Chuck Palahniuk

Back to Diluted Realities – The Ego Illusion Part 1

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Fragmented Realities

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Most of us are living diluted realities of the truth. We over sell and over consume most of the times as a means of convincing others or ourselves of our value and worth. Some individuals live fragments of what others consider reality – the world becoming strongly narcissistic thus shifted the collective thinking – people  became so focused on themselves yet they are unaware of the bubble they place themselves in.

Sure becoming more self-conscious is great.. people are making a stand for their worth for fairness and equality. Most of us live fragmented illusions of what we call life.

Although it appears we have more friends than ever according to our Facebook profiles that couldn’t be any further from the truth. Human connection has been lost and the demand for attention is more prevalent than ever.

The products we use have a strong influence with the way the world perceives us. Moderate spending is fine the problem arises when we spend in order to gain approval. People acquire debt in order to finance fancy cars, pay for trips or to satisfy spending addictions. Many unconsciously put themselves into difficult financial crisis and bankrupt even when the crisis could have been avoided entirely.

In my eyes the view towards the need to thrive or the so-called “American Dream” is more a superficial image filled with material desires rather finding balance and true happiness – it’s based off the ego. In reality the “American Dream” should be finding personal happiness in our daily lives without the need to showboat or compete.

As individuals we should shift our focus and attention away from material possessions and wake to each day with expectations to have every instance filled with hope, excitement and adventure.

Wake with hope to grow mentally and physically. Wake with the means to support yourself financially. Most importantly wake to love yourself, don’t worry so much about material possessions.

 

Continue to Almost Famous – The Ego Illusion Part 2

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Over Stimulation & Loss of Self control (1 of 2)

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Whenever you’re away from home you can list piles of things you wish you would’ve done while you were at home or when you get there (whether it be housework, exercising or personal projects – like writing blogs).

We have these hopes of accomplishing these things yet the truth is a lot of us experience a total loss of self control in the moments we spend isolated in our comfortable homes.

Addictions to drugs, alcohol, food, and technology have us spiraling out of control. We become unconscious as we routinely follow the same patterns – these bad habits can wreck havoc on an individual’s self esteem and their financial future.

“You’re not using your heart for what hearts are for” – Brother Ali

Life’s hard but let’s remember what our values and goals are. Remember goals are important but so is enjoying every moment as it happens. Choose not to stress when critical moments demand your attention. Cherish each day and do you’re best with what you’ve been given. Do you’re best with today it’s all you’ve got – if you get tomorrow make the best of that too.

Remember balance in everything you do. Work towards moderating your bad habits eliminating your unneeded time wasters. We can become our own worst enemy if we beat ourselves up so remember life’s meant to be enjoyed. Do you’re best and enjoy It. Take action everyday to improve your well-being but always remember life’s a roller-coaster ride so don’t lose your sense of adventure. It has its ups and downs but hang on, embrace every moment and have fun.

Continue to Overstimulation & Loss of Self-Control Part 2

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