10 Inner Dimensions of Self-Worth

Many of us look outside ourselves with intent on finding things that will make us happy. Sadly this isn’t where true happiness resides; happiness comes from within not “without”. If you’re not happy with yourself in your current circumstances then nothing will make you happy until you flip the switch and decide to be happy with what you’ve got.

Living a selfish life wrecks havoc on our self-esteem and our self-worth; although our esteem may be at an all time low this doesn’t mean it can’t be re-awoken and soar to new heights.

Even if our circumstances are brutal and hard to rise above we must always remember these inner principles to being and improving self-worth:

  1. Strive for better  Each day there are winners and losers, do you consider today a win in the grand scheme of things? Did you step closer to your goals or fall further away?
  2. Push past exhaustion – Just because the elements are not perfect doesn’t mean effort isn’t necessary. Push through doubts, exhaustion and any necessary conflict.
  3. Recognize needs verses wants – Be deliberate with how you utilize your resources. Avoid any vicious cycles of coping with stress, battle your conditions and elicit better (positive) ways to cope.
  4. Recognize workplace success vs. a successful life – Sometimes to have a successful life we must abide by the roles we’ve been given. Don’t squander your opportunities; they may not be ideal but honor each moment with awareness and see where life takes you.
  5. Recognize flawed patterns – Whether these flawed patterns are our negative thinking, over thinking or idolizing material possessions; choose to let go. It is what it is; manage what you’ve been given.
  6. See the good in others – Keep conversations light-hearted, don’t dig into pasts or try to make sense of everything. Validate feelings and give your honest perspective, everyone has a voice that needs to be heard.
  7. See the bigger picture
    a) Everyone wants to belong, everyone is human, and we’re all the same with a few subtle differences. Don’t let differences divide, let differences influence positive change.
    b) Everyone’s got their own problems; running away is never the solution, and not everyone copes well.
  8. Understand we all have bad days – Okay so today wasn’t perfect, that doesn’t mean we have to beat ourselves up. We all have off days but don’t let that discourage you. It’s not easy but try and wake up every morning with a sense of bliss thinking “nothing could be better than it is right now.”
  9. Being the victim is a choice – Attitude is everything. Bring a positive light for all to see but only confide in those who show true loyalty.
  10. Everything happens for a reason – Don’t bask in your failures; mistakes are stepping stones to success. Brush that dust of your shoulder and choose to challenge life.

Ultimately effort is between you and you. If you’re not willing to sacrifice something to get to where you want be honest with yourself. Like stated above “nothing could be better than it is right now”, if you’re not happy with yourself how do you expect to be happy with others and the world around you?

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Self-love is everything; don’t forget your worth.

Here’s some age old wisdom: Love yourself and treat others as you wish to be treated.

Path of Least Resistance

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It’s so easy to get inside your head and convince yourself not to do something. Its so easy to let fear control us. Its so easy to begin something and then to just put it down. It’s easy to give up when things get tough. But what’s easy isn’t always what’s right.

More often then not we opt to take the path of least resistance. Its just so much easier to be free of criticism or judgement from others. A lot of us battle ourselves everyday, the last thing we want to do is rub people the wrong way and create more conflict. As a means of avoiding conflict and failure its easier just to ignore the possibilities of what could be. It’s easier for us to hold onto our pent up emotions and accept what is rather than going against the current.

Conditioned by our thoughts of conformity we begin to believe the limitations of our parents, peers and authority. We begin to feel content with our environment and accept it as the true reality. We learn to live with our problems rather than to learning to adapt to inevitable changes.

Rather than enjoying the fruits of our labour we are frozen by action left to contemplate and rationalize every possible excuse as to why we failed. Remaining frozen in action living with sadness and anger we allow our failure to define us depleting us of all available resources. Living with this depletion of resources we remain in an unstable environment that lacks structure, support and personal growth.

Struggling to be happy we remain stagnate and actually begin show signs of physical and mental decline. We begin to lose our purpose and reshuffle our priorities. We begin to see life through a short lens living as if we were to die tomorrow.

Greed and immediate gratification become all so important. Being that we are unhappy and discontent with our environment we turn to selfish behaviour that promotes dopamine production. Ideally the thought is “I’d rather be happy” but this is such a short-sighted statement. In the long-run feeding our senses becomes toxic and poisonous to the individual. Immediate gratification becomes self-sabotage and this quickly becomes a deeply engrained pattern.

We begin to forget about our dreams and lose faith altogether. We lose purpose and our reasons for being. We begin thinking “is this really all that life is”. Unable to feel true happiness due to the fact the pleasure centers of the brain have been overloaded day in and day out we begin to feel hopeless and burnt out.

Life’s tough but it’s time to grab the bull by the horns. If you don’t begin to start taking action fear will guide you down a dark path. Don’t let fear back you into a corner you can’t get out of.

Take control of your life. Take control of your health. Take control of your finances. Your problems will begin a snowball effect if you choose to neglect them. Refuse to turn the other cheek, stay on top of monitoring your progress.

Stretch your comfort zones and get comfortable doing so. Remember, a house cat is not your spirit animal, your spirit animal is fierce, intimidating and never backs down.

The path of least resistance is an emotional unstable journey which guarantees jealousy and resentment. How far down does the rabbit hole go? I’m not going to participate to find out and you shouldn’t either. Escape the darkness, climb into the light.

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Motivation & Triggers

What is motivation and how is it attained?

Why do some have it while others only dream about having it?

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Motivation derives from the word motives. Motives are basic reasoning behind a specific behavior. So when asked “what is your motivation?” the answer can be really simple or really complicated. Your motive may be fear or excitement. It may be something specific on the surface or something deep that you can’t pinpoint.

Ideally we are all motivated by different means. What encourages some may not encourage others. Some people may be self-motivated while others are motivated in regards to personal rewards and achievements. Personal progress is inspiring. After initially sinking yourself into a transformational system the advancements within the system alone can be enough motivate. The key is to have positive triggers  to enforce good habits rather than negative ones.

The most basic example of a trigger is setting your alarm clock. The effect is obvious but why can’t we manage all of our other habits this way?

Another example of a trigger may be:

  • Turning the coffee pot on instantly the moment you wake up. The effect of this trigger is being more encouraged to make coffee in the morning.
  • Another may be keeping your office space clean and clear of clutter the effect of this being the fact it’s Easier to get down to business whenever necessary.

Pretty simple understanding but your awareness and use these triggers will determine your success. What is your environment like at home? Is it easy for you to pursue a train of thought? Or are you constantly distracted by negative triggers? Some triggers we create ourselves while other triggers may be a pattern due to our subconscious routine.

  • Examples of bad triggers may be sitting on the couch with results in stuffing our faces mindlessly with junk food. Lounging around may trigger sacrificing the whole night to relax considering sitting is so contagious and triggers more sitting.

A trigger such as this may be so subtle we may not even recognize it. Typically all bad behaviors have their triggers and the underlying root cause is typically anger. Understanding these triggers and how we manage ourselves is all part of our own journey of self-actualization.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom” – Aristotle

Self-awareness is prevalent in understanding our place in society. We must find our own motives to our actions and remove all old conditioning patterns. More often then not we establish our habits based on old beliefs. When we have new changes of perspective and paradigm we must revisit our old conditioning and ask ourselves based on my new found beliefs, “is this behavior essential? Am I living in accordance to my current values and beliefs”?

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate” – Carl Jung

Analyze yourself, create action plans and evaluate. Consider giving yourself weekly reviews. Don’t be to critical remember you’re only human; ask yourself, what did you accomplish this week? What could have been improved upon? Where was the most time spent?

Determine and spot your subconscious triggers you may have not previously noticed the week prior. Determine whether the negative triggers can be removed or avoided. Examine your positive triggers, did they work? Did you take any action or disregard the plan entirely? Remember planning is essential but without action nothings possible.

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Blogging – A Healthy Escape

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Blogging is wondrous, what a great idea! It’s funny that it took me so long to jump on board. I’ve always been an enthusiast for computers and the internet but never been one for social media. For someone who over thinks everything blogging is my escape. For someone who thinks as critically about everything such as me blogging is beautiful.

Blogging relieves my concerns and keeps me focused on the future. It allows me to organize my thoughts and put more focus on details.  Blogs help to visualize goals and to clarify the action steps to we need progress.

Blogging creates your story and delivers a platform to reach like-minded individuals. It allows online communities to get to understand the individual (blogger) rather than judging someone from a glimpse at a profile picture.

Blogging is soulful and can be a peaceful meditating experience allowing space for new insights and knowledge. It isn’t for everyone but those willing to commit can definitely develop strong skills and reap a lot of benefits.

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Over Stimulation & Loss of Self Control (2 of 2)

 

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Why is the general population so unhappy? Why do we instantly become envious of other people? Do we live through greed and hate? Have we lost the ability to love and show compassion?

Living according to the celebrity ideals is destructive to one’s well-being. The truth is most people are not in tuned with these patterns of conditioning.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate” – Carl Jung

Its time to find new role models with strong morals. The celebrity attribute most commonly displayed in music videos, movies and TV shows is partying. Self-indulgence at it’s finest.

We have to become aware of the influences we surround ourselves with. Thoughts become things and the ideas we collect will change the way we perceive the world. Collect ideas of lightness, become aware of the dark and be conscious of the threats it imposes.

Choose to live in the light rather than the darkness. Be particular with the media you choose for entertainment. Be aware that shows/movies and music which display passive-aggressiveness (dark humor and sarcastic remarks), violence and images of sex will most definitely take a toll on your overall psych.

Back to Overstimulation & Loss of Self-Control Part 1

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Almost Famous; The Celebrity Influence

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We all have different ideas of how we would like to retire but not all of us live in a way that we will be able to do so. The way we consume day-to-day takes a toll both on our health and our overall financial status.

We live in a day of age where wealth is more emphasized by the things you possess such as clothes, cars and odd commodities rather than actually owning money itself. Instead of collecting savings we’ve chosen to collect debt. We’ve chosen to emphasize lifestyles we can’t afford conforming to the so-called celebrity lifestyle.

Truth is most of us aren’t celebrities and never will be. Most of us aren’t all-star athletes and will never make millions of dollars. Although this truth should be universally known the rise of social media has influenced many to convince themselves they are “almost famous”.

Fame doesn’t bring happiness. Fame is more of an delusional lifestyle that’s sold to fans. Truthfully, a celebrity’s life is not much more spectacular than yours or mine.

Emotional stability and consistency

The biggest advantage celebrities possess is the income and support they receive. They are able to stay on top of their development with numerous coaches, trainers, managers who keep their heads in the game.

Remember we aren’t all raking in the big bucks like celebrities or all-star athletes and most of us likely never will. Thus why we need to be our own coaches, trainers and managers. We need to take initiative to correct our own mistakes day to day. We need to build momentum and keep looking ahead. We harness the power to accomplish great things with consistent action.

To retire healthy and with savings should be the focus for everybody.. so why are we thinking short-sighted?

“Are these things really better than the things I already have? Or am I just trained to be dissatisfied with what I have now?” – Chuck Palahniuk

Back to Diluted Realities – The Ego Illusion Part 1

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