Learning to Accept Today

Self control sucks, why is it we want the things we want so bad? Yet we get mad at ourselves the moment we have at it.

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Some people go their whole lives caught up in addictive behaviour, their whole lives with intentions to quit but never really taking action.

Life and its moments will never be perfect we need to begin today. We need to see today in a new light, free of attachment and desire. Free of the thought “I need _____ to be happy” (fill the blank with whatever it is you abuse)

We all have certain behaviors we wish we could quit; to bad it’s not that easy.

Most of us are conditioned by our environments; it’s easier to accept what is rather than fighting against the current. Whether deliberate or not, subconsciously we adapt to our surroundings making them our reality.

Peer pressure is impossible to overcome if you constantly are bombarded by people you consider influencers. These influencers appear to have it all going for them on the surface yet on the other side of the coin they don’t realize the harm they’re inflicting on themselves in the long-term.

Everyone wants to be happy. You see it everywhere, advertising messages of happiness; it’s what’s being sold. Don’t let anyone sell you on the idea of happiness it’s nothing you can buy or consume.

Happiness comes from taking part in the journey of life, its heart-aches, its ups, downs and everything in between. It’s all a lesson.

The lesson is to become one with suffering and to accept your life as it is. We can’t change the past or future all we can do is act within the very moment we’re given.

Act in the moment, don’t grieve any longer. Don’t let self-sabotaging behaviour control the direction of your life. It’s never to late to start again. It’s never to late to reinvent yourself and change the course of your life.

Start today, start with the intentions to make today better than yesterday. Make everyday better than the last and complete everything you start. Don’t live with resentment of “I didn’t do this” or “I didn’t do that”.

Prioritize with the future in mind, start taking action against anything that’s eating you away. Start scheduling time to do the things that actually matter and following through with your word to do them.

Capitalize on your strengths and refuse to neglect your weaknesses, choose to participate in the journey of life. Choose to grow and develop yourself into something. Build the strongest version of yourself.

Find your grit; find your purpose for starting and don’t let anyone convince you it’s not worthy. Make a mission statement, write it down, and make sure you see it everyday. Use it to remind yourself in remembering the reason you put forth the effort you do. Let it be a symbol of your journey, a reflection of the transformations that are and will be.

 

Reinventing Yourself

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No one said life was easy and it’s apparent its not. If there was one guide to living the best life then no other guide would ever need to be made. If there was a magic pill or some easy way I would have found it by now but trust me there isn’t.

We all search for answers to please us. We question ourselves, we question our purpose. Some of us over time lose ourselves and begin to question our values. Through this self examination we become fixated on things we cannot change rather than things we can. We begin paralyzing ourselves while reflecting on the past or living in hope of the future.

We become our own worst enemies battling with our minds for what we want.

Why do people experience crisis in their lives?

People experience crisis in their lives because they can’t accept the truth of reality. Reality is hard. Reality is tough. More often then not these people have been disillusioned for a greater portion of their lives and are in tough hole to get out of. Inevitably these people come to experience “reality checks” and realize that their life is nothing that they had planned.

Why Plan?

If you don’t give yourself direction the wind will decide for you. Happiness and success isn’t something you just stumble upon its something you strive towards. Living without a plan is like shooting at a dart board with a blindfold on. You may hit your mark but most likely you’re shooting blindly and odds are you’ll never come close to your target.

Guidelines to Managing Action

    • Set daily, monthly, annual and long-term goals.
    • Evaluate your current self. How do you currently spend your time? What could you be doing differently? Can resources be leveraged differently? More efficiently? What are your biggest distractions? Can you practice moderation?
    • Rely on lists. Forget about the traditional to-do lists, instead make day or time specific lists. Any task that is “iffy” in terms of being completed can be organized in a “Someday/Maybe” list.
    • Have a system for your lists. Have a filing system and specific categories. Some categories could possibly be a “projects” list, a “next actions” list and a “waiting for” list.
    • Evaluate based on a weekly review. Ensure your brain is clear and all loose strands of the past few days have been collected, processed, and organized.

Its ALL ABOUT YOU!

Remember that your quality life will look different from my quality life. We are all unique and have different needs and wants from one another. Don’t steal someone else’s vision, create your own. Establish what’s important to you and what’s worth working towards.

Create a system to reach your desired goals. Be specific with the action steps you need to take to get there. Again, consider making lists to identify the new changes you’ll need to make.

Action Steps to Reinventing & Modifying Behaviour

    • Wake Up Early.
    • Make lists everyday.
    • Prioritize your tasks.
    • Complete your lists.
    • Do the hardest tasks first.
    • Tidy & remove all clutter.
    • Think rich. (upbeat, positive and focused)
    • Save 10-20% of your income.
    • Control your thoughts and emotions.
    • Schedule uninterrupted blocks of time.
    • Read & improve your knowledge.
    • Work in 20 minute spurts.
    • Spend less time sitting.

Reinventing yourself takes time don’t move away from the process. Start today not tomorrow. If you can’t take action at this very moment plan proactively. Learn to be reliable and to count on yourself. Get your energy levels up and be healthy. Unplug from all electronics and find quiet time to recharge. There’s no success without failure, take everything you’ve learnt and let it change you. Focus on changing your inner self and the outer world will follow.

existing peacefully