10 Inner Dimensions of Self-Worth

Many of us look outside ourselves with intent on finding things that will make us happy. Sadly this isn’t where true happiness resides; happiness comes from within not “without”. If you’re not happy with yourself in your current circumstances then nothing will make you happy until you flip the switch and decide to be happy with what you’ve got.

Living a selfish life wrecks havoc on our self-esteem and our self-worth; although our esteem may be at an all time low this doesn’t mean it can’t be re-awoken and soar to new heights.

Even if our circumstances are brutal and hard to rise above we must always remember these inner principles to being and improving self-worth:

  1. Strive for better  Each day there are winners and losers, do you consider today a win in the grand scheme of things? Did you step closer to your goals or fall further away?
  2. Push past exhaustion – Just because the elements are not perfect doesn’t mean effort isn’t necessary. Push through doubts, exhaustion and any necessary conflict.
  3. Recognize needs verses wants – Be deliberate with how you utilize your resources. Avoid any vicious cycles of coping with stress, battle your conditions and elicit better (positive) ways to cope.
  4. Recognize workplace success vs. a successful life – Sometimes to have a successful life we must abide by the roles we’ve been given. Don’t squander your opportunities; they may not be ideal but honor each moment with awareness and see where life takes you.
  5. Recognize flawed patterns – Whether these flawed patterns are our negative thinking, over thinking or idolizing material possessions; choose to let go. It is what it is; manage what you’ve been given.
  6. See the good in others – Keep conversations light-hearted, don’t dig into pasts or try to make sense of everything. Validate feelings and give your honest perspective, everyone has a voice that needs to be heard.
  7. See the bigger picture
    a) Everyone wants to belong, everyone is human, and we’re all the same with a few subtle differences. Don’t let differences divide, let differences influence positive change.
    b) Everyone’s got their own problems; running away is never the solution, and not everyone copes well.
  8. Understand we all have bad days – Okay so today wasn’t perfect, that doesn’t mean we have to beat ourselves up. We all have off days but don’t let that discourage you. It’s not easy but try and wake up every morning with a sense of bliss thinking “nothing could be better than it is right now.”
  9. Being the victim is a choice – Attitude is everything. Bring a positive light for all to see but only confide in those who show true loyalty.
  10. Everything happens for a reason – Don’t bask in your failures; mistakes are stepping stones to success. Brush that dust of your shoulder and choose to challenge life.

Ultimately effort is between you and you. If you’re not willing to sacrifice something to get to where you want be honest with yourself. Like stated above “nothing could be better than it is right now”, if you’re not happy with yourself how do you expect to be happy with others and the world around you?

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Self-love is everything; don’t forget your worth.

Here’s some age old wisdom: Love yourself and treat others as you wish to be treated.

W.O.L.F – Warrior of Liberty and Freedom

There are moments of our lives where we feel as though we are in the spotlight… recognition comes, friends, we seem to have all the support we could ever want or need. Then there’s those moments where we’ve fallen. Those moments of struggle where we really need somebody and there’s no one to be found. Sometimes in these moments of struggle we see the true reality which the universe has brought forth.

Through struggle we are able to see on a genuine level who adds true value to your life. Some people are manipulative sociopaths who will try to fool you by any means necessary; not everyone looks to add value to your life, most people are out for themselves looking to get ahead by any means necessary. The truth is most people are superficial and have their own agenda.

Life is short, we’re supposed to be happy but some people need to get off the hamster wheel and realize what’s actually taking place in the grand scheme of things.

On a deep level psychological level people of society’s lives have been predestined. So many people are living according to the invisible script that has been written for them. It’s sad because those who choose to take the “unscripted” path tend to be the one’s who are shunned for their differences.

Those who choose to live the “unscripted” life have a hard road sometimes no one will have faith in one’s vision but the individual has to keep pushing and believing one day will be his day. This is why I classify it as the wolf mentality, life’s tough but we’ve got to be tougher.

Code of the Wolf

Protect your pack,
show no fear,
respect the elder,
teach the young,
lead your companions,
survive each day,
hunt your enemies,
howl to a new tomorrow,
explore the unknown,
adapt to the environment,
demonstrate no weakness,
never back down
and leave your mark.

Raphael Vieira


Why is the W.O.L.F classified as the black sheep of society?

Not only does the wolf have to establish values important to him and his pack but the wolf also has to be strong, fearless and never back down in the face of challenge.

The wolf mentality builds a strong positive presence leaving others in awe and wonder; a fierce mentality can be intimidating to those who live according to life’s predestined script.wolf 4

You know you’re doing it right if people begin hating you for no reason what-so-ever. People will begin questioning your story, your path, and your morals that got you to where you are now; that’s life. There’s always going to be naysayers and people who doubt but it’s up to you to determine your course and sometimes that means moving against the current.

Those who refuse to take action will make excuses and build reasoning for those who managed to accomplish what it was they set their mind to. Let people rationalize their failures all they want, don’t let it affect your being.

People always have their own two-cents when it comes to someone else’s progress, most people will minimize the transformational efforts from a place of envy and hate. Misery loves company and these people will say anything to keep you where you are at this very moment. They don’t want you to improve it’s of no benefit to them. Your improvement only makes them feel less competent and resentful of their own life.

Even when you have nothing your attitude is that one thing still under your control. Don’t be vengeful or jealous of others; choose to focus your energy on building something for yourself. Don’t live in envy and resentment choose to focus your attention on the now and commit to something worth completing.

  • Choose to build; build your knowledge, build your wealth, build your reputation, build your mastermind group, build your network.
  • Choose to create; create positive change, create strong values, create a legacy, create hope and a course of direction for your life.

At the end of the day we have to be accountable for ourselves. It’s up to us the legacy we decide to leave behind as individuals and as a collective. Be the role model and lead by example. Let people make their own decisions just offer value and direction, give it time but gradually those who support you will share your word and follow.

Finding Inner Peace

I’ve been reading Osho’s book “The Inner Journey” and I’m in love. It’s so well written and brings about such great peace.

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The main concept of “The Inner Journey” is the fact that over the course of generations we’ve chosen to neglect the soul. In the book they call it “the navel”, our life-energy.

When born our life-energy comes from our mother through our umbilical cord, after cut we experience our first instance of separation from our mother’s. This first instance of separation will notify whether the baby is healthy or ill. After cutting the cord a healthy baby should cry knowing their life-energy source has gone away. Their life-source up until yesterday is no longer. If a baby doesn’t cry after the cord being cut it is most likely the baby is sick or close to death.

Our greatest source of life-energy comes from our navel, our soul, a function of the body that has been neglected.

Over the course of centuries man has developed his functions subconsciously. We breathe without thinking, eat without thinking, sleep, everything needed to survive we do without thinking.

Sadly over the course of this time man has become corrupted due to the nature of evolution. Man has lost touch with being, lost touch with the navel center, rather we have focused all the attention on the brain.

Over the course of time we overdeveloped the brain and neglected to develop the navel. Eyes can’t hear just as ears can’t see, the brain and navel act the same way; the navel can’t function for the brain and the brain can’t function for the navel, they each have their own purpose. When we choose to neglect the needs of the navel we are putting pressure on the brain to comprehend and rationalize something it doesn’t fully understand.

Man’s brain is the most delicate thing in the world, it handles so much stress it’s a wonder how it doesn’t just break down and become mad. We hardly have any idea how delicate the nerves in the brain are, the nerves which carry the entire burden, the whole weight of life.

In order to access the life-energy of the navel center we must first relax our brain and whole body. The more relaxed the brain is the more sensitive it’ll become, you’ll start hearing and feeling every little thing from the heartbeat to the coming and going of your breath.

Being free of contemplation, free from thoughts is the basis of life. There is no significant process of life that’s related to thinking that’s why it’s so important to get into a deep sleep, so your processes can function without hindrance.

We need to free ourselves of anger; we need to learn to love. We cannot hate and love at the same time they can’t co-exist. Just as the heart cannot live and be at death, the heart cannot hate and love simultaneously.

Man’s mind is like a pendulum from one extreme to another, never staying in the middle.

We must learn to love. We must learn the spectrum of hate, we must understand the absence of hate isn’t love it’s just a lesser hate. We cannot love and hate at the same time; we either live through love or live through hate, one or the other.

Living through hate and anger, the heart center remains undeveloped and the impossible starts happening. What the navel and heart can’t complete the person will attempt to complete with his brain causing even more tension and stress.

Relationships from the brain center are based off intellect and only run so deep. Love is blind and arises from levels so deep it becomes difficult for us to understand the reasons for it. Love based off of intellect will never last; we cannot love through our brain only our heart.

Genuine, true friendship comes from the navel center. Love binds, friendship gives freedom. Friendship does not become someone’s master, it doesn’t imprison, it frees. One who is friend to all will reach the divine sooner or later because his relationships are happening with everyone’s center; soon he will become bound to the navel center of the universe.

The flow of breath changes moment to moment according to your state of mind. Either you change your mind and the breath changes or you change your breath and the mind changes. The deeper and slower you breathe the more your navel center will develop. As long as your breathing remains harmonious your thinking will become less.

Building Self-Esteem & Following Your Word

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It’s crazy what we can accomplish when we really set our minds to something. When all distractions are eliminated and focus is at its peak we’re able to accomplish so much it’s ironic we accomplish so little.

What do you want to get done today? What’s today’s top priority? If you could reflect at the end of the day what is it you want to say you did?

Do you wake up in the morning with achievable goals in mind?

It’s difficult. Not everyone knows what it is they want to accomplish. Most of us have been laying back and relaxing so long we forget we’re capable of achieving.

We neglect ourselves till our self-worth is diminished and we no longer value ourselves. When we neglect action we begin to believe life’s opportunities are based on luck. We begin to believe all power is out of control and things will never change.

Wake up with a sense of purpose. Where do you want to be within a week’s time? A month’s time? Start to live according to your plans.

Build your self-confidence and self-esteem with little steps. Begin with something small and gradually challenge yourself more and more as you build momentum.

Follow your word. Your word is everything to yourself and others.

What is your word? Your word is following through with whatever it is you say you’re going to do. Your word is integrity.

Your word builds other people’s faith in you. Without following through on your word you become unreliable and toxic anchor. Following through with your word you can build the greatest of plans. Following through with your word you can build the strongest of support systems and a favorable reputation.

Where to Begin:

1) Write things down. More often then not we have so much on our plate our brain decides out with the old in with the new. We begin to discard thoughts that deem unimportant to the current situation. If you can’t take action now write it down and take action when the opportunity presents itself.

2) Be honest with yourself and others. Part of following your word is not offering false promises. We have to be honest with what we are truly capable of so we don’t overpromise. Be humble, more often then not its better to undersell that way you can exceed expectations.

3) Have good intentions & strong morals. Life is full of different influences, don’t let them distract you and throw you off. Living according to your values and purpose will become its own reward over time. Don’t deviate.

4) Hope for the best but be realistic. Don’t let doubt limit your potential. When you say you’re going to do something do it with a positive and open mind, don’t let stress get in the way. Choose not to complain or dwell but rather to look at the situation in a new light.

5) Remember the concept of karma. Do unto others as you wish to be done unto yourself. Live life in a purposeful way and gradually you’ll build a network of like-minded individuals. There world is full of infinite possibilities and the internet offers many ways to find social groups. Choose to create and publish, find your niche. Don’t be limited to your local community, get out there.

Remember you can build true value by living through your word. Choose to lead by example, not everyone is ready to live in such a way. Don’t procrastinate, start taking action and conquer anything that plagues you. Don’t let fear stand in the way from you living the life you’ve dreamed of. Start with little steps and begin from there, life doesn’t get easier we just get wiser and better at managing it.

Remember this concept of self-esteem and don’t forget it:

“Self-esteem is like a difficult-to-cultivate flower. It requires frequent nurturing that occurs when you keep your word and follow through on your promises.” Derrick Bell

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Personal Growth & Development

“Lost time is never found again” – Benjamin Franklin

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Success is a small list of daily habits carried out with consistency over an extensive period of time. Ideally we fashion the lives we want with the actions we choose yet most of us are sabotaging ourselves with destructive habits. Its time to wake up and start taking action.

We all use our time differently and these differences will determine the course of where our life will flow. Choosing to wake up never intently thinking about the future we tend to lead ourselves down a rabbit hole we cannot escape. Gradually our self-destructive habits take a toll on our resources and our self-esteem creating an uncontrollable downward spiral which usually leads to reckless spending and consumer debt. The effects of debt can be soul-crushing making the future appear hopeless.

We must consciously choose to look at our choices with a long-term approach in mind.

“People do not lack strength, they lack will” – Victor Hugo

Distractions are everywhere. From binge watching TV shows to never getting off social media many individuals are wasting their time gaining no benefit from their actions. More often then not these individuals are sick of their monotonous routine and actually experience negative side effects yet they continue to live the same patterns.

We all have our strengths and our weaknesses but it’s up to us to take personal responsibility for our own growth. Once we stop stretching our comfort zones our lives become plain and dull. We need to create a plan of action to accomplishing what we believe is possible or else we will never get there.

Don’t live hoping, wishing and ultimately regretting. Take action and see what’s possible. You determine your own worth. If time is money then don’t let yours be wasted, be conscious with how you manage it. Determine what you’re willing to sacrifice for the greater good and take progressional steps to get there.

Before embarking on your soulful journey be sure to consider the following:

  1.  Transformational change begins with your attitude.
    Be positive and have faith that your circumstances will become better with time.
  2. Make your goals clear.
    What do you want to achieve and how are you going to get there?
  3. Evaluate your current support system.
    Do the people around you support your new goals and ideas or are they discouraging?
  4. Create/find a safe haven conducive to your growth.
    Find an efficient place you can be alone; somewhere to reflect, think and be productive.
  5. Start everyday with a plan.
    Evaluate and plan everything you need to accomplish the night prior
    Prioritize your tasks as efficiently as possible
  6. Set the mood for your day.
    Find a way to make your mornings joyful whether it be reading, writing, listen to music or engaging in physical activity.
  7. Enjoy the process.
    “Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is more important than the outcome” – Arthur Ashe. Remember to have fun along the way or you’ll soon lose your “umph” and inspiration to persevere.
  8. Do what works for you.
    Everyone’s vision of success is different. Don’t let people persuade you off the right path. Remember your values and what you’re ultimately trying to obtain. Remember not to stress take life as it comes, you can never plan for everything. Be flexible but always considerate of how your actions affect others.
  9. Learn from the best.
    Whether it be the best teachers or the best sources, choose to go straight to the source whenever possible. Don’t believe everyone tells you. Question everything; learn to make up your own mind if there’s no evidence pertaining to the circumstance.
  10.  Be humble in the face of humility.
    Don’t rationalize why you failed instead re-evaluate how the situation could be done differently and act. Don’t complain or go into a negative state of mind, learn from your mistakes.
  11.  Be consistently persistent.
    Get up when you get knocked down. No pain no gain; we stand back up only to grow stronger if we’re willing to learn from our mistakes.
  12.  Read, read and read some more.
    By other’s faults wise men correct their own.

Information is everywhere there’s never been a better time to learn for free. Whether it be online pdfs, audio books or credible articles the power is at our fingertips and is more available than ever.

“The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance, it is the illusion of knowledge” – Daniel Boorstin

Always have good intentions and seek to understand the knowledge parted. If you know you’re doing the right thing don’t let others convince you otherwise. Be confident in your ability and act with conviction. Don’t let anyone stand in the way on your path to becoming your best self.

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Book Summary – Laws of Growth by John C. Maxwell

1_1_1 laws of growthMisconceptions about growth that may be holding you back. “I assume I will automatically grow”, “I don’t know how to grow”, “it’s not the right time to begin”, “I’m afraid of making mistakes”, “I have to find the best way before I start”, “I don’t feel like doing it”, “others are better than I am”, “I thought it would be easier than this”.

Start today, start taking responsibility to grow; responsibility for your own personal development. Transition from accidental growth to intentional growth by asking the big questions now. Where do you want to go in life? What direction? What’s the furthest you see yourself going?

Fight for good habits and rely on hard work to keep them there. Focus on positive self talk, stop comparing yourself to others and move beyond your limiting beliefs. Start building a positive network, if you want to start feeling valuable add value to others.

Remember there’s always time to slow down and pause. Learning to pause allows growth to catch up with you turning experiences into insight. Schedule time to pause and reflect or it will always get knocked off your to-do list.

Ask yourself. Do you know what you need to improve? Do you know how you are supposed to improve? Do you know why you want to keep improving? Be conscious of the journey not the destination, growth is lifelong and you will constantly change beyond your goals. It’s difficult to remain engaged into anything if you haven’t found a way to value and appreciate the process.

Assess the environment. Is the environment conducive to learning? Ask yourself questions that help you to understand who and what nurtures you personally and figure out if you’re getting those things. Ask yourself, what songs lift me? What ideas speak to me? What experiences rejuvenate me? What people encourage me? What activities revive me? What spiritual exercises strengthen me? And so on and so on. Change your environment to suit you and be deliberate with whom you spend your time with. Challenge yourself and focus on the moment, moving forward despite criticism.

Create a system where you can flourish, constantly reprioritizing while taking the big picture into account. Be organized and precise with your deadlines, an effective system promotes consistency. Embrace the value of bad experiences as a learning tool. No pain no gain, time to start taking responsibility for your life.

Build your strong character and rely on it. Inside victories precede outside ones. Our inside development is totally within our control. Follow the golden rule – people matter. Only teach what you believe – passions matter. Value humanity above all virtues – perspective matters. Recognize everyone has a weakness. Be teachable and willing to serve others. Strive to finish well – faithfulness matters.

Stretch your comfort zones. Settling for the status quo leads to dissatisfaction. Set yourself apart from others. Change starts internally. Let stretching become your lifestyle.

Consider trade-offs. Be willing to give up immediate gratification for personal growth. Give up the fast life for the good life. It’s important to know what you are not willing to give up just as it is to know what you are willing to give up. What trade do you need to make but have been unwilling to make? Most people settle in and learn to live with a limitation or barrier that can be removed by making a trade.

Cultivate curiosity, approach life the way a child does; with a beginner’s mind set. Make why your favorite word. Learn something new everyday, grow through failure. Get out of the box and start enjoying life. Learn something that takes you completely out of your comfort zone, just be certain that it’s something you’ll find fun.

Stop thinking “can I?” And start thinking “how can I?” Stop thinking “more work” and start thinking “what works”. Stop thinking “one door” and start thinking “many doors”. Stop doing only things you’ve done before start doing the things you could and should do. Start doing more than what’s expected. Stop doing things occasionally and start doing things daily. Give yourself an effectiveness audit so you can be sure of what you’re thinking.

Ultimately the overall message of this book is to focus on self-development not self-fulfillment. Don’t let objects or people own you. Keep growing and keep giving. Make the decision to put others ahead of your own agenda. Serve others instead of yourself. Sometimes the seeds you sow take long to grow but you always see a harvest.

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Managing Stress & Living in the Present

How we manage stress will have the biggest impact on our quality of life.

Do you constantly dwell on the past?

Are you always rationalizing outcomes for the future?

Do you feel stuck? Do you feel lost?

Do you feel like you have no control over your current circumstances?

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The truth is most people feel this way. We must learn how to cope with stress or it can quickly take over your life.

The first step in managing stress levels is choosing how we to react to difficult circumstances. Choose not to complain and instead grab the bull by the horns.  Focus on the now. Forget the past, the future, stop overthinking and start taking action.

Second step, be deliberate with the company you keep. Not everyone knows how to manage stress and those who refuse grow will never learn. Avoid toxic relationships, avoid people who just want to use you, avoid building relationships with people who are self-destructive.

Make old friends acquintances if they no longer support your new way of living. Lead by example and if they are meant to follow along for the journey they will. Dont wait up.

You are responsible for your own personal development and noone else. Our parents did their jobs to raise us as children now its our turn to grow as young adults.

“Stress is caused from being here but wanting to be there” – Eckhart Tolle

Start living in the now. Take small steps towards a greater future. Face your fears and don’t get down on yourself. Do you, people appreciate novelty and cherish anyone who’s not afraid to be themselves. Stop being afraid of being different we’re all unique and thats what makes us who we are. Differences should be celebrated.

Stop stressing about life and start having fun and enjoying it.

“Wherever you are be all there.” – Jim Elliot

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