Path of Least Resistance

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It’s so easy to get inside your head and convince yourself not to do something. Its so easy to let fear control us. Its so easy to begin something and then to just put it down. It’s easy to give up when things get tough. But what’s easy isn’t always what’s right.

More often then not we opt to take the path of least resistance. Its just so much easier to be free of criticism or judgement from others. A lot of us battle ourselves everyday, the last thing we want to do is rub people the wrong way and create more conflict. As a means of avoiding conflict and failure its easier just to ignore the possibilities of what could be. It’s easier for us to hold onto our pent up emotions and accept what is rather than going against the current.

Conditioned by our thoughts of conformity we begin to believe the limitations of our parents, peers and authority. We begin to feel content with our environment and accept it as the true reality. We learn to live with our problems rather than to learning to adapt to inevitable changes.

Rather than enjoying the fruits of our labour we are frozen by action left to contemplate and rationalize every possible excuse as to why we failed. Remaining frozen in action living with sadness and anger we allow our failure to define us depleting us of all available resources. Living with this depletion of resources we remain in an unstable environment that lacks structure, support and personal growth.

Struggling to be happy we remain stagnate and actually begin show signs of physical and mental decline. We begin to lose our purpose and reshuffle our priorities. We begin to see life through a short lens living as if we were to die tomorrow.

Greed and immediate gratification become all so important. Being that we are unhappy and discontent with our environment we turn to selfish behaviour that promotes dopamine production. Ideally the thought is “I’d rather be happy” but this is such a short-sighted statement. In the long-run feeding our senses becomes toxic and poisonous to the individual. Immediate gratification becomes self-sabotage and this quickly becomes a deeply engrained pattern.

We begin to forget about our dreams and lose faith altogether. We lose purpose and our reasons for being. We begin thinking “is this really all that life is”. Unable to feel true happiness due to the fact the pleasure centers of the brain have been overloaded day in and day out we begin to feel hopeless and burnt out.

Life’s tough but it’s time to grab the bull by the horns. If you don’t begin to start taking action fear will guide you down a dark path. Don’t let fear back you into a corner you can’t get out of.

Take control of your life. Take control of your health. Take control of your finances. Your problems will begin a snowball effect if you choose to neglect them. Refuse to turn the other cheek, stay on top of monitoring your progress.

Stretch your comfort zones and get comfortable doing so. Remember, a house cat is not your spirit animal, your spirit animal is fierce, intimidating and never backs down.

The path of least resistance is an emotional unstable journey which guarantees jealousy and resentment. How far down does the rabbit hole go? I’m not going to participate to find out and you shouldn’t either. Escape the darkness, climb into the light.

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Getting/Staying Motivated

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Getting inspired is different for everyone, what inspires me might not even interest you. For me, inspiration comes from engaging in new music, new read materials or personal achievements. Taking part in my personal development journey my physical and mental growth is its own reward.

Being motivated and staying determined is never easy but can be managed well if you know what you’re doing. It’s hard to know what steps to take if you don’t know where you’re going which is why having a clear vision is so important.

What is it you’re trying to accomplish? When you think about the challenge how does it make you feel?

Thinking about the challenge should give you a rush of adrenaline. Don’t let your negative thoughts beat you up. Embrace your challenges with a sense of excitement, each opportunity is a chance to learn and try something new.

Challenges are a blessing in disguise but It’s all on how you choose look at it. You can choose to dwell at the thought of challenge or you can choose to find your fire inside and release your inner warrior.

How you view challenge will determine your levels of stress. Stress is the enemy, don’t live with the enemy.

Focus on aspects under your control. Have a plan, be proactive, and always be ready to take the next step. Remember life will knock you down multiple times before you’re even able to sniff what it is you’re working towards. The key is perseverance, always getting back up. Don’t let failure define you instead let it guide you on how to approach the next step.

Believe in yourself and stay poised you will overcome your current situation in time. Have faith in yourself, if it was easy everyone would do it. If you find strong self-purpose and value in something don’t let anyone influence your perspective.

Always keep the end in mind and remember your core principles. It’s easy to get lost and forget our purpose behind our actions when we don’t receive immediate rewards. Remember to maintain a long-term perspective think today’s sacrifices can be tomorrow’s blessings if you act accordingly.

Life’s not fair, we can’t always set out to do everything we wish to but what’s important is we try to do everything we possibly can. Don’t live with regrets and unwanted tension. Stay determined and choose to participate in altering the course of your life for the better. Choose to be hopeful and live with purpose each and every day.

Choose to practice daily, practice whatever it is you wish to better yourself in. Let your progression move you. Reflect on how far you’ve come and toast to how far you’ll go. Be humble and appreciate every step along the way.

Challenge yourself; challenge yourself to learn all you can, to beat your own personal records, to be fully independent, challenge yourself to be a balanced whole person. Most of all challenge yourself to rise to the occasion and never give up.

Life’s not easy; don’t resort to feeling content with your unhappiness. If you’re not happy with your current situation do something about it.

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Progression & The Bigger Picture

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For some personal growth comes easy, for others it the idea feels gut-wrenching and the thought of even taking action makes us feel discusted with ourselves. Really, you can choose to live in the dumps because you don’t have everything you want or you can make a stand. Its up to you to decide today’s the day everything’s going to change. Decide that If you fail, you’ll just begin again and nothing can keep you from achieving what you truly believe is possible.

The lust for better achievement is something that is developed through continuous action. Not everybody seeks to improve themselves, not everybody is motivated to run a marathon or go to the gym everyday. We all find our own ways to feel like we’ve achieved something.

Video game developers take full advantage of this. The need for progression is integrated into almost all video games now-a-days. Our need of self-mastery and achievement fuel our egos making video games rewarding and highly addictive.

Decide your focus, be specific with what it is you want to achieve and what areas of your self you want to improve. Be clear and distinguish what action steps need to be taken to meet this accomplishment.

Establish a vision you can begin to work towards through consistent action. Dedicate yourself to action. Eliminate distractions but remember to have fun when you need it. Remember balance is key to a happy and successful life.

Analyze yourself determine whether you’re taking the action steps needed. Are you letting your emotions interfere with taking action? Remember, either way change is inevitable, choose to take part of the creation process or to learn to accept what is. You cannot be angry at something you do not choose to change. Begin to take responsibility for yourself and let logic guide you through the puzzle of life. Learn to monitor and alter your moods whenever needed. Find a quiet place, listen to music, get your pump on, whatever it is get into your zone each and every day.

Controlling your emotions means setting the mood for whatever it is you need to do. Get psyched up then get down to business. Remember to put first things first and to always choose the best rational.

Let go of stress, you’re going to fail its inevitable. Choose to fail putting your best foot forward. When you fall remember pain is only temporary – No pain, no gain – It’s a stepping stone to success so embrace it. Just breathe. Forget about your worries, let go of your expectations just be at ease with what is. Sometimes life can throw a lot at us but we need to remember to focus on the bigger picture.

Commit yourself; what do you have to lose? Are your problems really as bad as they seem? What’s standing in your way from action? Most of the time our problems really aren’t what they seem. Choose to see your situation from a different perspective. Learn to live in the moment and put your thoughts away. Don’t let the voice inside your head distract you from enjoying and being your best self.

You are the ruler, don’t let the tiny voices push you around. You’re in command of this spaceship, now take off and fly.

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Creating a Vision

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Without imagination we are unable to see into tomorrow, without imagination we must live with our pains and are forced to live the day-to-day reality hopelessly. With imagination we are able to establish a vision and more able to customize ourselves to acquire the tools needed to thrive in tomorrow’s world. With vision and imagination we are able to project the potential concerns and able to make the changes needed to succeed.

Imagination and a creative approach to problem solving is essential but without willpower nothing is possible.

Willpower is everything. Its the ability to do what needs to be done rather than doing what would be prefferred as more enjoyable. Life isn’t easy. One of my favorite sayings is from a Billy Ocean song “when the going gets tough the tough get going”. Willpower is the ability to perservere through hard times, through struggles and adversity; its the difference between someone reaching their potential or not.

Willpower is action and without action we are left in our minds to speculate. Refuse to speculate choose to participate instead.

Participate by creating a plan of action:

  1. Stop to consider where you want to see yourself within 1 year, 3 years and 5+ years.
    Determine what you hope to have accomplished within these periods of time.
  2. Fill in the gaps
    What are your strengths and weaknesses and where can you improve?
    Determine which skills are necessary and which are irrelevant moving forward.
    What will need to be learnt that could potentially increase earning potential?
  3. Be proactive
    Consider all the threats and situations that may arise. Have strategies planned for dealing with these issues.
  4. Determine short, medium & long term goals. Be realistic and reasonable.
    “God grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Reinhold Niebuhr.
  5. Create milestones & rewards
    Break down each goal step-by-step. Determine a proper course of action in order to have these goals accomplished within the given timeframe. Reward yourself in new and exciting ways when you finish on time.
  6. Revise, Re-evaluate and Reorganize.
    Determine whether your plan of action was reliable and efficient.
    What worked? What didn’t work? What could have been done better?

Your plan of action is a rule of measurement which we can more precisely evaluate or progression towards our goals. Be realistic with your plan. If you refuse to follow your plan of action don’t expect to reach your goals, its your choice.

Your plan of action should inspire the next step towards your vision. Actions should never wander aimlessly because the next step is clear and specific.

“Where there is no vision there is no hope” – George Washington Carver

Decide on a vision and do everything within your power to get there. Be resourceful overcome and persevere. All you have is this moment. Your future is created by what you do now not tomorrow. Don’t sell yourself short of what you’re worth. Love yourself, take action and begin now.

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Personal Growth & Development

“Lost time is never found again” – Benjamin Franklin

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Success is a small list of daily habits carried out with consistency over an extensive period of time. Ideally we fashion the lives we want with the actions we choose yet most of us are sabotaging ourselves with destructive habits. Its time to wake up and start taking action.

We all use our time differently and these differences will determine the course of where our life will flow. Choosing to wake up never intently thinking about the future we tend to lead ourselves down a rabbit hole we cannot escape. Gradually our self-destructive habits take a toll on our resources and our self-esteem creating an uncontrollable downward spiral which usually leads to reckless spending and consumer debt. The effects of debt can be soul-crushing making the future appear hopeless.

We must consciously choose to look at our choices with a long-term approach in mind.

“People do not lack strength, they lack will” – Victor Hugo

Distractions are everywhere. From binge watching TV shows to never getting off social media many individuals are wasting their time gaining no benefit from their actions. More often then not these individuals are sick of their monotonous routine and actually experience negative side effects yet they continue to live the same patterns.

We all have our strengths and our weaknesses but it’s up to us to take personal responsibility for our own growth. Once we stop stretching our comfort zones our lives become plain and dull. We need to create a plan of action to accomplishing what we believe is possible or else we will never get there.

Don’t live hoping, wishing and ultimately regretting. Take action and see what’s possible. You determine your own worth. If time is money then don’t let yours be wasted, be conscious with how you manage it. Determine what you’re willing to sacrifice for the greater good and take progressional steps to get there.

Before embarking on your soulful journey be sure to consider the following:

  1.  Transformational change begins with your attitude.
    Be positive and have faith that your circumstances will become better with time.
  2. Make your goals clear.
    What do you want to achieve and how are you going to get there?
  3. Evaluate your current support system.
    Do the people around you support your new goals and ideas or are they discouraging?
  4. Create/find a safe haven conducive to your growth.
    Find an efficient place you can be alone; somewhere to reflect, think and be productive.
  5. Start everyday with a plan.
    Evaluate and plan everything you need to accomplish the night prior
    Prioritize your tasks as efficiently as possible
  6. Set the mood for your day.
    Find a way to make your mornings joyful whether it be reading, writing, listen to music or engaging in physical activity.
  7. Enjoy the process.
    “Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is more important than the outcome” – Arthur Ashe. Remember to have fun along the way or you’ll soon lose your “umph” and inspiration to persevere.
  8. Do what works for you.
    Everyone’s vision of success is different. Don’t let people persuade you off the right path. Remember your values and what you’re ultimately trying to obtain. Remember not to stress take life as it comes, you can never plan for everything. Be flexible but always considerate of how your actions affect others.
  9. Learn from the best.
    Whether it be the best teachers or the best sources, choose to go straight to the source whenever possible. Don’t believe everyone tells you. Question everything; learn to make up your own mind if there’s no evidence pertaining to the circumstance.
  10.  Be humble in the face of humility.
    Don’t rationalize why you failed instead re-evaluate how the situation could be done differently and act. Don’t complain or go into a negative state of mind, learn from your mistakes.
  11.  Be consistently persistent.
    Get up when you get knocked down. No pain no gain; we stand back up only to grow stronger if we’re willing to learn from our mistakes.
  12.  Read, read and read some more.
    By other’s faults wise men correct their own.

Information is everywhere there’s never been a better time to learn for free. Whether it be online pdfs, audio books or credible articles the power is at our fingertips and is more available than ever.

“The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance, it is the illusion of knowledge” – Daniel Boorstin

Always have good intentions and seek to understand the knowledge parted. If you know you’re doing the right thing don’t let others convince you otherwise. Be confident in your ability and act with conviction. Don’t let anyone stand in the way on your path to becoming your best self.

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Healing Power of Writing

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Since I began writing my blogs I have felt this enormous sense of ease that has taken over my life. Still I run into my occasional problem but nothing I can’t come to understand. Blogging to me has helped me tremendously by giving me a different perspective when tackling my problems.

Writing has a profound effect when immersed creatively. As an author of an expressive piece of writing a lot of relevant insight into one’s life can be gathered. Writing can have a therapeutic effect improving mood, well-being and reducing stress. Reflecting and writing about good things can help us to feel more positive and motivated while also balancing the mental tabs of an overcrowded mind.

Writing about certain topics can help an author to gain insight into his/her priorities to better understand his/her emotional reaction. Expressive writing is thought to help enhance self-regulation and facilitate mental health. Whether reflecting on positive aspects of life trauma or visualizing our best possible self, writing allows individuals to examine a previously unexamined part of their lives.

Trauma writing is predicated on the idea we must revisit, re-experience and re-evaluate past traumas to release pent-up emotion and to really let go. When we choose to hold back from sharing our traumatic events we tend to experience chronic autonomic arousal and immune function deterioration. Writing can be an outlet to deal with pain rather than just blocking it out.

BPS or best possible self-based writing tends to bring awareness to ourselves when considering higher-level goals. Writing about our best personal self allows us to clarify our goals while reorganizing priorities and deciding on values. BPS writing appears to offer the same therapeutic benefits as trauma-based writing without the damper on mood.

“I write because I don’t know what I think until I read what I say” – Flannery O’Connor

Writing is a journey and can be a vessel to take you from point A to point B. If you’re feeling writer’s block remember to just let it flow. Write on whatever topic is concerning you this very moment. Write about where you would love to see yourself in the future. Write about your dream vacations, your dream home and your dream job. Write about writing. Write about psychology, spirituality or health. Write blogs about blogs. For the love of God just write and see where it takes you.

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Blogging – A Healthy Escape

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Blogging is wondrous, what a great idea! It’s funny that it took me so long to jump on board. I’ve always been an enthusiast for computers and the internet but never been one for social media. For someone who over thinks everything blogging is my escape. For someone who thinks as critically about everything such as me blogging is beautiful.

Blogging relieves my concerns and keeps me focused on the future. It allows me to organize my thoughts and put more focus on details.  Blogs help to visualize goals and to clarify the action steps to we need progress.

Blogging creates your story and delivers a platform to reach like-minded individuals. It allows online communities to get to understand the individual (blogger) rather than judging someone from a glimpse at a profile picture.

Blogging is soulful and can be a peaceful meditating experience allowing space for new insights and knowledge. It isn’t for everyone but those willing to commit can definitely develop strong skills and reap a lot of benefits.

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