Path of Least Resistance

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It’s so easy to get inside your head and convince yourself not to do something. Its so easy to let fear control us. Its so easy to begin something and then to just put it down. It’s easy to give up when things get tough. But what’s easy isn’t always what’s right.

More often then not we opt to take the path of least resistance. Its just so much easier to be free of criticism or judgement from others. A lot of us battle ourselves everyday, the last thing we want to do is rub people the wrong way and create more conflict. As a means of avoiding conflict and failure its easier just to ignore the possibilities of what could be. It’s easier for us to hold onto our pent up emotions and accept what is rather than going against the current.

Conditioned by our thoughts of conformity we begin to believe the limitations of our parents, peers and authority. We begin to feel content with our environment and accept it as the true reality. We learn to live with our problems rather than to learning to adapt to inevitable changes.

Rather than enjoying the fruits of our labour we are frozen by action left to contemplate and rationalize every possible excuse as to why we failed. Remaining frozen in action living with sadness and anger we allow our failure to define us depleting us of all available resources. Living with this depletion of resources we remain in an unstable environment that lacks structure, support and personal growth.

Struggling to be happy we remain stagnate and actually begin show signs of physical and mental decline. We begin to lose our purpose and reshuffle our priorities. We begin to see life through a short lens living as if we were to die tomorrow.

Greed and immediate gratification become all so important. Being that we are unhappy and discontent with our environment we turn to selfish behaviour that promotes dopamine production. Ideally the thought is “I’d rather be happy” but this is such a short-sighted statement. In the long-run feeding our senses becomes toxic and poisonous to the individual. Immediate gratification becomes self-sabotage and this quickly becomes a deeply engrained pattern.

We begin to forget about our dreams and lose faith altogether. We lose purpose and our reasons for being. We begin thinking “is this really all that life is”. Unable to feel true happiness due to the fact the pleasure centers of the brain have been overloaded day in and day out we begin to feel hopeless and burnt out.

Life’s tough but it’s time to grab the bull by the horns. If you don’t begin to start taking action fear will guide you down a dark path. Don’t let fear back you into a corner you can’t get out of.

Take control of your life. Take control of your health. Take control of your finances. Your problems will begin a snowball effect if you choose to neglect them. Refuse to turn the other cheek, stay on top of monitoring your progress.

Stretch your comfort zones and get comfortable doing so. Remember, a house cat is not your spirit animal, your spirit animal is fierce, intimidating and never backs down.

The path of least resistance is an emotional unstable journey which guarantees jealousy and resentment. How far down does the rabbit hole go? I’m not going to participate to find out and you shouldn’t either. Escape the darkness, climb into the light.

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Getting/Staying Motivated

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Getting inspired is different for everyone, what inspires me might not even interest you. For me, inspiration comes from engaging in new music, new read materials or personal achievements. Taking part in my personal development journey my physical and mental growth is its own reward.

Being motivated and staying determined is never easy but can be managed well if you know what you’re doing. It’s hard to know what steps to take if you don’t know where you’re going which is why having a clear vision is so important.

What is it you’re trying to accomplish? When you think about the challenge how does it make you feel?

Thinking about the challenge should give you a rush of adrenaline. Don’t let your negative thoughts beat you up. Embrace your challenges with a sense of excitement, each opportunity is a chance to learn and try something new.

Challenges are a blessing in disguise but It’s all on how you choose look at it. You can choose to dwell at the thought of challenge or you can choose to find your fire inside and release your inner warrior.

How you view challenge will determine your levels of stress. Stress is the enemy, don’t live with the enemy.

Focus on aspects under your control. Have a plan, be proactive, and always be ready to take the next step. Remember life will knock you down multiple times before you’re even able to sniff what it is you’re working towards. The key is perseverance, always getting back up. Don’t let failure define you instead let it guide you on how to approach the next step.

Believe in yourself and stay poised you will overcome your current situation in time. Have faith in yourself, if it was easy everyone would do it. If you find strong self-purpose and value in something don’t let anyone influence your perspective.

Always keep the end in mind and remember your core principles. It’s easy to get lost and forget our purpose behind our actions when we don’t receive immediate rewards. Remember to maintain a long-term perspective think today’s sacrifices can be tomorrow’s blessings if you act accordingly.

Life’s not fair, we can’t always set out to do everything we wish to but what’s important is we try to do everything we possibly can. Don’t live with regrets and unwanted tension. Stay determined and choose to participate in altering the course of your life for the better. Choose to be hopeful and live with purpose each and every day.

Choose to practice daily, practice whatever it is you wish to better yourself in. Let your progression move you. Reflect on how far you’ve come and toast to how far you’ll go. Be humble and appreciate every step along the way.

Challenge yourself; challenge yourself to learn all you can, to beat your own personal records, to be fully independent, challenge yourself to be a balanced whole person. Most of all challenge yourself to rise to the occasion and never give up.

Life’s not easy; don’t resort to feeling content with your unhappiness. If you’re not happy with your current situation do something about it.

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Being Healthy

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Is exercising really worth being healthy? How much exercising is necessary to “be healthy”? What other opportunities come with being healthy? How do I start? these are the questions I’ll be answering in this article. A lot of people associate being healthy with being rich or having money. Having money or being rich isn’t really relevant to being healthy. Being healthy is under our own control whether rich or poor. Of course the rich will have access to possible resources the rest of us don’t but ultimately we all need to suffer the same to get to where we want to be.

Essentially being healthy is triumphant when considering quality of life. Having strong health we are better able to take on physical adventures and endure mental turmoil. With better health we are able to embrace and fully enjoy life as it is meant to be.

Neglecting to take care of one self is psychologically destructive. Stress makes its ways into our lives when we begin to live outside of our means. When we start obsessing over material things we forget to manage our basic necessities. We forget about what’s actually important in the long-run and instead begin to live through our senses. With willpower at an all time low our struggles become too much to endure until we find a new means of relieving the stress. Essentially when we neglect to care for ourselves we run the trouble of living the same dopamine loop cycle. So focused on our fixes we spiral so out of control that we are no longer able to manage ourselves. To a point where we no longer love ourselves or anyone else around us. To the point where we begin to blame others and society for our issues. To the point life seems meaningless and you feel hopeless suffocating yourself in your worries.

This is why taking care of you is so important. It’s not about being the best looking person on the planet or having a hulk-like physique. It’s about appreciating who you are and taking control of your life. It’s about knowing you can overcome whatever obstacle whether physical or mental.

Being healthy is about thinking clearly and moving away from negative thoughts. Take control; don’t let negative thoughts influence self-destructive behavior. Learn to move past regret and to live with faith rather than doubt. Take action everyday and see what’s possible. See what you’re capable of. You may (and probably will) accomplish feats you never thought possible.

A healthy lifestyle will impact you emotionally, psychologically and physically. It’s a life-changing transformation and there’s no better time to begin than right now. Remember you don’t have to commit to the gym 2 hours a day, commit to 30 minutes and include exercise in daily life. Incorporate healthy living in your lifestyle choose to walk, bike or roller-blade to work rather than driving. Choose adventurous activities for you and your spouse or family, go kayaking, hiking, or mountain climbing. Spend a night out in the woods. Start living with a sense of adventure and with the best of hope.

It’s never to late to reinvent yourself. Today could be the day it all changed. Remember when you get knocked down it’s never to late to get back up.

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Understanding Laughter

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Laughter has become a natural instinct; the blind, deaf, even some infants laugh before they are 2 months old. It is more common we laugh in social settings than when we’re alone. Even laughing gas loses it’s “oomph” when taken in solitude.

Men claim to chuckle and women claim to giggle yet most laughter isn’t from jokes but from spending time with family and friends. Humour helps us to build stronger connections and to build rapport.

Laughter harmlessly releases negative emotions such as anger, sadness and fear. If you can laugh at a situation your upsets may not seem as important as they once did. Finding humour in our circumstances can help us to cope with the stress or even relieve most of the tension. Laughter can be of the “ha-ha-ha” variety or the “ho-ho-ho” type but not a mixture of both.

Humour increases learning and retention, not to mention it’s engaging and uses the whole brain. Some professors or teachers use humour in their lectures as a means of controlling the emotional climate of a group.

There are several obvious differences in what people find humorous, the most significant seems to be age. From infants and children our appreciation for “toilet humour”, pre-teens/teenage years tend to laugh at jokes that focus on sex, food and any subject that adults consider off-limits to mature adults where our sense of humour is more developed. As mature adults we tend to laugh at other people and ourselves in shared common predicaments and embarrassments. Basically we laugh at issues that stress us out.

Another factor determining what’s funny to us or not is culture. There are economic, political and social issues that are not easy to laugh at which only people living in that culture can understand. United States may be the exception of this rule due to the much observed media and movies. Most people know what’s going on there so jokes about the United States are shared and enjoyed pretty much across the globe.

For someone to take offense to a joke he/she must have some attachment to the principle or the person is being put down in the joke. Racist and sexist jokes are offensive to many people who feel strongly about fighting bigotry and prejudice in the world so they should be avoided altogether.

“Your attitude is like a box of crayons that color the world. Constantly use gray colors and your picture will always be dark and depressing. Use humor to add bright colors and your picture begins to lighten up” – Allen Klein

Start laughing at life. Laugh at the stresses, laugh at the uncommon, laugh through the hard times, laugh through the good times. Laughing can be a life-saver easing stress, lowering blood pressure and elevating your mood. Laughing has a cleansing effect similar to deep-breathing allowing us to rejuvenate and regenerate our energy. Laughing makes us feel good and allows us to have fun while also connecting to those around us.

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Almost Famous; The Celebrity Influence

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We all have different ideas of how we would like to retire but not all of us live in a way that we will be able to do so. The way we consume day-to-day takes a toll both on our health and our overall financial status.

We live in a day of age where wealth is more emphasized by the things you possess such as clothes, cars and odd commodities rather than actually owning money itself. Instead of collecting savings we’ve chosen to collect debt. We’ve chosen to emphasize lifestyles we can’t afford conforming to the so-called celebrity lifestyle.

Truth is most of us aren’t celebrities and never will be. Most of us aren’t all-star athletes and will never make millions of dollars. Although this truth should be universally known the rise of social media has influenced many to convince themselves they are “almost famous”.

Fame doesn’t bring happiness. Fame is more of an delusional lifestyle that’s sold to fans. Truthfully, a celebrity’s life is not much more spectacular than yours or mine.

Emotional stability and consistency

The biggest advantage celebrities possess is the income and support they receive. They are able to stay on top of their development with numerous coaches, trainers, managers who keep their heads in the game.

Remember we aren’t all raking in the big bucks like celebrities or all-star athletes and most of us likely never will. Thus why we need to be our own coaches, trainers and managers. We need to take initiative to correct our own mistakes day to day. We need to build momentum and keep looking ahead. We harness the power to accomplish great things with consistent action.

To retire healthy and with savings should be the focus for everybody.. so why are we thinking short-sighted?

“Are these things really better than the things I already have? Or am I just trained to be dissatisfied with what I have now?” – Chuck Palahniuk

Back to Diluted Realities – The Ego Illusion Part 1

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Breaking Illusions & Finding Strength

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Why are we concerned with everything that hasn’t happened yet? We are worried about circumstances and situations that haven’t and may not ever take effect. Why is depression and anxiety becoming so common?

With constant overthinking we are constantly focused on the “what ifs” and the “unlimited possibilities” that our fear imposes rather than focusing on the opportunities that arise day to day. Living in fear we begin to rationalize every reason why our hopes and goals will never work out. As soon as we think we make progress facing our demons another roadblock persists. Fear has taken control of the general population like a grappling hook, one by one isolating victims dragging them down deeper and deeper into a dark hole they could never escape.

Why is obesity a leading cause for disease when it can be avoided? Why do we need to spend money in order to uphold an image or feel relevant? Why do most people suffer from addiction(s)? Most importantly why do we learn to accept our fears as our reality?

We rationalize every reason why we can’t do something and these become our subconscious beliefs. We one by one work our way through our limiting thoughts only to find another has taken its place.

It’s time to stop making excuses for yourself, It’s time to get out of your head and into your body. Start taking action. It’s time to convince yourself you deserve better.

Start loving yourself and seeing the value for what you’re worth. Start living through your word, your word to yourself and your word to others. Take initiative and address your fears you’ll be blown away with what you’re able to accomplish. Remember flow is key to efficiency and productivity, become flexible like water and flow. 

Address one problem at a time till you are no longer drowning in worry. You will feel a huge sense of accomplishment and realize you are stronger than you ever thought possible.

“The measure of strength is not his muscular power or strength but it is his flexibility and adaptability” – Debasish Mridha

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Finding Meaning in Suffering

Life’s a roller-coaster especially for individuals who have trouble stabilizing their emotions such as myself. I have been told many times that I am an intense individual in terms of my emotions. But why do people feel that way?pexels-photo-483686

As an individual I have suffered lots… many times due to my own choosing. My belief is something powerful comes along with suffering and that something is love and appreciation. Consider the differences of a child who has been spoiled to a child who has been suffering; suffering places a stronger focus on needs rather than wants whereas being spoiled puts the focus on wants more than needs.

Suffering tends to have a negative connotation to the word when realistically we all suffer in various ways and it’s what makes living really worth something.

“To live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning in the suffering” – Friedriche Nietzsche

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