Healing Power of Writing

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Since I began writing my blogs I have felt this enormous sense of ease that has taken over my life. Still I run into my occasional problem but nothing I can’t come to understand. Blogging to me has helped me tremendously by giving me a different perspective when tackling my problems.

Writing has a profound effect when immersed creatively. As an author of an expressive piece of writing a lot of relevant insight into one’s life can be gathered. Writing can have a therapeutic effect improving mood, well-being and reducing stress. Reflecting and writing about good things can help us to feel more positive and motivated while also balancing the mental tabs of an overcrowded mind.

Writing about certain topics can help an author to gain insight into his/her priorities to better understand his/her emotional reaction. Expressive writing is thought to help enhance self-regulation and facilitate mental health. Whether reflecting on positive aspects of life trauma or visualizing our best possible self, writing allows individuals to examine a previously unexamined part of their lives.

Trauma writing is predicated on the idea we must revisit, re-experience and re-evaluate past traumas to release pent-up emotion and to really let go. When we choose to hold back from sharing our traumatic events we tend to experience chronic autonomic arousal and immune function deterioration. Writing can be an outlet to deal with pain rather than just blocking it out.

BPS or best possible self-based writing tends to bring awareness to ourselves when considering higher-level goals. Writing about our best personal self allows us to clarify our goals while reorganizing priorities and deciding on values. BPS writing appears to offer the same therapeutic benefits as trauma-based writing without the damper on mood.

“I write because I don’t know what I think until I read what I say” – Flannery O’Connor

Writing is a journey and can be a vessel to take you from point A to point B. If you’re feeling writer’s block remember to just let it flow. Write on whatever topic is concerning you this very moment. Write about where you would love to see yourself in the future. Write about your dream vacations, your dream home and your dream job. Write about writing. Write about psychology, spirituality or health. Write blogs about blogs. For the love of God just write and see where it takes you.

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Understanding Laughter

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Laughter has become a natural instinct; the blind, deaf, even some infants laugh before they are 2 months old. It is more common we laugh in social settings than when we’re alone. Even laughing gas loses it’s “oomph” when taken in solitude.

Men claim to chuckle and women claim to giggle yet most laughter isn’t from jokes but from spending time with family and friends. Humour helps us to build stronger connections and to build rapport.

Laughter harmlessly releases negative emotions such as anger, sadness and fear. If you can laugh at a situation your upsets may not seem as important as they once did. Finding humour in our circumstances can help us to cope with the stress or even relieve most of the tension. Laughter can be of the “ha-ha-ha” variety or the “ho-ho-ho” type but not a mixture of both.

Humour increases learning and retention, not to mention it’s engaging and uses the whole brain. Some professors or teachers use humour in their lectures as a means of controlling the emotional climate of a group.

There are several obvious differences in what people find humorous, the most significant seems to be age. From infants and children our appreciation for “toilet humour”, pre-teens/teenage years tend to laugh at jokes that focus on sex, food and any subject that adults consider off-limits to mature adults where our sense of humour is more developed. As mature adults we tend to laugh at other people and ourselves in shared common predicaments and embarrassments. Basically we laugh at issues that stress us out.

Another factor determining what’s funny to us or not is culture. There are economic, political and social issues that are not easy to laugh at which only people living in that culture can understand. United States may be the exception of this rule due to the much observed media and movies. Most people know what’s going on there so jokes about the United States are shared and enjoyed pretty much across the globe.

For someone to take offense to a joke he/she must have some attachment to the principle or the person is being put down in the joke. Racist and sexist jokes are offensive to many people who feel strongly about fighting bigotry and prejudice in the world so they should be avoided altogether.

“Your attitude is like a box of crayons that color the world. Constantly use gray colors and your picture will always be dark and depressing. Use humor to add bright colors and your picture begins to lighten up” – Allen Klein

Start laughing at life. Laugh at the stresses, laugh at the uncommon, laugh through the hard times, laugh through the good times. Laughing can be a life-saver easing stress, lowering blood pressure and elevating your mood. Laughing has a cleansing effect similar to deep-breathing allowing us to rejuvenate and regenerate our energy. Laughing makes us feel good and allows us to have fun while also connecting to those around us.

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The Effects of Therapy Dogs

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“You can tell a lot about a man by the way he treats his dog” – Peary Perry

How is this theory true? Can you really see into a person’s character by the way he treats animals?

The truth is yes we can. Our kindness to animals has a big influence on how we treat other humans. Caring for animals such as dogs or cats helps us to think outwards. Domesticated pets offer companionship and qualities that are essential to a child’s development.

Pets offer a sense of purpose and fulfillment; they make good friends and good medicine. Obedient pets can become therapy animals improving coping skills in relieving stress. Offering a variety of mental health, emotional and physical benefits, domesticated pets can add a strong structure to an unstable home.

Pets relieve our feelings of loneliness and isolation. Like I mentioned, therapy pets; obedient animals can serve as an anchor keeping people grounded and happy. It is not uncommon for dogs to be incorporated into a therapy plan. The elderly, families affected by military deployment, even the disabled or ill strongly recognize the benefits pets can have.

No longer do we live in a day where we only use dogs to hunt or cats to fend off rodents. Instead nowadays pets are purchased more for their intangible benefits more than anything.

“A dog’s love is only second to that of a mother’s” – Radhika Mundra

Animal ownership is linked to a variety of positive outcomes. A dog’s companionship and unconditional love is something we can learn from. They love us plain and simple. As humans our lesson should be unconditional positive regard, acceptance and support regardless of what a person says or does.

We’ve all come into this world with lessons to learn. Remember our life situations get difficult and not to judge others but rather offer a helping hand if possible. We all shine in our own ways. Contribute to the community, volunteer and serve others as your therapy animal would serve you. We are not all lucky enough to rise above our circumstances but with persistent effort we can always create a better alternative. Remember when times are tough to be considerate and supportive. Don’t complain when asked for help rather jump at every opportunity to help fellow man.

“Clear eyes, full hearts can’t lose” – Friday Night Lights

Success is a journey not a destination. Remember to be open-minded and not judge a book by its cover. Live life with love in your heart and don’t forget UPR (unconditional positive regard).

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Almost Famous; The Celebrity Influence

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We all have different ideas of how we would like to retire but not all of us live in a way that we will be able to do so. The way we consume day-to-day takes a toll both on our health and our overall financial status.

We live in a day of age where wealth is more emphasized by the things you possess such as clothes, cars and odd commodities rather than actually owning money itself. Instead of collecting savings we’ve chosen to collect debt. We’ve chosen to emphasize lifestyles we can’t afford conforming to the so-called celebrity lifestyle.

Truth is most of us aren’t celebrities and never will be. Most of us aren’t all-star athletes and will never make millions of dollars. Although this truth should be universally known the rise of social media has influenced many to convince themselves they are “almost famous”.

Fame doesn’t bring happiness. Fame is more of an delusional lifestyle that’s sold to fans. Truthfully, a celebrity’s life is not much more spectacular than yours or mine.

Emotional stability and consistency

The biggest advantage celebrities possess is the income and support they receive. They are able to stay on top of their development with numerous coaches, trainers, managers who keep their heads in the game.

Remember we aren’t all raking in the big bucks like celebrities or all-star athletes and most of us likely never will. Thus why we need to be our own coaches, trainers and managers. We need to take initiative to correct our own mistakes day to day. We need to build momentum and keep looking ahead. We harness the power to accomplish great things with consistent action.

To retire healthy and with savings should be the focus for everybody.. so why are we thinking short-sighted?

“Are these things really better than the things I already have? Or am I just trained to be dissatisfied with what I have now?” – Chuck Palahniuk

Back to Diluted Realities – The Ego Illusion Part 1

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