Book Summary – Laws of Growth by John C. Maxwell

1_1_1 laws of growthMisconceptions about growth that may be holding you back. “I assume I will automatically grow”, “I don’t know how to grow”, “it’s not the right time to begin”, “I’m afraid of making mistakes”, “I have to find the best way before I start”, “I don’t feel like doing it”, “others are better than I am”, “I thought it would be easier than this”.

Start today, start taking responsibility to grow; responsibility for your own personal development. Transition from accidental growth to intentional growth by asking the big questions now. Where do you want to go in life? What direction? What’s the furthest you see yourself going?

Fight for good habits and rely on hard work to keep them there. Focus on positive self talk, stop comparing yourself to others and move beyond your limiting beliefs. Start building a positive network, if you want to start feeling valuable add value to others.

Remember there’s always time to slow down and pause. Learning to pause allows growth to catch up with you turning experiences into insight. Schedule time to pause and reflect or it will always get knocked off your to-do list.

Ask yourself. Do you know what you need to improve? Do you know how you are supposed to improve? Do you know why you want to keep improving? Be conscious of the journey not the destination, growth is lifelong and you will constantly change beyond your goals. It’s difficult to remain engaged into anything if you haven’t found a way to value and appreciate the process.

Assess the environment. Is the environment conducive to learning? Ask yourself questions that help you to understand who and what nurtures you personally and figure out if you’re getting those things. Ask yourself, what songs lift me? What ideas speak to me? What experiences rejuvenate me? What people encourage me? What activities revive me? What spiritual exercises strengthen me? And so on and so on. Change your environment to suit you and be deliberate with whom you spend your time with. Challenge yourself and focus on the moment, moving forward despite criticism.

Create a system where you can flourish, constantly reprioritizing while taking the big picture into account. Be organized and precise with your deadlines, an effective system promotes consistency. Embrace the value of bad experiences as a learning tool. No pain no gain, time to start taking responsibility for your life.

Build your strong character and rely on it. Inside victories precede outside ones. Our inside development is totally within our control. Follow the golden rule – people matter. Only teach what you believe – passions matter. Value humanity above all virtues – perspective matters. Recognize everyone has a weakness. Be teachable and willing to serve others. Strive to finish well – faithfulness matters.

Stretch your comfort zones. Settling for the status quo leads to dissatisfaction. Set yourself apart from others. Change starts internally. Let stretching become your lifestyle.

Consider trade-offs. Be willing to give up immediate gratification for personal growth. Give up the fast life for the good life. It’s important to know what you are not willing to give up just as it is to know what you are willing to give up. What trade do you need to make but have been unwilling to make? Most people settle in and learn to live with a limitation or barrier that can be removed by making a trade.

Cultivate curiosity, approach life the way a child does; with a beginner’s mind set. Make why your favorite word. Learn something new everyday, grow through failure. Get out of the box and start enjoying life. Learn something that takes you completely out of your comfort zone, just be certain that it’s something you’ll find fun.

Stop thinking “can I?” And start thinking “how can I?” Stop thinking “more work” and start thinking “what works”. Stop thinking “one door” and start thinking “many doors”. Stop doing only things you’ve done before start doing the things you could and should do. Start doing more than what’s expected. Stop doing things occasionally and start doing things daily. Give yourself an effectiveness audit so you can be sure of what you’re thinking.

Ultimately the overall message of this book is to focus on self-development not self-fulfillment. Don’t let objects or people own you. Keep growing and keep giving. Make the decision to put others ahead of your own agenda. Serve others instead of yourself. Sometimes the seeds you sow take long to grow but you always see a harvest.

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Managing Stress & Living in the Present

How we manage stress will have the biggest impact on our quality of life.

Do you constantly dwell on the past?

Are you always rationalizing outcomes for the future?

Do you feel stuck? Do you feel lost?

Do you feel like you have no control over your current circumstances?

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The truth is most people feel this way. We must learn how to cope with stress or it can quickly take over your life.

The first step in managing stress levels is choosing how we to react to difficult circumstances. Choose not to complain and instead grab the bull by the horns.  Focus on the now. Forget the past, the future, stop overthinking and start taking action.

Second step, be deliberate with the company you keep. Not everyone knows how to manage stress and those who refuse grow will never learn. Avoid toxic relationships, avoid people who just want to use you, avoid building relationships with people who are self-destructive.

Make old friends acquintances if they no longer support your new way of living. Lead by example and if they are meant to follow along for the journey they will. Dont wait up.

You are responsible for your own personal development and noone else. Our parents did their jobs to raise us as children now its our turn to grow as young adults.

“Stress is caused from being here but wanting to be there” – Eckhart Tolle

Start living in the now. Take small steps towards a greater future. Face your fears and don’t get down on yourself. Do you, people appreciate novelty and cherish anyone who’s not afraid to be themselves. Stop being afraid of being different we’re all unique and thats what makes us who we are. Differences should be celebrated.

Stop stressing about life and start having fun and enjoying it.

“Wherever you are be all there.” – Jim Elliot

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Blogging – Note to Followers

team work

I’ve always been one to want to help another. Growing up I quickly became obsessed with the sport of football. Little did I know this sport taught me principles of success that I would never forget.

Football taught me the importance of supporting one another. It taught me how to be a leader but most importantly it taught me how to work hard for what I want.

Blogging is kind of like football. I can’t do it alone. It will come down to the supportive cast (followers and commenters). All I can do is maintain a positive attitude and do my best working towards my goals. If all goes accordingly maybe I’ll move forward to a bigger and better opportunity.

Although it would be amazing to gain new career opportunities through my blogging my main goal remains to help people and build a following. I don’t want to build a following for any other means than to help individuals through their struggles. Helping others is its own reward and I relic at any opportunity to do so.

Special thanks to anyone who reads my blogs. Remember I cherish your feedback so feel free to post comments on what you like, what you don’t and what you think I can do better.  🙂

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Blogging – A Healthy Escape

healthy escape

Blogging is wondrous, what a great idea! It’s funny that it took me so long to jump on board. I’ve always been an enthusiast for computers and the internet but never been one for social media. For someone who over thinks everything blogging is my escape. For someone who thinks as critically about everything such as me blogging is beautiful.

Blogging relieves my concerns and keeps me focused on the future. It allows me to organize my thoughts and put more focus on details.  Blogs help to visualize goals and to clarify the action steps to we need progress.

Blogging creates your story and delivers a platform to reach like-minded individuals. It allows online communities to get to understand the individual (blogger) rather than judging someone from a glimpse at a profile picture.

Blogging is soulful and can be a peaceful meditating experience allowing space for new insights and knowledge. It isn’t for everyone but those willing to commit can definitely develop strong skills and reap a lot of benefits.

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