Motivation & Triggers

What is motivation and how is it attained?

Why do some have it while others only dream about having it?

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Motivation derives from the word motives. Motives are basic reasoning behind a specific behavior. So when asked “what is your motivation?” the answer can be really simple or really complicated. Your motive may be fear or excitement. It may be something specific on the surface or something deep that you can’t pinpoint.

Ideally we are all motivated by different means. What encourages some may not encourage others. Some people may be self-motivated while others are motivated in regards to personal rewards and achievements. Personal progress is inspiring. After initially sinking yourself into a transformational system the advancements within the system alone can be enough motivate. The key is to have positive triggers  to enforce good habits rather than negative ones.

The most basic example of a trigger is setting your alarm clock. The effect is obvious but why can’t we manage all of our other habits this way?

Another example of a trigger may be:

  • Turning the coffee pot on instantly the moment you wake up. The effect of this trigger is being more encouraged to make coffee in the morning.
  • Another may be keeping your office space clean and clear of clutter the effect of this being the fact it’s Easier to get down to business whenever necessary.

Pretty simple understanding but your awareness and use these triggers will determine your success. What is your environment like at home? Is it easy for you to pursue a train of thought? Or are you constantly distracted by negative triggers? Some triggers we create ourselves while other triggers may be a pattern due to our subconscious routine.

  • Examples of bad triggers may be sitting on the couch with results in stuffing our faces mindlessly with junk food. Lounging around may trigger sacrificing the whole night to relax considering sitting is so contagious and triggers more sitting.

A trigger such as this may be so subtle we may not even recognize it. Typically all bad behaviors have their triggers and the underlying root cause is typically anger. Understanding these triggers and how we manage ourselves is all part of our own journey of self-actualization.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom” – Aristotle

Self-awareness is prevalent in understanding our place in society. We must find our own motives to our actions and remove all old conditioning patterns. More often then not we establish our habits based on old beliefs. When we have new changes of perspective and paradigm we must revisit our old conditioning and ask ourselves based on my new found beliefs, “is this behavior essential? Am I living in accordance to my current values and beliefs”?

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate” – Carl Jung

Analyze yourself, create action plans and evaluate. Consider giving yourself weekly reviews. Don’t be to critical remember you’re only human; ask yourself, what did you accomplish this week? What could have been improved upon? Where was the most time spent?

Determine and spot your subconscious triggers you may have not previously noticed the week prior. Determine whether the negative triggers can be removed or avoided. Examine your positive triggers, did they work? Did you take any action or disregard the plan entirely? Remember planning is essential but without action nothings possible.

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Stretching Comfort Zones

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Where does fear come from? Are we born with it? How do we control it? What effect does fear have on us?

One phrase from John Maxwell’s book “Laws of Growth” he mentions making a habit out of stretching comfort zones. Our comfort zones are made to keep us safe. These zones aren’t so much a matter of space but instead a kneejerk reaction that prevents us from acting in new challenging ways. We conform to what’s already been established rather than rationalizing the most efficient manner. Whether it be lack of awareness, lack of confidence or lack of autonomy we tend to just accept the common way of doing things regardless if it’s the best way.

Some people live ignorant to information. These are the same people who believe everything they hear. Fear of failure, fear of rejection and fear of being inadequate hold us back from expressing our true thoughts, beliefs and actions. We tend to conform because it’s the easiest thing to do. This is an example of comfort zones that need to be stretched. We all need to take responsibility for our own well being thus gain all the information we can to make informative decisions. We need to become fully independent and completely responsible for ourselves mentally and physically.

Hold yourself accountable. Don’t let other people’s beliefs become your truth. Write your own story and discover your own limits.

Don’t be afraid to take risks that’s all life is. With great risk comes great rewards so bite the bullet. Refuse to live in fear. Choose to rise up and take action against whatever it is that’s bothering you. Try not to think but just to take action. Find your flow.

Over thinking is a problem a lot of us have. We tend to assess the problem from a variety different angles and never actually taking action to correct the problem. This is a situation many people experience with their weight loss. They believe they know what has to be done, they know everything that needs to be avoided yet they are completely in their head – never taking any action. Sometimes we need to look at our circumstances with a different perspective, an objective lens. Fear will control you if you let it. We need to realize our emotions and thoughts won’t always be on our side but regardless we must action strive to act logically. We must act according to our values and vision.

Don’t let over thinking become your problem. Write absolutely everything down. Free your mind from repeating thoughts. Assemble lists till your heart’s satisfied.

There’s a time for planning and a time for action; planning is important but is nothing without action. Planning helps to prioritize making your days more efficient. Writing down your plans allows you to free your mind from overbearing thoughts. The planning process allows us to clarify the specific action steps to be taken. Although you can write these steps down a million times but without commitment to action nothing gets accomplished.

Remember attitude is everything. Life is a challenge and should be viewed as such. Choose to stretch your comfort zones, be humble and to seek wisdom through new experiences. You are the facilitator of your own life so it’s up to you to begin the movement. Action starts today.

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The Effects of Therapy Dogs

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“You can tell a lot about a man by the way he treats his dog” – Peary Perry

How is this theory true? Can you really see into a person’s character by the way he treats animals?

The truth is yes we can. Our kindness to animals has a big influence on how we treat other humans. Caring for animals such as dogs or cats helps us to think outwards. Domesticated pets offer companionship and qualities that are essential to a child’s development.

Pets offer a sense of purpose and fulfillment; they make good friends and good medicine. Obedient pets can become therapy animals improving coping skills in relieving stress. Offering a variety of mental health, emotional and physical benefits, domesticated pets can add a strong structure to an unstable home.

Pets relieve our feelings of loneliness and isolation. Like I mentioned, therapy pets; obedient animals can serve as an anchor keeping people grounded and happy. It is not uncommon for dogs to be incorporated into a therapy plan. The elderly, families affected by military deployment, even the disabled or ill strongly recognize the benefits pets can have.

No longer do we live in a day where we only use dogs to hunt or cats to fend off rodents. Instead nowadays pets are purchased more for their intangible benefits more than anything.

“A dog’s love is only second to that of a mother’s” – Radhika Mundra

Animal ownership is linked to a variety of positive outcomes. A dog’s companionship and unconditional love is something we can learn from. They love us plain and simple. As humans our lesson should be unconditional positive regard, acceptance and support regardless of what a person says or does.

We’ve all come into this world with lessons to learn. Remember our life situations get difficult and not to judge others but rather offer a helping hand if possible. We all shine in our own ways. Contribute to the community, volunteer and serve others as your therapy animal would serve you. We are not all lucky enough to rise above our circumstances but with persistent effort we can always create a better alternative. Remember when times are tough to be considerate and supportive. Don’t complain when asked for help rather jump at every opportunity to help fellow man.

“Clear eyes, full hearts can’t lose” – Friday Night Lights

Success is a journey not a destination. Remember to be open-minded and not judge a book by its cover. Live life with love in your heart and don’t forget UPR (unconditional positive regard).

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Managing Stress & Living in the Present

How we manage stress will have the biggest impact on our quality of life.

Do you constantly dwell on the past?

Are you always rationalizing outcomes for the future?

Do you feel stuck? Do you feel lost?

Do you feel like you have no control over your current circumstances?

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The truth is most people feel this way. We must learn how to cope with stress or it can quickly take over your life.

The first step in managing stress levels is choosing how we to react to difficult circumstances. Choose not to complain and instead grab the bull by the horns.  Focus on the now. Forget the past, the future, stop overthinking and start taking action.

Second step, be deliberate with the company you keep. Not everyone knows how to manage stress and those who refuse grow will never learn. Avoid toxic relationships, avoid people who just want to use you, avoid building relationships with people who are self-destructive.

Make old friends acquintances if they no longer support your new way of living. Lead by example and if they are meant to follow along for the journey they will. Dont wait up.

You are responsible for your own personal development and noone else. Our parents did their jobs to raise us as children now its our turn to grow as young adults.

“Stress is caused from being here but wanting to be there” – Eckhart Tolle

Start living in the now. Take small steps towards a greater future. Face your fears and don’t get down on yourself. Do you, people appreciate novelty and cherish anyone who’s not afraid to be themselves. Stop being afraid of being different we’re all unique and thats what makes us who we are. Differences should be celebrated.

Stop stressing about life and start having fun and enjoying it.

“Wherever you are be all there.” – Jim Elliot

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Over Stimulation & Loss of Self control (1 of 2)

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Whenever you’re away from home you can list piles of things you wish you would’ve done while you were at home or when you get there (whether it be housework, exercising or personal projects – like writing blogs).

We have these hopes of accomplishing these things yet the truth is a lot of us experience a total loss of self control in the moments we spend isolated in our comfortable homes.

Addictions to drugs, alcohol, food, and technology have us spiraling out of control. We become unconscious as we routinely follow the same patterns – these bad habits can wreck havoc on an individual’s self esteem and their financial future.

“You’re not using your heart for what hearts are for” – Brother Ali

Life’s hard but let’s remember what our values and goals are. Remember goals are important but so is enjoying every moment as it happens. Choose not to stress when critical moments demand your attention. Cherish each day and do you’re best with what you’ve been given. Do you’re best with today it’s all you’ve got – if you get tomorrow make the best of that too.

Remember balance in everything you do. Work towards moderating your bad habits eliminating your unneeded time wasters. We can become our own worst enemy if we beat ourselves up so remember life’s meant to be enjoyed. Do you’re best and enjoy It. Take action everyday to improve your well-being but always remember life’s a roller-coaster ride so don’t lose your sense of adventure. It has its ups and downs but hang on, embrace every moment and have fun.

Continue to Overstimulation & Loss of Self-Control Part 2

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