Progression & The Bigger Picture

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For some personal growth comes easy, for others it the idea feels gut-wrenching and the thought of even taking action makes us feel discusted with ourselves. Really, you can choose to live in the dumps because you don’t have everything you want or you can make a stand. Its up to you to decide today’s the day everything’s going to change. Decide that If you fail, you’ll just begin again and nothing can keep you from achieving what you truly believe is possible.

The lust for better achievement is something that is developed through continuous action. Not everybody seeks to improve themselves, not everybody is motivated to run a marathon or go to the gym everyday. We all find our own ways to feel like we’ve achieved something.

Video game developers take full advantage of this. The need for progression is integrated into almost all video games now-a-days. Our need of self-mastery and achievement fuel our egos making video games rewarding and highly addictive.

Decide your focus, be specific with what it is you want to achieve and what areas of your self you want to improve. Be clear and distinguish what action steps need to be taken to meet this accomplishment.

Establish a vision you can begin to work towards through consistent action. Dedicate yourself to action. Eliminate distractions but remember to have fun when you need it. Remember balance is key to a happy and successful life.

Analyze yourself determine whether you’re taking the action steps needed. Are you letting your emotions interfere with taking action? Remember, either way change is inevitable, choose to take part of the creation process or to learn to accept what is. You cannot be angry at something you do not choose to change. Begin to take responsibility for yourself and let logic guide you through the puzzle of life. Learn to monitor and alter your moods whenever needed. Find a quiet place, listen to music, get your pump on, whatever it is get into your zone each and every day.

Controlling your emotions means setting the mood for whatever it is you need to do. Get psyched up then get down to business. Remember to put first things first and to always choose the best rational.

Let go of stress, you’re going to fail its inevitable. Choose to fail putting your best foot forward. When you fall remember pain is only temporary – No pain, no gain – It’s a stepping stone to success so embrace it. Just breathe. Forget about your worries, let go of your expectations just be at ease with what is. Sometimes life can throw a lot at us but we need to remember to focus on the bigger picture.

Commit yourself; what do you have to lose? Are your problems really as bad as they seem? What’s standing in your way from action? Most of the time our problems really aren’t what they seem. Choose to see your situation from a different perspective. Learn to live in the moment and put your thoughts away. Don’t let the voice inside your head distract you from enjoying and being your best self.

You are the ruler, don’t let the tiny voices push you around. You’re in command of this spaceship, now take off and fly.

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Healing Power of Writing

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Since I began writing my blogs I have felt this enormous sense of ease that has taken over my life. Still I run into my occasional problem but nothing I can’t come to understand. Blogging to me has helped me tremendously by giving me a different perspective when tackling my problems.

Writing has a profound effect when immersed creatively. As an author of an expressive piece of writing a lot of relevant insight into one’s life can be gathered. Writing can have a therapeutic effect improving mood, well-being and reducing stress. Reflecting and writing about good things can help us to feel more positive and motivated while also balancing the mental tabs of an overcrowded mind.

Writing about certain topics can help an author to gain insight into his/her priorities to better understand his/her emotional reaction. Expressive writing is thought to help enhance self-regulation and facilitate mental health. Whether reflecting on positive aspects of life trauma or visualizing our best possible self, writing allows individuals to examine a previously unexamined part of their lives.

Trauma writing is predicated on the idea we must revisit, re-experience and re-evaluate past traumas to release pent-up emotion and to really let go. When we choose to hold back from sharing our traumatic events we tend to experience chronic autonomic arousal and immune function deterioration. Writing can be an outlet to deal with pain rather than just blocking it out.

BPS or best possible self-based writing tends to bring awareness to ourselves when considering higher-level goals. Writing about our best personal self allows us to clarify our goals while reorganizing priorities and deciding on values. BPS writing appears to offer the same therapeutic benefits as trauma-based writing without the damper on mood.

“I write because I don’t know what I think until I read what I say” – Flannery O’Connor

Writing is a journey and can be a vessel to take you from point A to point B. If you’re feeling writer’s block remember to just let it flow. Write on whatever topic is concerning you this very moment. Write about where you would love to see yourself in the future. Write about your dream vacations, your dream home and your dream job. Write about writing. Write about psychology, spirituality or health. Write blogs about blogs. For the love of God just write and see where it takes you.

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The Effects of Therapy Dogs

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“You can tell a lot about a man by the way he treats his dog” – Peary Perry

How is this theory true? Can you really see into a person’s character by the way he treats animals?

The truth is yes we can. Our kindness to animals has a big influence on how we treat other humans. Caring for animals such as dogs or cats helps us to think outwards. Domesticated pets offer companionship and qualities that are essential to a child’s development.

Pets offer a sense of purpose and fulfillment; they make good friends and good medicine. Obedient pets can become therapy animals improving coping skills in relieving stress. Offering a variety of mental health, emotional and physical benefits, domesticated pets can add a strong structure to an unstable home.

Pets relieve our feelings of loneliness and isolation. Like I mentioned, therapy pets; obedient animals can serve as an anchor keeping people grounded and happy. It is not uncommon for dogs to be incorporated into a therapy plan. The elderly, families affected by military deployment, even the disabled or ill strongly recognize the benefits pets can have.

No longer do we live in a day where we only use dogs to hunt or cats to fend off rodents. Instead nowadays pets are purchased more for their intangible benefits more than anything.

“A dog’s love is only second to that of a mother’s” – Radhika Mundra

Animal ownership is linked to a variety of positive outcomes. A dog’s companionship and unconditional love is something we can learn from. They love us plain and simple. As humans our lesson should be unconditional positive regard, acceptance and support regardless of what a person says or does.

We’ve all come into this world with lessons to learn. Remember our life situations get difficult and not to judge others but rather offer a helping hand if possible. We all shine in our own ways. Contribute to the community, volunteer and serve others as your therapy animal would serve you. We are not all lucky enough to rise above our circumstances but with persistent effort we can always create a better alternative. Remember when times are tough to be considerate and supportive. Don’t complain when asked for help rather jump at every opportunity to help fellow man.

“Clear eyes, full hearts can’t lose” – Friday Night Lights

Success is a journey not a destination. Remember to be open-minded and not judge a book by its cover. Live life with love in your heart and don’t forget UPR (unconditional positive regard).

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Passion: The Success Emotion

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What is passion? Why do some have it while others don’t?

How are some people extemely motivated while others can barely move from the couch?

Does everyone have passion and some just haven’t found it?
Or is passion something you harness? Something you build? Something you create?

If you’re looking to find your passion I suggest making a list of all the things that you love and things that seem to come natural.

“If you don’t love what you do, you won’t do it with much conviction or passion” – Mia Hamm

Find  something you would actually enjoy doing and work on building a hobby out of it, think long-term and ask yourself:

If I was to make a living off of my hobby what skills would you need to possess?

Are you seen as professional?  as credible?

What are your strengths and weaknesses?

What do you need to develop for the future?

The idea of finding your passion is working on your hobby till one day it can become your means of living. Wouldn’t that be great? if everyone was doing the jobs they actually wanted to do?

Remember personal development and don’t ever forget it. Develop your hobby and skills so one day you can service others in a field you chose.

Start today with a little discipline, be patient and see what ignites.

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Over Stimulation & Loss of Self control (1 of 2)

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Whenever you’re away from home you can list piles of things you wish you would’ve done while you were at home or when you get there (whether it be housework, exercising or personal projects – like writing blogs).

We have these hopes of accomplishing these things yet the truth is a lot of us experience a total loss of self control in the moments we spend isolated in our comfortable homes.

Addictions to drugs, alcohol, food, and technology have us spiraling out of control. We become unconscious as we routinely follow the same patterns – these bad habits can wreck havoc on an individual’s self esteem and their financial future.

“You’re not using your heart for what hearts are for” – Brother Ali

Life’s hard but let’s remember what our values and goals are. Remember goals are important but so is enjoying every moment as it happens. Choose not to stress when critical moments demand your attention. Cherish each day and do you’re best with what you’ve been given. Do you’re best with today it’s all you’ve got – if you get tomorrow make the best of that too.

Remember balance in everything you do. Work towards moderating your bad habits eliminating your unneeded time wasters. We can become our own worst enemy if we beat ourselves up so remember life’s meant to be enjoyed. Do you’re best and enjoy It. Take action everyday to improve your well-being but always remember life’s a roller-coaster ride so don’t lose your sense of adventure. It has its ups and downs but hang on, embrace every moment and have fun.

Continue to Overstimulation & Loss of Self-Control Part 2

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Finding Meaning in Suffering

Life’s a roller-coaster especially for individuals who have trouble stabilizing their emotions such as myself. I have been told many times that I am an intense individual in terms of my emotions. But why do people feel that way?pexels-photo-483686

As an individual I have suffered lots… many times due to my own choosing. My belief is something powerful comes along with suffering and that something is love and appreciation. Consider the differences of a child who has been spoiled to a child who has been suffering; suffering places a stronger focus on needs rather than wants whereas being spoiled puts the focus on wants more than needs.

Suffering tends to have a negative connotation to the word when realistically we all suffer in various ways and it’s what makes living really worth something.

“To live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning in the suffering” – Friedriche Nietzsche

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