No Pressure Guide to Happiness

The path to greatness is a road we all must travel ourselves.

The demands we place on ourselves will determine our final outcome, our final result. Are you placing the right demands on yourself? or are you being to demanding?

There’s so much pressure this day in age. Not only does the pressure come from our peers but it comes from all of society, all of culture. It’s ironic how we have it better than any civilization has before us yet we struggle more-so than ever before.

The demands we place on ourselves are killing us rather than actually helping us grow.

What pressures are you putting on yourself?

Are you pressuring yourself so much that the stress and anxiety consumes you?

Don’t be so hard on yourself, we all struggle.

Do you live in a sea of hopelessness or is everyday something new? a new day to conquer? a new day to win? a new day to be all that you can be in all that is?

Now-a-days everyone struggles and it seems no one knows why.

The truth seems obvious yet we all live in our own world’s of ignorance. We deny the truth as a means to protect ourselves, ultimately hurting us and leading us towards our bitter end.

5 Major Influences on Well-Being

Influence #1 – Culture

We live in a party culture, negative influences are everywhere. From the moment we wake up to the moment we go to bed we are bombarded with endless messages.

What kind of art do you part-take in? What kind of movies? music? Why do you listen to this type of music? do you listen because you love the music itself or do you listen to gain popularity? to fit in? What kind of habits to you part-take in? do you abuse subtances? drugs? alcohol? food?

Do any of these things actually make me feel good about myself? Will any of these things make me feel better?

There’s good and bad in everything, choose to take pride in acknowledging the good in all things. Seek out good, find ways to make good known.

Do you believe in God? I do. I’m not saying its a pre-requisite to healing but it does help to alleviate depression and anxiety to know someone is looking out for you. It’s also relieving to think our souls are eternal.

See I think of the good as God. Seek out God.

When people channel good from themselves, through themselves unto others this is the act of God. The act of a higher power and the act of a deeper understanding.

Do you seek out Good/God in others?


Influence # 2 – Society

A big part of our conditioning as humans is due to our surrounding environment. What is your surrounding environment like? Are the people around you toxic substance abusers or are they free from attachment, warm and supportive?

There’s so much pressure in society now-a-days from media, advertisers and those around us that most people have formed unrealistic expectations in their daily lives. It’s an odd realization but its safe to say most people live in denial of the truth to some regard.

Do you live in denial of the truth? are you happy?

Do you have control of your health? your life?

Do you live in denial from the truth? Do you act like your addictive habits aren’t so harmful? Do you act like you can live forever? like you’re invincible? like you can eat anything you want and get away with it?

Hard work pays off, and that’s that. There’s nothing more to it. Your disciplines and self-control will determine your levels of happiness.

What controls your life? the external or the internal?

Denial is putting the blame on anything other than yourself. Sure we all come into this world with different troubles than one another but its our responsibility as individuals to vanquish our demons and whatever plagues us. As humans we all need to build courage and face our fears or we forever live a life of discontent and discomfort.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it, that’s where most people get lost. Reach out to someone close or find an institution near you that could possibly help you with some counseling. We all need therapy and it doesn’t hurt to start helping ourselves. If someone you know is experiencing these kind of problems let them know you have a waiting ear and a supportive frame of mind. If their problems exude anything beyond what you’re capable of discussing encourage them to reach out.

Influence # 3 – Psychology

So culture says “abuse this” while society says “be accomplished“, the psychological aspect becomes tormenting as we get stuck in-between.

Are your thoughts impulsive? bad? negative? do you feel toxic? This is more common than you’d think now-a-days.

Have you ever come across the law of attraction? the idea, you become what you think about most?

Making smart choices means being a smart thinker, being a smart thinker means monitoring your thoughts. Do you’re thoughts generate negativity? positivity?

We create the worlds we live in with our words. Believe it or not the thoughts you think today (if given enough substance) will become tomorrow’s beliefs. So what are you thinking today that’s creating tomorrow’s anxiety? creating tomorrow’s opportunities?

The truth is 9 of 10 things you worry about will never happen and the 10 things that did happen, 9 of them you didn’t worry about. Stop worrying. Stop draining yourself psychologically.

It’s okay to have bad thoughts, fact of the matter is we all have them. The important factor is not to act on them or let them consume you. Fight your way to establish good thoughts, good beliefs.

Consider this thought: “I believe in the good things coming” – A lyric by Nahko Bear’s Black as the Night

What a beautiful thought.

Whether we believe we can or we believe we can’t we are usually right. Find messages that lift you up, work towards your faith.

Influence # 4 – Habits

What a better way to build positive thoughts than actually acting on well-being.

CONSIDER THIS: Your levels of healthiness and wellbeing are determined by your ability to act in ways that are whole in terms of mental/emotional, physical and social health. 

Are you healthy? do you have a healthy body? a healthy mind? Do you do the things you have to do? or do you escape and retreat as an act of denial from what is?

Don’t let stress consume you, accept the moment for what it is and work on being present with the moment.

Notice the cycle for change:

  • Pre-contemplation – being unaware.
  • Contemplation – planning for action.
  • Action – following the path set forth.
  • Maintenance – holding true.

Don’t get stuck overthinking you can’t always think your way out of a bad situation. Thinking is important when it comes to planning but without consistent action thinking is worthless. Work to get to point of maintaining your healthy habits, work one habit at a time until they become deeply engrained routines.

Influence # 5 – Biology

Okay so maybe we’ve come to terms with society and culture’s influence, maybe we’ve established good habits and have redirected our thinking patterns. Maybe something still feels off and we keep falling back into our destructive patterns?

Some of us are born with pre-dispositions which opens our body to be susceptible to illnesses. Unfortunately there’s no way around it. Some of us need medication in order to feel whole, don’t fight it if that’s you. Of course, always talk to a doctor before taking any prescription drugs.

How to start creating a healthy life.


  1. Start taking responsibility and control for your life.
  2. Start being grateful, be happy regardless of whatever circumstance.
  3. Love yourself unconditionally, we all make mistakes and at times look foolish.

There’s so much wisdom to gather and to share. Let your light live on in others. Work to reach new heights of being then spread the lessons you’ve learnt with those who value your word.

Start making healthy choices. Stop accumulating unnecessary risks whether financially, socially or in terms of your health. Start living to prevent risk, making wise choices.

A healthy body means a healthy mind and a healthy mind makes smart decisions.

Holistic Healing

In terms of holistic healing we can always be smarter with what we put in our bodies. Most people don’t focus on a well-balanced diet so they become weak. When we listen to our bodies and give them what they need we can destroy pathways to negativity. Building stronger connections with ourselves and mother earth based on what we put in our body is important to establish that mind-body connection.

Becoming Self-Aware

As individuals we must learn to give time to our concealed thoughts. Work to understand your feeling and emotions. We can’t always get our emotions completely on our side but with practice we can influence them in a way where they no longer carry so much weight into the situation.

The Health Triangle
Balancing Happiness and Creating Success

When it comes to being a whole happy person there are 3 aspects that determine our potential levels of success and well-being.

  • Physical Health
  • Social Health
  • Mental/Emotional Health

When all pillars are strong we are most likely to act fully and whole, becoming our best selves. When one pillar is missing or lacking, just as a tripod would, the balance shifts sometimes to the point where we tumble over destroying the other two pillars.

So how can we focus on improving these pillars?


Focus on the message being said, the tone in which you say it and how it’s interpreted by others. Work on making good connections with others. Work on being assertive and removing/distancing yourself from toxic influences.

Focus on building good character. Focus on things that create intrinsic value, things that benefit the greater good, work on your trustworthiness, your integrity, your word.

Be compassionate, warm, kind and supportive towards others. Not everyone wants to hear about how they can improve sometimes people just need to be heard.

Work on becoming the best listener you can be.

When it comes down to it the most important thing sometimes is having someone to turn to in times of distress.


Start now. Start taking charge of your health, your muscles your joints. Treat your body as a temple. Focus on nutrition and improving your physical health. Dedicate minimum 30 minutes a day to physical activity, you won’t regret it.

30 Minutes is enough to influence big change especially if you’re doing it consistently.

If you’re not the most physically inclined focus on little wins until you can accomplish greater feats; the goal being to always challenge yourself.


Are you taking time for “me” days? or do you spend every waking moment working, plugging away?

Stress management is something we all need to determine for ourselves, therapy can come in many forms. Sometimes we need to abide by one therapy to get to the next, each having their own lessons and way of profoundly creating transformational change.

So what do you find value in? how do you de-stress? re-charge your batteries?

You have greatness within you, the question I ask now: are you up to the challenge to unleash it?

Thank you to all my readers! I wish you all the best on your endeavors. Don’t give up on yourself. Always get back up no matter how many times you fall down. You may not know me personally but I can tell you that my life is a testimony that you can rise above the suffering. Don’t let your current situation define you, you are stronger than you’ll ever know.

Path of Least Resistance

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It’s so easy to get inside your head and convince yourself not to do something. Its so easy to let fear control us. Its so easy to begin something and then to just put it down. It’s easy to give up when things get tough. But what’s easy isn’t always what’s right.

More often then not we opt to take the path of least resistance. Its just so much easier to be free of criticism or judgement from others. A lot of us battle ourselves everyday, the last thing we want to do is rub people the wrong way and create more conflict. As a means of avoiding conflict and failure its easier just to ignore the possibilities of what could be. It’s easier for us to hold onto our pent up emotions and accept what is rather than going against the current.

Conditioned by our thoughts of conformity we begin to believe the limitations of our parents, peers and authority. We begin to feel content with our environment and accept it as the true reality. We learn to live with our problems rather than to learning to adapt to inevitable changes.

Rather than enjoying the fruits of our labour we are frozen by action left to contemplate and rationalize every possible excuse as to why we failed. Remaining frozen in action living with sadness and anger we allow our failure to define us depleting us of all available resources. Living with this depletion of resources we remain in an unstable environment that lacks structure, support and personal growth.

Struggling to be happy we remain stagnate and actually begin show signs of physical and mental decline. We begin to lose our purpose and reshuffle our priorities. We begin to see life through a short lens living as if we were to die tomorrow.

Greed and immediate gratification become all so important. Being that we are unhappy and discontent with our environment we turn to selfish behaviour that promotes dopamine production. Ideally the thought is “I’d rather be happy” but this is such a short-sighted statement. In the long-run feeding our senses becomes toxic and poisonous to the individual. Immediate gratification becomes self-sabotage and this quickly becomes a deeply engrained pattern.

We begin to forget about our dreams and lose faith altogether. We lose purpose and our reasons for being. We begin thinking “is this really all that life is”. Unable to feel true happiness due to the fact the pleasure centers of the brain have been overloaded day in and day out we begin to feel hopeless and burnt out.

Life’s tough but it’s time to grab the bull by the horns. If you don’t begin to start taking action fear will guide you down a dark path. Don’t let fear back you into a corner you can’t get out of.

Take control of your life. Take control of your health. Take control of your finances. Your problems will begin a snowball effect if you choose to neglect them. Refuse to turn the other cheek, stay on top of monitoring your progress.

Stretch your comfort zones and get comfortable doing so. Remember, a house cat is not your spirit animal, your spirit animal is fierce, intimidating and never backs down.

The path of least resistance is an emotional unstable journey which guarantees jealousy and resentment. How far down does the rabbit hole go? I’m not going to participate to find out and you shouldn’t either. Escape the darkness, climb into the light.

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Finding Meaning in Suffering

Life’s a roller-coaster especially for individuals who have trouble stabilizing their emotions such as myself. I have been told many times that I am an intense individual in terms of my emotions. But why do people feel that way?pexels-photo-483686

As an individual I have suffered lots… many times due to my own choosing. My belief is something powerful comes along with suffering and that something is love and appreciation. Consider the differences of a child who has been spoiled to a child who has been suffering; suffering places a stronger focus on needs rather than wants whereas being spoiled puts the focus on wants more than needs.

Suffering tends to have a negative connotation to the word when realistically we all suffer in various ways and it’s what makes living really worth something.

“To live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning in the suffering” – Friedriche Nietzsche

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