Progression & The Bigger Picture

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For some personal growth comes easy, for others it the idea feels gut-wrenching and the thought of even taking action makes us feel discusted with ourselves. Really, you can choose to live in the dumps because you don’t have everything you want or you can make a stand. Its up to you to decide today’s the day everything’s going to change. Decide that If you fail, you’ll just begin again and nothing can keep you from achieving what you truly believe is possible.

The lust for better achievement is something that is developed through continuous action. Not everybody seeks to improve themselves, not everybody is motivated to run a marathon or go to the gym everyday. We all find our own ways to feel like we’ve achieved something.

Video game developers take full advantage of this. The need for progression is integrated into almost all video games now-a-days. Our need of self-mastery and achievement fuel our egos making video games rewarding and highly addictive.

Decide your focus, be specific with what it is you want to achieve and what areas of your self you want to improve. Be clear and distinguish what action steps need to be taken to meet this accomplishment.

Establish a vision you can begin to work towards through consistent action. Dedicate yourself to action. Eliminate distractions but remember to have fun when you need it. Remember balance is key to a happy and successful life.

Analyze yourself determine whether you’re taking the action steps needed. Are you letting your emotions interfere with taking action? Remember, either way change is inevitable, choose to take part of the creation process or to learn to accept what is. You cannot be angry at something you do not choose to change. Begin to take responsibility for yourself and let logic guide you through the puzzle of life. Learn to monitor and alter your moods whenever needed. Find a quiet place, listen to music, get your pump on, whatever it is get into your zone each and every day.

Controlling your emotions means setting the mood for whatever it is you need to do. Get psyched up then get down to business. Remember to put first things first and to always choose the best rational.

Let go of stress, you’re going to fail its inevitable. Choose to fail putting your best foot forward. When you fall remember pain is only temporary – No pain, no gain – It’s a stepping stone to success so embrace it. Just breathe. Forget about your worries, let go of your expectations just be at ease with what is. Sometimes life can throw a lot at us but we need to remember to focus on the bigger picture.

Commit yourself; what do you have to lose? Are your problems really as bad as they seem? What’s standing in your way from action? Most of the time our problems really aren’t what they seem. Choose to see your situation from a different perspective. Learn to live in the moment and put your thoughts away. Don’t let the voice inside your head distract you from enjoying and being your best self.

You are the ruler, don’t let the tiny voices push you around. You’re in command of this spaceship, now take off and fly.

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Creating a Vision

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Without imagination we are unable to see into tomorrow, without imagination we must live with our pains and are forced to live the day-to-day reality hopelessly. With imagination we are able to establish a vision and more able to customize ourselves to acquire the tools needed to thrive in tomorrow’s world. With vision and imagination we are able to project the potential concerns and able to make the changes needed to succeed.

Imagination and a creative approach to problem solving is essential but without willpower nothing is possible.

Willpower is everything. Its the ability to do what needs to be done rather than doing what would be prefferred as more enjoyable. Life isn’t easy. One of my favorite sayings is from a Billy Ocean song “when the going gets tough the tough get going”. Willpower is the ability to perservere through hard times, through struggles and adversity; its the difference between someone reaching their potential or not.

Willpower is action and without action we are left in our minds to speculate. Refuse to speculate choose to participate instead.

Participate by creating a plan of action:

  1. Stop to consider where you want to see yourself within 1 year, 3 years and 5+ years.
    Determine what you hope to have accomplished within these periods of time.
  2. Fill in the gaps
    What are your strengths and weaknesses and where can you improve?
    Determine which skills are necessary and which are irrelevant moving forward.
    What will need to be learnt that could potentially increase earning potential?
  3. Be proactive
    Consider all the threats and situations that may arise. Have strategies planned for dealing with these issues.
  4. Determine short, medium & long term goals. Be realistic and reasonable.
    “God grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – Reinhold Niebuhr.
  5. Create milestones & rewards
    Break down each goal step-by-step. Determine a proper course of action in order to have these goals accomplished within the given timeframe. Reward yourself in new and exciting ways when you finish on time.
  6. Revise, Re-evaluate and Reorganize.
    Determine whether your plan of action was reliable and efficient.
    What worked? What didn’t work? What could have been done better?

Your plan of action is a rule of measurement which we can more precisely evaluate or progression towards our goals. Be realistic with your plan. If you refuse to follow your plan of action don’t expect to reach your goals, its your choice.

Your plan of action should inspire the next step towards your vision. Actions should never wander aimlessly because the next step is clear and specific.

“Where there is no vision there is no hope” – George Washington Carver

Decide on a vision and do everything within your power to get there. Be resourceful overcome and persevere. All you have is this moment. Your future is created by what you do now not tomorrow. Don’t sell yourself short of what you’re worth. Love yourself, take action and begin now.

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Healing Power of Writing

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Since I began writing my blogs I have felt this enormous sense of ease that has taken over my life. Still I run into my occasional problem but nothing I can’t come to understand. Blogging to me has helped me tremendously by giving me a different perspective when tackling my problems.

Writing has a profound effect when immersed creatively. As an author of an expressive piece of writing a lot of relevant insight into one’s life can be gathered. Writing can have a therapeutic effect improving mood, well-being and reducing stress. Reflecting and writing about good things can help us to feel more positive and motivated while also balancing the mental tabs of an overcrowded mind.

Writing about certain topics can help an author to gain insight into his/her priorities to better understand his/her emotional reaction. Expressive writing is thought to help enhance self-regulation and facilitate mental health. Whether reflecting on positive aspects of life trauma or visualizing our best possible self, writing allows individuals to examine a previously unexamined part of their lives.

Trauma writing is predicated on the idea we must revisit, re-experience and re-evaluate past traumas to release pent-up emotion and to really let go. When we choose to hold back from sharing our traumatic events we tend to experience chronic autonomic arousal and immune function deterioration. Writing can be an outlet to deal with pain rather than just blocking it out.

BPS or best possible self-based writing tends to bring awareness to ourselves when considering higher-level goals. Writing about our best personal self allows us to clarify our goals while reorganizing priorities and deciding on values. BPS writing appears to offer the same therapeutic benefits as trauma-based writing without the damper on mood.

“I write because I don’t know what I think until I read what I say” – Flannery O’Connor

Writing is a journey and can be a vessel to take you from point A to point B. If you’re feeling writer’s block remember to just let it flow. Write on whatever topic is concerning you this very moment. Write about where you would love to see yourself in the future. Write about your dream vacations, your dream home and your dream job. Write about writing. Write about psychology, spirituality or health. Write blogs about blogs. For the love of God just write and see where it takes you.

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Goal-Setting & Rewarding Behavior

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Time to stop avoiding everything it is we have to do; it’s time we start setting goals for what we want to achieve. So much time can be wasted sitting around in thought contemplating what could be accomplished – no more of that, time to start doing. Time to start taking action for the course of your life.

“It is the set of the sails, not the direction of the wind that determines which way we will go” – Jim Rohn

Set your sail, determine your course of action; find goals that are meaningful to you and plot your way of achieving them. Create achievement milestones that could be followed up with potential rewards. Rewards could be anything from new purchases to pampering yourself. Remember happiness is the main goal and balance is happiness.

Balance is difficult, moderation is no easy task. List your goals and list your potential rewards for accomplishing these goals. Rewards similar to goals can be used to stretch an individual’s comfort zone. Determine whether these goals are worthy of such rewards and if so be sure vary your rewards in terms of new experiences.

Your rewards should always be something you can look forward to, they should be something that motivates you on the days when your heads not entirely in the game. This is why I say to vary your rewards, when your rewards no longer peak your interest you gradually will start to lose your flare and motivation. Rewarding and loving yourself despite any circumstance is key to growing; remember you deserve to reward yourself for all the hard work you’ve done.

Think of your reward as a toast, a toast to what you’ve accomplished and a toast to what’s to come. If you choose not to reward yourself your journey can become stale and boring fairly quickly. Your reward is a confirmation of a job well done allowing you to reflect and pause while also making the journey worth enduring.

Remember not to get to caught up in rewarding yourself. Delaying gratification is the biggest determining factor of someone’s success or failure. If an individual is unable to control their willpower they slowly lose control of other aspect of their life. Loss of willpower can be exhibited in society’s addiction for videogames. Addiction to video games has quickly become a norm within the past 20 years. It is not unusual for a child to spend multiple hours in front of the television per night.

Remember to exercise your willpower. Will power is like a muscle it will lose its strength over time unless you’re willing to exercise it. Choosing to give into every single desire has a downward spiral type effect. Giving into temptations reduces your self-esteem and creates an environment that promotes the cycle of self-sabotage.

Will power is everything… What’s the point of creating goals if you know you’ll never take action to achieve them? Create goals, achievements and milestones you know you’ll complete. Be sure to stretch your comfort zone but make sure your goals are realistic and measurable.

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Don’t settle in a place where you’re unhappy. Don’t settle for what others think. Settle for what you deserve.

Thought is the wind, knowledge the sail and mankind the vessel” – Augustus Hare

Set sail; start moving forward striving for your ideal life. Remember not to overload yourself with rewards but instead reward yourself when it’s deserved. Immediate desires will shatter a potential future if you let it. Map out the journey ahead and don’t steer off course. Love yourself. Remember life’s about the journey not the destination.

“Everything comes and goes, I dealt with the undertow keeping my head above the water, pushed on now I run the show” – Classified

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