Learning to Accept Today

Self control sucks, why is it we want the things we want so bad? Yet we get mad at ourselves the moment we have at it.

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Some people go their whole lives caught up in addictive behaviour, their whole lives with intentions to quit but never really taking action.

Life and its moments will never be perfect we need to begin today. We need to see today in a new light, free of attachment and desire. Free of the thought “I need _____ to be happy” (fill the blank with whatever it is you abuse)

We all have certain behaviors we wish we could quit; to bad it’s not that easy.

Most of us are conditioned by our environments; it’s easier to accept what is rather than fighting against the current. Whether deliberate or not, subconsciously we adapt to our surroundings making them our reality.

Peer pressure is impossible to overcome if you constantly are bombarded by people you consider influencers. These influencers appear to have it all going for them on the surface yet on the other side of the coin they don’t realize the harm they’re inflicting on themselves in the long-term.

Everyone wants to be happy. You see it everywhere, advertising messages of happiness; it’s what’s being sold. Don’t let anyone sell you on the idea of happiness it’s nothing you can buy or consume.

Happiness comes from taking part in the journey of life, its heart-aches, its ups, downs and everything in between. It’s all a lesson.

The lesson is to become one with suffering and to accept your life as it is. We can’t change the past or future all we can do is act within the very moment we’re given.

Act in the moment, don’t grieve any longer. Don’t let self-sabotaging behaviour control the direction of your life. It’s never to late to start again. It’s never to late to reinvent yourself and change the course of your life.

Start today, start with the intentions to make today better than yesterday. Make everyday better than the last and complete everything you start. Don’t live with resentment of “I didn’t do this” or “I didn’t do that”.

Prioritize with the future in mind, start taking action against anything that’s eating you away. Start scheduling time to do the things that actually matter and following through with your word to do them.

Capitalize on your strengths and refuse to neglect your weaknesses, choose to participate in the journey of life. Choose to grow and develop yourself into something. Build the strongest version of yourself.

Find your grit; find your purpose for starting and don’t let anyone convince you it’s not worthy. Make a mission statement, write it down, and make sure you see it everyday. Use it to remind yourself in remembering the reason you put forth the effort you do. Let it be a symbol of your journey, a reflection of the transformations that are and will be.

 

Getting/Staying Motivated

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Getting inspired is different for everyone, what inspires me might not even interest you. For me, inspiration comes from engaging in new music, new read materials or personal achievements. Taking part in my personal development journey my physical and mental growth is its own reward.

Being motivated and staying determined is never easy but can be managed well if you know what you’re doing. It’s hard to know what steps to take if you don’t know where you’re going which is why having a clear vision is so important.

What is it you’re trying to accomplish? When you think about the challenge how does it make you feel?

Thinking about the challenge should give you a rush of adrenaline. Don’t let your negative thoughts beat you up. Embrace your challenges with a sense of excitement, each opportunity is a chance to learn and try something new.

Challenges are a blessing in disguise but It’s all on how you choose look at it. You can choose to dwell at the thought of challenge or you can choose to find your fire inside and release your inner warrior.

How you view challenge will determine your levels of stress. Stress is the enemy, don’t live with the enemy.

Focus on aspects under your control. Have a plan, be proactive, and always be ready to take the next step. Remember life will knock you down multiple times before you’re even able to sniff what it is you’re working towards. The key is perseverance, always getting back up. Don’t let failure define you instead let it guide you on how to approach the next step.

Believe in yourself and stay poised you will overcome your current situation in time. Have faith in yourself, if it was easy everyone would do it. If you find strong self-purpose and value in something don’t let anyone influence your perspective.

Always keep the end in mind and remember your core principles. It’s easy to get lost and forget our purpose behind our actions when we don’t receive immediate rewards. Remember to maintain a long-term perspective think today’s sacrifices can be tomorrow’s blessings if you act accordingly.

Life’s not fair, we can’t always set out to do everything we wish to but what’s important is we try to do everything we possibly can. Don’t live with regrets and unwanted tension. Stay determined and choose to participate in altering the course of your life for the better. Choose to be hopeful and live with purpose each and every day.

Choose to practice daily, practice whatever it is you wish to better yourself in. Let your progression move you. Reflect on how far you’ve come and toast to how far you’ll go. Be humble and appreciate every step along the way.

Challenge yourself; challenge yourself to learn all you can, to beat your own personal records, to be fully independent, challenge yourself to be a balanced whole person. Most of all challenge yourself to rise to the occasion and never give up.

Life’s not easy; don’t resort to feeling content with your unhappiness. If you’re not happy with your current situation do something about it.

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Reinventing Yourself

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No one said life was easy and it’s apparent its not. If there was one guide to living the best life then no other guide would ever need to be made. If there was a magic pill or some easy way I would have found it by now but trust me there isn’t.

We all search for answers to please us. We question ourselves, we question our purpose. Some of us over time lose ourselves and begin to question our values. Through this self examination we become fixated on things we cannot change rather than things we can. We begin paralyzing ourselves while reflecting on the past or living in hope of the future.

We become our own worst enemies battling with our minds for what we want.

Why do people experience crisis in their lives?

People experience crisis in their lives because they can’t accept the truth of reality. Reality is hard. Reality is tough. More often then not these people have been disillusioned for a greater portion of their lives and are in tough hole to get out of. Inevitably these people come to experience “reality checks” and realize that their life is nothing that they had planned.

Why Plan?

If you don’t give yourself direction the wind will decide for you. Happiness and success isn’t something you just stumble upon its something you strive towards. Living without a plan is like shooting at a dart board with a blindfold on. You may hit your mark but most likely you’re shooting blindly and odds are you’ll never come close to your target.

Guidelines to Managing Action

    • Set daily, monthly, annual and long-term goals.
    • Evaluate your current self. How do you currently spend your time? What could you be doing differently? Can resources be leveraged differently? More efficiently? What are your biggest distractions? Can you practice moderation?
    • Rely on lists. Forget about the traditional to-do lists, instead make day or time specific lists. Any task that is “iffy” in terms of being completed can be organized in a “Someday/Maybe” list.
    • Have a system for your lists. Have a filing system and specific categories. Some categories could possibly be a “projects” list, a “next actions” list and a “waiting for” list.
    • Evaluate based on a weekly review. Ensure your brain is clear and all loose strands of the past few days have been collected, processed, and organized.

Its ALL ABOUT YOU!

Remember that your quality life will look different from my quality life. We are all unique and have different needs and wants from one another. Don’t steal someone else’s vision, create your own. Establish what’s important to you and what’s worth working towards.

Create a system to reach your desired goals. Be specific with the action steps you need to take to get there. Again, consider making lists to identify the new changes you’ll need to make.

Action Steps to Reinventing & Modifying Behaviour

    • Wake Up Early.
    • Make lists everyday.
    • Prioritize your tasks.
    • Complete your lists.
    • Do the hardest tasks first.
    • Tidy & remove all clutter.
    • Think rich. (upbeat, positive and focused)
    • Save 10-20% of your income.
    • Control your thoughts and emotions.
    • Schedule uninterrupted blocks of time.
    • Read & improve your knowledge.
    • Work in 20 minute spurts.
    • Spend less time sitting.

Reinventing yourself takes time don’t move away from the process. Start today not tomorrow. If you can’t take action at this very moment plan proactively. Learn to be reliable and to count on yourself. Get your energy levels up and be healthy. Unplug from all electronics and find quiet time to recharge. There’s no success without failure, take everything you’ve learnt and let it change you. Focus on changing your inner self and the outer world will follow.

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Conscious Entertainment

Why do our homes seem like consciousness sinkholes? The moment we get home we plunge into our unconscious behaviour from the moment we get home to the moment we leave for work the next morning. Sitting has become a disease. It’s so easy to be pre-occupied nowadays, if we’re not lost into our phones most likely we are lost into TV shows, movies or music. We become so lost in our behaviour that the night passes with absolutely nothing getting accomplished.

It’s so easy to get mesmerized. Whether it be fantastic writing or eye-capturing graphics the fantasy is real. We’ve become so subdued by the reflection that we become lost and disassociated in our actual lives.

I’m not knocking TV shows, movies or music… I’d never do that, I’ve done my fair share of participating. What I’m trying to rationalize is conscious viewing.

Rather than binge watching shows/movies we should be more deliberate with our entertainment. Its fine to get lost into a show but at what cost?

Our sources of entertainment have become sinkholes for our behaviour. We should be more deliberate with how we spend our time. Watching TV is fine but watching TV for two/three hours every single night gets a bit costly. We begin to avoid the daily practices we should be participating in. Television breaks will, it depletes willpower.

It’s like sitting in a closed room with nothing but donuts in front of you. It’s only a matter of time before you break and have one. This is the same kind of influence television has on us. Although we may be able to avoid the television periodically, it’s only a matter of time before we plug ourselves back in.

Whatever happened to going outside or reading a book? It seems so unnatural this day in age. Considering most people experience anxiety or ADHD symptoms it makes what should be usual definitely unusual.

All of our unhealthy symptoms are a sign of neglect. Neglecting to be informed, neglecting nature, and neglecting to care for one’s self. We need to begin to challenge ourselves, we need to unplug from technology and begin to enjoy the outdoors. We need quiet and piece of mind.

Being constantly bombarded by messages and never slowing down can become a barrier to one’s personal reflection. We need a quiet pause to analyze and evaluate, to follow our trains of thought and to do our best thinking.

We need to work on building up our attention span. Begin to socialize more, listen when people speak. Read books and learn everything we possibly can. We need enjoy different events and participate in new and exciting activities. Schedule blocks to enjoy yourself. Whether it be watching TV, playing on the internet or going to events be deliberate with how you spend your time. Time spent only becomes wasted once we lose purpose for our actions. Remember that taking time to do the things should never be an issue, the issue is when you become fully consumed into whatever it is you’re doing and forget about our other concerns.

Remember, fantasy is cool but its not real life; live consciously and be mindful in whatever it is you’re doing.

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Stretching Comfort Zones

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Where does fear come from? Are we born with it? How do we control it? What effect does fear have on us?

One phrase from John Maxwell’s book “Laws of Growth” he mentions making a habit out of stretching comfort zones. Our comfort zones are made to keep us safe. These zones aren’t so much a matter of space but instead a kneejerk reaction that prevents us from acting in new challenging ways. We conform to what’s already been established rather than rationalizing the most efficient manner. Whether it be lack of awareness, lack of confidence or lack of autonomy we tend to just accept the common way of doing things regardless if it’s the best way.

Some people live ignorant to information. These are the same people who believe everything they hear. Fear of failure, fear of rejection and fear of being inadequate hold us back from expressing our true thoughts, beliefs and actions. We tend to conform because it’s the easiest thing to do. This is an example of comfort zones that need to be stretched. We all need to take responsibility for our own well being thus gain all the information we can to make informative decisions. We need to become fully independent and completely responsible for ourselves mentally and physically.

Hold yourself accountable. Don’t let other people’s beliefs become your truth. Write your own story and discover your own limits.

Don’t be afraid to take risks that’s all life is. With great risk comes great rewards so bite the bullet. Refuse to live in fear. Choose to rise up and take action against whatever it is that’s bothering you. Try not to think but just to take action. Find your flow.

Over thinking is a problem a lot of us have. We tend to assess the problem from a variety different angles and never actually taking action to correct the problem. This is a situation many people experience with their weight loss. They believe they know what has to be done, they know everything that needs to be avoided yet they are completely in their head – never taking any action. Sometimes we need to look at our circumstances with a different perspective, an objective lens. Fear will control you if you let it. We need to realize our emotions and thoughts won’t always be on our side but regardless we must action strive to act logically. We must act according to our values and vision.

Don’t let over thinking become your problem. Write absolutely everything down. Free your mind from repeating thoughts. Assemble lists till your heart’s satisfied.

There’s a time for planning and a time for action; planning is important but is nothing without action. Planning helps to prioritize making your days more efficient. Writing down your plans allows you to free your mind from overbearing thoughts. The planning process allows us to clarify the specific action steps to be taken. Although you can write these steps down a million times but without commitment to action nothing gets accomplished.

Remember attitude is everything. Life is a challenge and should be viewed as such. Choose to stretch your comfort zones, be humble and to seek wisdom through new experiences. You are the facilitator of your own life so it’s up to you to begin the movement. Action starts today.

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