Learning to Accept Today

Self control sucks, why is it we want the things we want so bad? Yet we get mad at ourselves the moment we have at it.

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Some people go their whole lives caught up in addictive behaviour, their whole lives with intentions to quit but never really taking action.

Life and its moments will never be perfect we need to begin today. We need to see today in a new light, free of attachment and desire. Free of the thought “I need _____ to be happy” (fill the blank with whatever it is you abuse)

We all have certain behaviors we wish we could quit; to bad it’s not that easy.

Most of us are conditioned by our environments; it’s easier to accept what is rather than fighting against the current. Whether deliberate or not, subconsciously we adapt to our surroundings making them our reality.

Peer pressure is impossible to overcome if you constantly are bombarded by people you consider influencers. These influencers appear to have it all going for them on the surface yet on the other side of the coin they don’t realize the harm they’re inflicting on themselves in the long-term.

Everyone wants to be happy. You see it everywhere, advertising messages of happiness; it’s what’s being sold. Don’t let anyone sell you on the idea of happiness it’s nothing you can buy or consume.

Happiness comes from taking part in the journey of life, its heart-aches, its ups, downs and everything in between. It’s all a lesson.

The lesson is to become one with suffering and to accept your life as it is. We can’t change the past or future all we can do is act within the very moment we’re given.

Act in the moment, don’t grieve any longer. Don’t let self-sabotaging behaviour control the direction of your life. It’s never to late to start again. It’s never to late to reinvent yourself and change the course of your life.

Start today, start with the intentions to make today better than yesterday. Make everyday better than the last and complete everything you start. Don’t live with resentment of “I didn’t do this” or “I didn’t do that”.

Prioritize with the future in mind, start taking action against anything that’s eating you away. Start scheduling time to do the things that actually matter and following through with your word to do them.

Capitalize on your strengths and refuse to neglect your weaknesses, choose to participate in the journey of life. Choose to grow and develop yourself into something. Build the strongest version of yourself.

Find your grit; find your purpose for starting and don’t let anyone convince you it’s not worthy. Make a mission statement, write it down, and make sure you see it everyday. Use it to remind yourself in remembering the reason you put forth the effort you do. Let it be a symbol of your journey, a reflection of the transformations that are and will be.

 

Reducing Stress Through Self-Expression

It’s human nature to react to stress in a fight or flight pattern, its natural to be fearful but not healthy to live in it. We need to learn to cope and overcome stress; we need to learn to manage our responses to our external environment. We need to understand ourselves and how to manage our stress levels.

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Endorphins can be a natural pain and stress fighter, secretion of endorphins leads to a feeling of euphoria. Endorphins can be released from repetition, doing something novel and new or from doing something exciting and thrill-seeking. Really we can become accustom to anything, and the habit itself can release these chemicals.

The idea of understanding how endorphins work goes hand in hand with being able to monitor and control them. Rather than being in the passenger seat there are ways we can intentionally cause these chemicals to flow.

In the case of reaching a healthy euphoria it begins with the physical; exercise and self-expression.

Exercise releases endorphins, improves sleep and removes toxins through sweat. There any many variations of exercise one can incorporate into their daily life. It doesn’t have to be super stressful it can be fun and entertaining. It’s important to stay body smart especially as you grow older begin to lose muscle and use of some of your functions. It’s important while you’re still young and capable to engage your body, muscles and joints to ward off signs of possible disability in the future. In the case of your health its critical we are proactive rather than reactive. If we wait for the instance to react it may be to little to late.

Aside from exercise, self expression through various forms of art is a good way to release stress and can be considered therapy allowing us to release pent up thoughts and feelings without fear of judgement. Acts such as listening to music, writing, or drawing allows us an outlet to reflect on ourselves and our circumstances allowing us to see it from a different light. We can easily become prisoners of our own perspectives when we refuse to be open-minded. Self-expression allows us to be passionate for something outside of ourselves and helps to develop a positive mindset. Art therapy can help to develop one’s patience and understanding, it can help broaden their scope and to see from an objective lens. It’s a means for controlling emotions and negative feelings channeling them into something productive. It’s not about the end result it’s about appreciating the beauty of life.

A lot of the time our emotions work against us and we can become our own worst enemy. Participating in exercise and various forms of art we move outside the realm of thinking and allow ourselves to find our flow. Taking action in some form of hobby we allow ourselves to create rather than destroy potentially releasing the massive benefits of euphoria.

Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide in the madness” – Allen Ginsberg

Learn to take the time to pause. Learn to take the time to care for your body and mind. Little acts can go long ways in relieving stress even if you don’t fully understand the benefits.

“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth in uglier ways” – Sigmund Freud

This is the idea. We must remain true to ourselves and our feelings. We live in a world filled with destructive triggers its up to you to find the light. Adjust your physiology and your psyche will follow. Smile more and you’ll flutter feelings of happiness, laugh more and you’ll begin to feel joyous and more socialable. Focus on the creation process, don’t allow yourself to get bored and dwell on the past but instead to take initiative to relieve the suffering.

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Building Self-Esteem & Following Your Word

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It’s crazy what we can accomplish when we really set our minds to something. When all distractions are eliminated and focus is at its peak we’re able to accomplish so much it’s ironic we accomplish so little.

What do you want to get done today? What’s today’s top priority? If you could reflect at the end of the day what is it you want to say you did?

Do you wake up in the morning with achievable goals in mind?

It’s difficult. Not everyone knows what it is they want to accomplish. Most of us have been laying back and relaxing so long we forget we’re capable of achieving.

We neglect ourselves till our self-worth is diminished and we no longer value ourselves. When we neglect action we begin to believe life’s opportunities are based on luck. We begin to believe all power is out of control and things will never change.

Wake up with a sense of purpose. Where do you want to be within a week’s time? A month’s time? Start to live according to your plans.

Build your self-confidence and self-esteem with little steps. Begin with something small and gradually challenge yourself more and more as you build momentum.

Follow your word. Your word is everything to yourself and others.

What is your word? Your word is following through with whatever it is you say you’re going to do. Your word is integrity.

Your word builds other people’s faith in you. Without following through on your word you become unreliable and toxic anchor. Following through with your word you can build the greatest of plans. Following through with your word you can build the strongest of support systems and a favorable reputation.

Where to Begin:

1) Write things down. More often then not we have so much on our plate our brain decides out with the old in with the new. We begin to discard thoughts that deem unimportant to the current situation. If you can’t take action now write it down and take action when the opportunity presents itself.

2) Be honest with yourself and others. Part of following your word is not offering false promises. We have to be honest with what we are truly capable of so we don’t overpromise. Be humble, more often then not its better to undersell that way you can exceed expectations.

3) Have good intentions & strong morals. Life is full of different influences, don’t let them distract you and throw you off. Living according to your values and purpose will become its own reward over time. Don’t deviate.

4) Hope for the best but be realistic. Don’t let doubt limit your potential. When you say you’re going to do something do it with a positive and open mind, don’t let stress get in the way. Choose not to complain or dwell but rather to look at the situation in a new light.

5) Remember the concept of karma. Do unto others as you wish to be done unto yourself. Live life in a purposeful way and gradually you’ll build a network of like-minded individuals. There world is full of infinite possibilities and the internet offers many ways to find social groups. Choose to create and publish, find your niche. Don’t be limited to your local community, get out there.

Remember you can build true value by living through your word. Choose to lead by example, not everyone is ready to live in such a way. Don’t procrastinate, start taking action and conquer anything that plagues you. Don’t let fear stand in the way from you living the life you’ve dreamed of. Start with little steps and begin from there, life doesn’t get easier we just get wiser and better at managing it.

Remember this concept of self-esteem and don’t forget it:

“Self-esteem is like a difficult-to-cultivate flower. It requires frequent nurturing that occurs when you keep your word and follow through on your promises.” Derrick Bell

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Principles of Blog Writing

When it comes to blog writing everyone has their own take. Blog writing is self-expression at its finest, allowing even the most complex individuals to showcase and articulate their deepest thoughts without fear of rejection.

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Honestly when I think about blog writing I think to myself… Am I really cut out for this? Could I really maintain a blog? Would I be able to keep up with engaging content that viewers actually want to read?

Realistically it doesn’t matter as long as I write. My first principle of blog-writing is doing it for myself. Writing about topics that peak my interest and at a volume that makes sense to me. If I wake up tomorrow and don’t want to write a blog, that’s fine, I won’t write a blog that day. If I wake up and want to write 4 blogs then I don’t let anything stop me and I do so. I try not to criticize myself in terms of working on my blog; I try to just allow the energy to flow naturally.

My second principle would be patience. There are many factors that contribute to becoming a successful SEO and blog writing is only one of those aspects. It’s essential to continue to stay patient not only when considering building followers but also when working on developing your own personal skills. Change is inevitable and we need to continue our own personal progression to stay innovative and ahead of the curve.

Principle three; perseverance. (A) Staying true to your voice, (B) putting the time in when it counts and (C) remaining consistent.

(A) First persevere with your voice. Don’t forget about why you began and what your aim was. What were your values and your overall goal? Stay consistent with who you are just focus on A+ quality. Honestly we can all be insightful if we are given the opportunity to engage in deep thought. We all see the world different from one another and can learn from each other’s various perspectives. Staying true to yourself means staying in line with your passion and finding a niche that will appreciate and support you for who you are.

(B) Putting in the time when it counts refers to not allowing yourself to fall behind. It means being able to deviate good decisions from bad ones, doing what actually needs to be done rather than a lesser task. It means potentially staying up some nights just to get head sometimes just to allow freedom to breathe. Writing can easily become a daunting task if you begin to resent it but that’s not to say it could also introduce you into a world of euphoria engaging in new positive thought patterns.

(C) Perseverance is everything. “Writing at its best, is a lonely life” – Ernest Hemingway. You need to be willing to endure solitude and isolation to concentrate on your own thoughts.

Principle four; care for yourself. Now this may seem odd and almost like it has nothing to do with blog-writing but that couldn’t be further from the truth. If blogging is our platform for self-expression then we need to be sure we are expressing ourselves in a whole, joyous way. Choose to live in the light rather than the darkness.

If we are angry at the world 24/7 365 days out of the year then most likely when we write the underlying tone that the readers will embrace is that of anger or sadness. We need to be able to write from the heart from a place of love or the craft will become tedious and repetitive fairly quickly.”We can’t learn to love another until we’ve learnt to love ourselves” this is also in our writing. Learn to love yourself and enjoy being happy everything else will fall in line.

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The Blog-Writing Process & Developing Your Voice

A cripple most of us have is we think we need “all the information” before starting. I mean in some instances this may be true but in my case for blog writing the sooner I begin the sooner I can hone my ability and reach my goals.

If consistency is everything when it comes to blog posting then I will post consistently and my quality will improve over time. We want everything to be perfect immediately which just wont happen. Perfectionism is a cripple and an illusion, life and its situations will never be perfect. If you’re waiting for a sign to fall from heaven you’ve been mistaken.

You need to start now and the practice will develop you into something new. If you want to be a writer you’re going to have to get use to observing deep thought, you’re going to have to get comfortable being in seclusion when you write and the consistency in which you do so.

Neglecting to write you’re dampening your growth, experience is everything. You may think you have the best game plan but how do you know if you don’t allow it to take affect? Blog-writing is a long process of trial and error. It’s about learning what does and doesn’t work for your audience.

Neglecting to post only adds to the battle with time. Building a following takes time and each post should be scheduled deliberately. Waiting to post only prolongs the process of building a following. Your voice is what’s most important even if you’re not the best writer at the moment.

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Hone your inner critic.

Practice makes perfect and editing takes time. Writing a blog then posting it immediately can critically reduce the quality of your content.

Write blogs, keep them organized in an editorial calendar and give yourself more than enough time to edit. Editing should be the most time-consuming process of blog-writing and should never be neglected.

Not every blog you write should be posted. Writing blogs ahead of time and reading them numerous times scanning for errors and inconsistencies allows us to analyze the overall content quality. Read with an editor’s eye, have others read and critique.

Every blog you post should have been read at least 10 times before being posted. Each time with a new focus. (1) Does the content flow nicely? (2) Is the grammar correct? (2) Are all facts true? (3) Is the formatting neat? (4) Are keywords used effectively? (5) How many links are used? (5a) Can an anchor link be used for to promote a similar archived post? (5b) Are all my sources included?

Of course everyone’s process for blog writing is different but editing should never be overlooked. Editing is the difference between a blog site floating or sinking. Start today not tomorrow, If your blogs aren’t up to the standards you want choose not to post them but be sure to keep writing and developing your abilities.

“Write. Write more. Write even more. Write even more than that. Write when you don’t want to. Write when you do. Write when you have something to say. Write when you don’t. Write everyday. Keep writing.” – Brian Clark

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Path of Least Resistance

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It’s so easy to get inside your head and convince yourself not to do something. Its so easy to let fear control us. Its so easy to begin something and then to just put it down. It’s easy to give up when things get tough. But what’s easy isn’t always what’s right.

More often then not we opt to take the path of least resistance. Its just so much easier to be free of criticism or judgement from others. A lot of us battle ourselves everyday, the last thing we want to do is rub people the wrong way and create more conflict. As a means of avoiding conflict and failure its easier just to ignore the possibilities of what could be. It’s easier for us to hold onto our pent up emotions and accept what is rather than going against the current.

Conditioned by our thoughts of conformity we begin to believe the limitations of our parents, peers and authority. We begin to feel content with our environment and accept it as the true reality. We learn to live with our problems rather than to learning to adapt to inevitable changes.

Rather than enjoying the fruits of our labour we are frozen by action left to contemplate and rationalize every possible excuse as to why we failed. Remaining frozen in action living with sadness and anger we allow our failure to define us depleting us of all available resources. Living with this depletion of resources we remain in an unstable environment that lacks structure, support and personal growth.

Struggling to be happy we remain stagnate and actually begin show signs of physical and mental decline. We begin to lose our purpose and reshuffle our priorities. We begin to see life through a short lens living as if we were to die tomorrow.

Greed and immediate gratification become all so important. Being that we are unhappy and discontent with our environment we turn to selfish behaviour that promotes dopamine production. Ideally the thought is “I’d rather be happy” but this is such a short-sighted statement. In the long-run feeding our senses becomes toxic and poisonous to the individual. Immediate gratification becomes self-sabotage and this quickly becomes a deeply engrained pattern.

We begin to forget about our dreams and lose faith altogether. We lose purpose and our reasons for being. We begin thinking “is this really all that life is”. Unable to feel true happiness due to the fact the pleasure centers of the brain have been overloaded day in and day out we begin to feel hopeless and burnt out.

Life’s tough but it’s time to grab the bull by the horns. If you don’t begin to start taking action fear will guide you down a dark path. Don’t let fear back you into a corner you can’t get out of.

Take control of your life. Take control of your health. Take control of your finances. Your problems will begin a snowball effect if you choose to neglect them. Refuse to turn the other cheek, stay on top of monitoring your progress.

Stretch your comfort zones and get comfortable doing so. Remember, a house cat is not your spirit animal, your spirit animal is fierce, intimidating and never backs down.

The path of least resistance is an emotional unstable journey which guarantees jealousy and resentment. How far down does the rabbit hole go? I’m not going to participate to find out and you shouldn’t either. Escape the darkness, climb into the light.

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Overcoming Worry & Self-Doubt

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Getting your mind on your side working as a friend instead of a foe sounds a lot easier than it is. There’s many things you could easily give up if you were to listen to your biggest critic but just because you may not see results immediately doesn’t mean the action isn’t worthwhile. Although you may not be relishing in the fruits of your labour stick with it, good things happen with time.

Don’t talk yourself out of living the life you’ve always dreamed. Living better begins with you. What are you willing to sacrifice to get to where you want to be? Are you letting something hold you back that could easily be changed? Most of us are.

Most of us have silly habits that we’ve established over the course of our lives; Silly habits that restrict us from accessing our full energy and distract us from being our best selves.

Nourish your energy or just monitor it till it depletes, truthfully the decisions are up to you.

“The more you lose yourself in something bigger than yourself the more energy you will have” – Norman Peale

Dedicate yourself to a higher purpose, begin to live soulfully. Find your voice and let it speak, do things that nurture your heart and mind. Find a channel in which you can influence others, have solid reasons behind your actions.

Live for something other than yourself. Stop living with such a short-term perspective; begin with the end in mind.

“You can’t build a reputation on what you’re going to do” Henry Ford

Organize yourself and establish a plan. There no reason to start selling your plan to others or convincing others to jump aboard until you’ve done your due diligence.  You can’t be expected to manage others if you have yet to learn to manage yourself.

It takes time, practice and following through with your smaller plans until you become consistent enough to follow through with bigger ones. Understand that gradually you will have the skills you need if you dedicate yourself fully to your plan.

“If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced” – Vincent Van Gogh

Learn to rid the negative voices; learn to get them on your side. The voices will always be there it’s inevitable but they can be silenced through consistent practice.

“The sharpest minds often ruin their lives by over thinking the next step, while the dull win the race with eyes closed” – Bethany Brookbank

This has been me for the longest time (not to say I’m the sharpest mind but) I have been stuck in limbo contemplating the next move for a long time. Don’t let this be you, don’t let over thinking ruin you.

Don’t let self-doubt stand in the way of the things you truly want to do. When you begin to think feelings of self-doubt, ask yourself “what’s the worst that can happen?”

Worry helps no one and only creates more problems, choose to let go of your problems and to begin accepting what is. It is what it is, start accepting life and finding solutions to move past your problems rather than lingering in them.

Worry and self-doubt can destroy you mentally, physically and emotionally until you’re completely depleted of all your resources and begin feeling lost and hopeless.

We’re not all the best at everything, matter of fact most of us just wish we were good at something. Find your strengths and work on your weaknesses… realize everyone has the same twenty four hours in a day; the difference is what you do with them. Stop pouting and complaining and instead start sacrificing those things that don’t equate to the overall end vision.

Realize that maybe you can’t change everything just yet but what you can do is start taking charge. Grab the bull by the horns and continue practicing till there’s no more self-doubt and that momentum is all that is. Take action so one day you can replace your doubt with confidence and faith in your future.

 

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