Embracing the Soul Factor

We’re all destined for great things.. We all have so much potential we refuse and neglect.

We overwork and overconsume to the point we have no energy left to do the things that nourish us soulfully.

So busy plugging away at the day to day duties we quickly forget the importance of nurturing this part of our being.

Why do we put so much focus on the brain and heart but never the soul?

Just cause you don’t see it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

Everything you do has an impact on your soul. You can choose to listen to your inner voice or avoid it completely.

Living through the ego we are ignorant to the concept of the soul. We may think we abide by the soul’s purpose but sooner or later we come to find out we’ve fooled ourselves.

Don’t attach yourself to a piece of knowledge, it is what it is, if its fact and cannot be changed just let it be.

Focus on elements under your control. Take care of your body, it’s a temple for heaven’s sake.

Your body is your passage way to the other elements of being. Don’t be restrained because you’ve neglected movement for so long. Challenge yourself to move and take action.

Build up your endurance gradually.

Don’t worry about having the body of your dreams just worry about having a body that meets the functionality of the soul. Prepare the body so it’s ready for action, ready for whatever stress may arise.

Activities such as something so simple like going for a bike ride can be a joyful experience some people just aren’t able to enjoy.

To think our ancestors walked for days, weeks and even months at a time. We need to be able to endure and persevere and a lot of having the proper mindset comes with being in control of your physical health.

Taking care of your body doesn’t have to be some daunting task, depending on our perspective we can actually make it quite enjoyable.

Taking care of your health isnt about getting a huge pump or having 90% of the blood in our body rushing to our arms, its about being able to physically endure whatever it is that comes our way.

Why does the average joe nowadays have a beer belly and uneven posture?

Most of us have the wrong attitude when it comes to taking care of the body.

We don’t have to spend hours at the gym to have a good health we just have to utilize our muscles to reduce potential muscle atrophy (prevent muscles from weakening over time).

The longer you neglect your health the harder you’ll have to work to get to square one so start becoming accountable.

As long as you have a brain and two feet you can choose your own direction. You’re not a tree.

“If you are willing to do only what’s easy, life will be hard. But if we’re willing to do what’s hard, life will be easy.” T. Harv Eker

Finding Inner Peace

I’ve been reading Osho’s book “The Inner Journey” and I’m in love. It’s so well written and brings about such great peace.

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The main concept of “The Inner Journey” is the fact that over the course of generations we’ve chosen to neglect the soul. In the book they call it “the navel”, our life-energy.

When born our life-energy comes from our mother through our umbilical cord, after cut we experience our first instance of separation from our mother’s. This first instance of separation will notify whether the baby is healthy or ill. After cutting the cord a healthy baby should cry knowing their life-energy source has gone away. Their life-source up until yesterday is no longer. If a baby doesn’t cry after the cord being cut it is most likely the baby is sick or close to death.

Our greatest source of life-energy comes from our navel, our soul, a function of the body that has been neglected.

Over the course of centuries man has developed his functions subconsciously. We breathe without thinking, eat without thinking, sleep, everything needed to survive we do without thinking.

Sadly over the course of this time man has become corrupted due to the nature of evolution. Man has lost touch with being, lost touch with the navel center, rather we have focused all the attention on the brain.

Over the course of time we overdeveloped the brain and neglected to develop the navel. Eyes can’t hear just as ears can’t see, the brain and navel act the same way; the navel can’t function for the brain and the brain can’t function for the navel, they each have their own purpose. When we choose to neglect the needs of the navel we are putting pressure on the brain to comprehend and rationalize something it doesn’t fully understand.

Man’s brain is the most delicate thing in the world, it handles so much stress it’s a wonder how it doesn’t just break down and become mad. We hardly have any idea how delicate the nerves in the brain are, the nerves which carry the entire burden, the whole weight of life.

In order to access the life-energy of the navel center we must first relax our brain and whole body. The more relaxed the brain is the more sensitive it’ll become, you’ll start hearing and feeling every little thing from the heartbeat to the coming and going of your breath.

Being free of contemplation, free from thoughts is the basis of life. There is no significant process of life that’s related to thinking that’s why it’s so important to get into a deep sleep, so your processes can function without hindrance.

We need to free ourselves of anger; we need to learn to love. We cannot hate and love at the same time they can’t co-exist. Just as the heart cannot live and be at death, the heart cannot hate and love simultaneously.

Man’s mind is like a pendulum from one extreme to another, never staying in the middle.

We must learn to love. We must learn the spectrum of hate, we must understand the absence of hate isn’t love it’s just a lesser hate. We cannot love and hate at the same time; we either live through love or live through hate, one or the other.

Living through hate and anger, the heart center remains undeveloped and the impossible starts happening. What the navel and heart can’t complete the person will attempt to complete with his brain causing even more tension and stress.

Relationships from the brain center are based off intellect and only run so deep. Love is blind and arises from levels so deep it becomes difficult for us to understand the reasons for it. Love based off of intellect will never last; we cannot love through our brain only our heart.

Genuine, true friendship comes from the navel center. Love binds, friendship gives freedom. Friendship does not become someone’s master, it doesn’t imprison, it frees. One who is friend to all will reach the divine sooner or later because his relationships are happening with everyone’s center; soon he will become bound to the navel center of the universe.

The flow of breath changes moment to moment according to your state of mind. Either you change your mind and the breath changes or you change your breath and the mind changes. The deeper and slower you breathe the more your navel center will develop. As long as your breathing remains harmonious your thinking will become less.

Ego & The Path of Enlightenment

The Path of Liberation

The stories we tell ourselves play a big part on how we live our lives. Our stories can be those of success or of failure, of love or of hate, greed and envy. The stories we tell ourselves define our reputation, they define our perspective and they define how we interact with other people and how we go about our daily lives. The stories we tell ourselves whether deliberate or not are reflected back to us by our subconscious mind.

Whether these stories finish happily ever after or not is forecasted by the narrator. The narrator, oblivious to the force his story imposes draws himself into constant conflict until able to tame the egoic self. Until we begin to live purposefully and for the greater good we will continuously fall into the ego trap.

Understanding The Ego

The ego is the starting point of the self; it’s consciousness that ensures security and survival.  The ego is the part of self that ensures your individualistic needs are met. Growing up we quickly came to realize which behaviour resulted in getting what we wanted. This is where the ego is devised from.

When needs aren’t met for an individual they subconsciously slip into the egoic state(old behavioural patterns) in order to manipulate their way to get whats desired.

 

 Living with the Egoic Self

Sometimes we feel hopeless like nothing we can do will help us out of our situation we think to ourselves “why try? I’ll lose anyways”, “it’s only going to make the pain worse in the end”, “it won’t make a difference”.

A lot of us live contently with our self-harming behaviour and don’t see it any other way. We begin to feel lost in self-doubt and analyzing ourselves based on our past attempts. We think, “well I tried to quit 100 times before in the past, whats the point trying again?”

Its sad but this is the truth about where most of us are at in our lives. We’ve decided we’d be happier to live with our struggles rather than face up and acknowledge our destructive habits. We’ve decided “I’ll wait till the time is right, there’s no reason to change right now”.  Waiting for a sign from God to help make the life-changing decision.

Lets be honest if you’re waiting for a sign from God to make you start acknowledging your finances and health you’ve got it all wrong. All you’re going to get is a big reality check. The sign you’re going to get is that you neglected control of your life for to long. The lesson of the ego is humility and it’s only a matter of time before you learn.

 

The Purpose of the Ego

The ego is an illusion, a state of mind some live in yet are completely unaware. The ego is a plane of consciousness, its a way of thinking. The ego is “I”; “I this..”,”I that..”, it’s a focus putting all attention on ourselves. Living through the ego we are less informed and more self-privileged. We think only in terms of our own survival.

Living through the ego we become blinded with clouded judgement, unintentionally leading ourselves to our own demise. More often then not we must embrace the path of the ego before we can reach the path of liberation. We must become self-aware of the ego to rid the curse of distorted vision.

 

Frequencies of Being

3 Planes of Consciousness

The Egoic Self – plane of consciousness based on personal history and the stories we tell ourselves. Fueled by material desires and self-sabotaging habits. Oblivious and ignorant to the consequences we continue to live in suffering of the past or demand for the future.

Liberated self – plane of consciousness free from attachment, living amongst abundant resources. Lives in the current moment with a calm quiet mind and natural flow. Accepts what is, lives with love in heart and compassion for others.

Duality  a plane of consciousness where an individual has liberated values but partakes in self-sabotaging behavior. Duality is the middle ground of the enlightened and egoic self. An individual will have illusions of enlightenment yet will confuse behavior because true values have still yet to be established.

 

Transformations in becoming the enlightened self.

Learning Acceptance.
The enlightened self learns to release suffering and accept what is. It is what is is, I am what I am. The first transition step to becoming the enlightened self is realizing the things you can change and understanding the things you can’t.

Building self-confidence & self-esteem.
Releasing of suffering means release from its destructive counterparts. Learning to detach from our material desires we learn to build our self-confidence rather than destroy it. We must learn to let go of hate, jealousy, envy and regret; competition should be healthy inspire us not hinder our ability.

“Jealousy lives upon doubts. It becomes madness or ceases entirely as soon as we pass from doubt to certainty.” – Francois de la Rochefoucauld

Living through love, submission, awe, optimism.
How you treat others is a reflection of how you feel about your self. Once we learn to accept ourselves we can then begin to live in a new light.

From escaping earth to creating heaven on earth.
Learning to love ourselves and others we begin to live with a more honorable & graceful presence. We begin to live in a way that’s true to ourselves and our values rather than hiding from fear of rejection.

Concern for others.
Once we begin to forgive ourselves for our past(s) and relieve ourselves of the burden of the future we can then begin to understand where true happiness comes from. Being content and happy with ourselves we can begin to put forth our effort outwards in a more constructive way. Less fixated on status we are more inclined to help those less fortunate.

Thinking collectively & objectively.
Once removed from our isolated ways of thinking are able to grasp new ideas allowing us to think with a more logical and objective approach. We begin to analyze from different perspectives rather than having only one way of seeing. We become more in tuned with our emotional intelligence and more skillful engaging with others.

Focusing on inner change.
Thinking collectively we come to grips with the idea that the earth is in chaos and we need to do our part to bring back order. On the path to enlightenment we must become more self-aware of ourselves and of the damage we are inflicting to the earth. We need to begin to take a more mindful approach to living.

Focusing on happiness and fufillment.
Once we move away from our subjective universe of thought we begin to understand our feelings more clearly. We begin to understand the importance of having fun and how critical it is when stress. Fun is a key component to happiness and without it life quickly becomes dull. What better way to help the world, helping the world to appreciate fun, always be in a good mood and enjoy life wherever you are.

Thinking logically.
Thinking logically we better understand our own feelings and are better able move past our own limiting beliefs. No longer controlled by forces of anger we are better able to set emotions aside or utilize them whenever necessary to capitalize on opportunity. Fear can be paralyzing if you let it, think to yourself “what do you have to lose?” and strive to take the right approach.

Becoming mindful and alert of our unconscious patterns.
As we become more grounded and self-aware we are better able to analyze our behaviour and to deem what may be beneficial or consequential in the long run. Uncovering unconscious patterns we allow ourselves to better understand the choices we make and how they affect us mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Building willpower and delaying gratification.
Uncovering unconscious patterns we become more adapt and able to reconfigure the triggers that cause them. We become more conscious of the negative influences and can begin to monitor behaviour. Living consciously we can begin to treat ourselves to these desires moderately as a means of rewards for accomplishing goals

Striving to live free from attachment.
Becoming more conscious and aware of our influences and attachment we can encourage a healthy structure through moderation and balance. Stuck in a realm of burden we must free ourselves of addictive behaviour which depletes all our resources and diminishes our life force. We live in a era plagued by temptation and it’s not easy to fight the current but without doing so we remain stuck in our patterns of resentment analyzing the opportunity lost. Remember, balance.

Living in the current moment.
Free from attachment we are able to move past our own flawed thinking patterns. Caught up in loops we are constantly dwelling on the opportunity we’ve forgone and we constantly resent ourselves. Free from attachment we are better able to address the concerns of the present moment. We become less distracted and better able to focus on actions that improve our overall quality of living.

Maturity and Growth.
Free from the grips of attachment we are less distracted by toys and material possessions. In our child-like state we are narcissistic sociopaths manipulating others to get what it is we want. In our child-like state we are only focused on feeding the senses. We are focused on what “feels good” without thought into the consequences. Once we begin to understand every action has a consequence we can better improve our decision making and critical thinking skills. Relieved from distractions we are able to focus on the journey of personal growth.

Grounded with reality.
Free from attachment the past, future and material possessions we begin to see what really matters; the now. Gathering facts living through universal truth we are able to break free from the chains of illusion and live in a more natural way. We begin to understand our anger, the destruction it causes and the pain it brings. We begin to understand and become one with human nature, forgiving others and not faulting them for their mistakes.

Finding inner peace.
From Jekyll and Hyde to the modern Ghandi, duality is the battle of personalities and motives. Relieving the wickedness we begin to find calmness in ones self. Living with duality we can strive to do well for so long before the ego diminishes any progress that’s been made. Living free of burden and attachment – letting go of pain – we can then choose to begin the healing process finding a structure that supports our underlying needs.

A supportive inner voice.
When the going gets tough the tough get going, your inner voice should be one of support; your biggest cheerleader. Choose to fight through your pain and embrace the healing process. Manage your thoughts, feelings and emotions in a way thats conducive to getting things done.  If you begin to beat yourself up and doubt yourself step back and remember your reasoning behind pursuing the action. Think logically, law of averages we will only get better with practice, if you’re to frustrated at the moment take a break and begin again with a calm mind.

Begin building power for yourself.
From constant nagging and emphasizing the negative in everything to accepting challenges and rising up to the occasion. Rather than having low-self esteem dwelling on everything that isn’t begin to take action and improve your current situation. Hard work pays off mentally and physically when your applying yourself constructively. Small accomplishments become huge feats with a little bit of patience and perseverance. Have faith in yourself, have confidence but be honest with yourself and how much effort you’re willing to put in.

A strong sense of willpower.
Learning to love ourselves again we must begin to abide by our word. Our word to ourselves and our word to others, our word is our reputation. Don’t make promises you can’t keep, follow through on everything you said you do. Breaking the pattern of self-sabotaging behaviour is difficult. Just like building muscle, your will is developed through action, practice and training. You’ll have your mind on your side before you know it.

Living in a tranquil state.
From never being able to enjoy yourself to seeing the beauty in anything that comes along. Understand you can only take action when the opportunity presents itself. If you have lingering thoughts of what you need to get done write them down. Don’t let thoughts linger longer than they have to. Be honest with yourself in regards to how much effort you’re going to put in. Schedule blocks of time to work hard and to relax; realize one is not as great without the other but together they can become self-mastery.

Releasing negative thoughts.
Getting into the process of writing things down frees us and allows quietness from overbearing thoughts. Understand you are not your thoughts, you are the observer of your thoughts, nothing else. If an unnecessary thought persists choose to release it and allow other thoughts to flow. You can only take action when the opportunity presents itself, jot down your thoughts and focus on the opportunities of the present moment.

Open & willing to accept posibilities.
Unwilling to accept help we become malicious and vengeful, willing to accept feedback we can better reflect, analyze and grow. Forget about fear of failure, accept humility. Try your best and don’t get down on yourself when you make mistakes. Mistakes are experience and through experience we gather wisdom. Choose to look at life with a beginner’s mind, when the students ready the teacher will appear. Be ready for the lesson.

Being humble & able to accept humility.
At peace with humility we come to terms that we don’t know everything. The more we know, the more we know we don’t. Don’t be ignorant or narrow-minded, be honest with yourself and others with what you know and what you don’t.

“It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels.” – Saint Augustine

Being compassionate & understanding.
Able to accept humility we grow to understand rather than reacting to circumstances. We understand we can’t be the best at everything but if we are willing to put the time and effort we can always improve. The practice of self-mastery may consume you but the hard work and patience helps us to build a strong character. We’re all in pain and struggle with hardships, some people are just better at adapting and coping.

Minding manners and a graceful presence.
With insight into pain and struggle we develop our emotional intelligence and become more aware of other’s difficulties. We become more mindful of the burdens we impose on others and realize that we can reduce stress by acting with a calm graceful demeanor. No longer blaming others for their faults we become more patient and analyze less.

Remember we live in a mad world and everyone has to find a way to be happy with themselves whether you understand it or not, let it be. Inform and help others but remember we all value things differently, don’t get attached to an outcome. Don’t pour your beliefs down other’s throats, accept we’re all unique.

“Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners.” – Laurence Sterne

Becoming minimalistic.
Having a more grounded view of reality and a better understanding of human nature we can better address our needs. Being able to move past the ego, on a much more elevated state of awareness we become more concerned with the legacy we leave rather than our overall consumption. With the focus on the true self rather than the ego we can nurture ourselves mentally and emotionally without excessive spending. We begin to see the value in less and gain an appreciation for anything more.

Balance and moderation in all things.
From torpedoing behaviour that’s extremely self-destructive to accepting everything as it comes and allowing the universe to flow naturally. Living within a healthy structured environment we are more adapt to choose balance over extremist self-harming behaviour. We begin to understand lasting change doesn’t happen overnight and in learning so, we embrace the virtue of patience.

Living constructively.
Understanding transformation change doesn’t happen overnight we are more stable working towards the long term results. You reap what you sough; hard work pays off even if you don’t see the benefits immediately. There’s a season for sowing and a season for reaping but never are the two done in the same season. Be patient in waiting for the picture to develop, just know you’ll get there eventually if you just stick to the plan set forth.

Reflective pauses & meditation.
Understanding our consuming/overstimulating behaviour we must be deliberate in finding quiet time away from distractions. Pauses allow our progress to catch up with us, it allows us to internalize our experiences. Finding time to meditate alone or with others can go long ways helping us to acquire wisdom and better understand ourselves.

“Quiet the mind and the soul will speak.” – Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati

Feeling hopeful & one with faith.
Living through the ego we begin to feel overwhelmed by the repetitive patterns and cycles and feel as if we we’ve been recklessly abandoned with no hope of releiving the suffering. Through enlightenment and learning to accept one’s circumstances we can grow by making the unconscious conscious. Understanding our own behaviour and emotions we begin to come to terms that noone can influence change in your life other than ourselves. Real change starts from the heart. Living in a more peaceful way we begin to see the beauty that is, we begin to reflect our inner peace on the external world and in doing so opening a world of possibility.

Open to reflection & understanding.
Human consciousness can only explain so much, noone has all the answers. Just be one with yourself and come to terms with your being. Remember we all build our understandings differently but wisdom is something that never changes. Be open to other’s ways of living even if you don’t fully understand. Don’t become attached to a piece of information, be willing to understand the facts and put in the due dillegence.

Practices of self-mastery.
As we move to the enlightened self we begin to understand life isn’t about being the best or being right. We begin to understand life is a soulful journey and happiness comes from fully embracing it’s challenges. Life doesn’t get easier we just get wiser and better at managing it. Focus your energy where it counts and on things that will truly matter in the overall scheme of things.

Seeing the bigger picture.
Once self-aware and able to understand our emotions and pains we can begin to live in good practice. Understanding the environment’s threats and opportunities we can become more deliberate in fashioning our future. Understanding both the environment and self we can begin living purposefully, whole and with the best intentions in mind with little hindrance from the ego.

 

Gradually we learn to stop our emotional reactions and begin to act logically. We must begin to find our flow taking actions that attract opportunities and likeminded individuals. We need to begin handling challenges as the observer focused living in the moment surrendering to the flow of life with unconditional love and acceptance for ourselves and others. Live with love in your heart, take control of your vibration and begin moving through states of being you want to experience.
 

Reducing Stress Through Self-Expression

It’s human nature to react to stress in a fight or flight pattern, its natural to be fearful but not healthy to live in it. We need to learn to cope and overcome stress; we need to learn to manage our responses to our external environment. We need to understand ourselves and how to manage our stress levels.

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Endorphins can be a natural pain and stress fighter, secretion of endorphins leads to a feeling of euphoria. Endorphins can be released from repetition, doing something novel and new or from doing something exciting and thrill-seeking. Really we can become accustom to anything, and the habit itself can release these chemicals.

The idea of understanding how endorphins work goes hand in hand with being able to monitor and control them. Rather than being in the passenger seat there are ways we can intentionally cause these chemicals to flow.

In the case of reaching a healthy euphoria it begins with the physical; exercise and self-expression.

Exercise releases endorphins, improves sleep and removes toxins through sweat. There any many variations of exercise one can incorporate into their daily life. It doesn’t have to be super stressful it can be fun and entertaining. It’s important to stay body smart especially as you grow older begin to lose muscle and use of some of your functions. It’s important while you’re still young and capable to engage your body, muscles and joints to ward off signs of possible disability in the future. In the case of your health its critical we are proactive rather than reactive. If we wait for the instance to react it may be to little to late.

Aside from exercise, self expression through various forms of art is a good way to release stress and can be considered therapy allowing us to release pent up thoughts and feelings without fear of judgement. Acts such as listening to music, writing, or drawing allows us an outlet to reflect on ourselves and our circumstances allowing us to see it from a different light. We can easily become prisoners of our own perspectives when we refuse to be open-minded. Self-expression allows us to be passionate for something outside of ourselves and helps to develop a positive mindset. Art therapy can help to develop one’s patience and understanding, it can help broaden their scope and to see from an objective lens. It’s a means for controlling emotions and negative feelings channeling them into something productive. It’s not about the end result it’s about appreciating the beauty of life.

A lot of the time our emotions work against us and we can become our own worst enemy. Participating in exercise and various forms of art we move outside the realm of thinking and allow ourselves to find our flow. Taking action in some form of hobby we allow ourselves to create rather than destroy potentially releasing the massive benefits of euphoria.

Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide in the madness” – Allen Ginsberg

Learn to take the time to pause. Learn to take the time to care for your body and mind. Little acts can go long ways in relieving stress even if you don’t fully understand the benefits.

“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth in uglier ways” – Sigmund Freud

This is the idea. We must remain true to ourselves and our feelings. We live in a world filled with destructive triggers its up to you to find the light. Adjust your physiology and your psyche will follow. Smile more and you’ll flutter feelings of happiness, laugh more and you’ll begin to feel joyous and more socialable. Focus on the creation process, don’t allow yourself to get bored and dwell on the past but instead to take initiative to relieve the suffering.

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Building Self-Esteem & Following Your Word

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It’s crazy what we can accomplish when we really set our minds to something. When all distractions are eliminated and focus is at its peak we’re able to accomplish so much it’s ironic we accomplish so little.

What do you want to get done today? What’s today’s top priority? If you could reflect at the end of the day what is it you want to say you did?

Do you wake up in the morning with achievable goals in mind?

It’s difficult. Not everyone knows what it is they want to accomplish. Most of us have been laying back and relaxing so long we forget we’re capable of achieving.

We neglect ourselves till our self-worth is diminished and we no longer value ourselves. When we neglect action we begin to believe life’s opportunities are based on luck. We begin to believe all power is out of control and things will never change.

Wake up with a sense of purpose. Where do you want to be within a week’s time? A month’s time? Start to live according to your plans.

Build your self-confidence and self-esteem with little steps. Begin with something small and gradually challenge yourself more and more as you build momentum.

Follow your word. Your word is everything to yourself and others.

What is your word? Your word is following through with whatever it is you say you’re going to do. Your word is integrity.

Your word builds other people’s faith in you. Without following through on your word you become unreliable and toxic anchor. Following through with your word you can build the greatest of plans. Following through with your word you can build the strongest of support systems and a favorable reputation.

Where to Begin:

1) Write things down. More often then not we have so much on our plate our brain decides out with the old in with the new. We begin to discard thoughts that deem unimportant to the current situation. If you can’t take action now write it down and take action when the opportunity presents itself.

2) Be honest with yourself and others. Part of following your word is not offering false promises. We have to be honest with what we are truly capable of so we don’t overpromise. Be humble, more often then not its better to undersell that way you can exceed expectations.

3) Have good intentions & strong morals. Life is full of different influences, don’t let them distract you and throw you off. Living according to your values and purpose will become its own reward over time. Don’t deviate.

4) Hope for the best but be realistic. Don’t let doubt limit your potential. When you say you’re going to do something do it with a positive and open mind, don’t let stress get in the way. Choose not to complain or dwell but rather to look at the situation in a new light.

5) Remember the concept of karma. Do unto others as you wish to be done unto yourself. Live life in a purposeful way and gradually you’ll build a network of like-minded individuals. There world is full of infinite possibilities and the internet offers many ways to find social groups. Choose to create and publish, find your niche. Don’t be limited to your local community, get out there.

Remember you can build true value by living through your word. Choose to lead by example, not everyone is ready to live in such a way. Don’t procrastinate, start taking action and conquer anything that plagues you. Don’t let fear stand in the way from you living the life you’ve dreamed of. Start with little steps and begin from there, life doesn’t get easier we just get wiser and better at managing it.

Remember this concept of self-esteem and don’t forget it:

“Self-esteem is like a difficult-to-cultivate flower. It requires frequent nurturing that occurs when you keep your word and follow through on your promises.” Derrick Bell

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Overcoming Worry & Self-Doubt

worry and self doubt

Getting your mind on your side working as a friend instead of a foe sounds a lot easier than it is. There’s many things you could easily give up if you were to listen to your biggest critic but just because you may not see results immediately doesn’t mean the action isn’t worthwhile. Although you may not be relishing in the fruits of your labour stick with it, good things happen with time.

Don’t talk yourself out of living the life you’ve always dreamed. Living better begins with you. What are you willing to sacrifice to get to where you want to be? Are you letting something hold you back that could easily be changed? Most of us are.

Most of us have silly habits that we’ve established over the course of our lives; Silly habits that restrict us from accessing our full energy and distract us from being our best selves.

Nourish your energy or just monitor it till it depletes, truthfully the decisions are up to you.

“The more you lose yourself in something bigger than yourself the more energy you will have” – Norman Peale

Dedicate yourself to a higher purpose, begin to live soulfully. Find your voice and let it speak, do things that nurture your heart and mind. Find a channel in which you can influence others, have solid reasons behind your actions.

Live for something other than yourself. Stop living with such a short-term perspective; begin with the end in mind.

“You can’t build a reputation on what you’re going to do” Henry Ford

Organize yourself and establish a plan. There no reason to start selling your plan to others or convincing others to jump aboard until you’ve done your due diligence.  You can’t be expected to manage others if you have yet to learn to manage yourself.

It takes time, practice and following through with your smaller plans until you become consistent enough to follow through with bigger ones. Understand that gradually you will have the skills you need if you dedicate yourself fully to your plan.

“If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced” – Vincent Van Gogh

Learn to rid the negative voices; learn to get them on your side. The voices will always be there it’s inevitable but they can be silenced through consistent practice.

“The sharpest minds often ruin their lives by over thinking the next step, while the dull win the race with eyes closed” – Bethany Brookbank

This has been me for the longest time (not to say I’m the sharpest mind but) I have been stuck in limbo contemplating the next move for a long time. Don’t let this be you, don’t let over thinking ruin you.

Don’t let self-doubt stand in the way of the things you truly want to do. When you begin to think feelings of self-doubt, ask yourself “what’s the worst that can happen?”

Worry helps no one and only creates more problems, choose to let go of your problems and to begin accepting what is. It is what it is, start accepting life and finding solutions to move past your problems rather than lingering in them.

Worry and self-doubt can destroy you mentally, physically and emotionally until you’re completely depleted of all your resources and begin feeling lost and hopeless.

We’re not all the best at everything, matter of fact most of us just wish we were good at something. Find your strengths and work on your weaknesses… realize everyone has the same twenty four hours in a day; the difference is what you do with them. Stop pouting and complaining and instead start sacrificing those things that don’t equate to the overall end vision.

Realize that maybe you can’t change everything just yet but what you can do is start taking charge. Grab the bull by the horns and continue practicing till there’s no more self-doubt and that momentum is all that is. Take action so one day you can replace your doubt with confidence and faith in your future.

 

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Reinventing Yourself

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No one said life was easy and it’s apparent its not. If there was one guide to living the best life then no other guide would ever need to be made. If there was a magic pill or some easy way I would have found it by now but trust me there isn’t.

We all search for answers to please us. We question ourselves, we question our purpose. Some of us over time lose ourselves and begin to question our values. Through this self examination we become fixated on things we cannot change rather than things we can. We begin paralyzing ourselves while reflecting on the past or living in hope of the future.

We become our own worst enemies battling with our minds for what we want.

Why do people experience crisis in their lives?

People experience crisis in their lives because they can’t accept the truth of reality. Reality is hard. Reality is tough. More often then not these people have been disillusioned for a greater portion of their lives and are in tough hole to get out of. Inevitably these people come to experience “reality checks” and realize that their life is nothing that they had planned.

Why Plan?

If you don’t give yourself direction the wind will decide for you. Happiness and success isn’t something you just stumble upon its something you strive towards. Living without a plan is like shooting at a dart board with a blindfold on. You may hit your mark but most likely you’re shooting blindly and odds are you’ll never come close to your target.

Guidelines to Managing Action

    • Set daily, monthly, annual and long-term goals.
    • Evaluate your current self. How do you currently spend your time? What could you be doing differently? Can resources be leveraged differently? More efficiently? What are your biggest distractions? Can you practice moderation?
    • Rely on lists. Forget about the traditional to-do lists, instead make day or time specific lists. Any task that is “iffy” in terms of being completed can be organized in a “Someday/Maybe” list.
    • Have a system for your lists. Have a filing system and specific categories. Some categories could possibly be a “projects” list, a “next actions” list and a “waiting for” list.
    • Evaluate based on a weekly review. Ensure your brain is clear and all loose strands of the past few days have been collected, processed, and organized.

Its ALL ABOUT YOU!

Remember that your quality life will look different from my quality life. We are all unique and have different needs and wants from one another. Don’t steal someone else’s vision, create your own. Establish what’s important to you and what’s worth working towards.

Create a system to reach your desired goals. Be specific with the action steps you need to take to get there. Again, consider making lists to identify the new changes you’ll need to make.

Action Steps to Reinventing & Modifying Behaviour

    • Wake Up Early.
    • Make lists everyday.
    • Prioritize your tasks.
    • Complete your lists.
    • Do the hardest tasks first.
    • Tidy & remove all clutter.
    • Think rich. (upbeat, positive and focused)
    • Save 10-20% of your income.
    • Control your thoughts and emotions.
    • Schedule uninterrupted blocks of time.
    • Read & improve your knowledge.
    • Work in 20 minute spurts.
    • Spend less time sitting.

Reinventing yourself takes time don’t move away from the process. Start today not tomorrow. If you can’t take action at this very moment plan proactively. Learn to be reliable and to count on yourself. Get your energy levels up and be healthy. Unplug from all electronics and find quiet time to recharge. There’s no success without failure, take everything you’ve learnt and let it change you. Focus on changing your inner self and the outer world will follow.

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