No Pressure Guide to Happiness

The path to greatness is a road we all must travel ourselves.

The demands we place on ourselves will determine our final outcome, our final result. Are you placing the right demands on yourself? or are you being to demanding?

There’s so much pressure this day in age. Not only does the pressure come from our peers but it comes from all of society, all of culture. It’s ironic how we have it better than any civilization has before us yet we struggle more-so than ever before.

The demands we place on ourselves are killing us rather than actually helping us grow.

What pressures are you putting on yourself?

Are you pressuring yourself so much that the stress and anxiety consumes you?

Don’t be so hard on yourself, we all struggle.

Do you live in a sea of hopelessness or is everyday something new? a new day to conquer? a new day to win? a new day to be all that you can be in all that is?

Now-a-days everyone struggles and it seems no one knows why.

The truth seems obvious yet we all live in our own world’s of ignorance. We deny the truth as a means to protect ourselves, ultimately hurting us and leading us towards our bitter end.

5 Major Influences on Well-Being

Influence #1 – Culture

We live in a party culture, negative influences are everywhere. From the moment we wake up to the moment we go to bed we are bombarded with endless messages.

What kind of art do you part-take in? What kind of movies? music? Why do you listen to this type of music? do you listen because you love the music itself or do you listen to gain popularity? to fit in? What kind of habits to you part-take in? do you abuse subtances? drugs? alcohol? food?

Do any of these things actually make me feel good about myself? Will any of these things make me feel better?

There’s good and bad in everything, choose to take pride in acknowledging the good in all things. Seek out good, find ways to make good known.

Do you believe in God? I do. I’m not saying its a pre-requisite to healing but it does help to alleviate depression and anxiety to know someone is looking out for you. It’s also relieving to think our souls are eternal.

See I think of the good as God. Seek out God.

When people channel good from themselves, through themselves unto others this is the act of God. The act of a higher power and the act of a deeper understanding.

Do you seek out Good/God in others?


Influence # 2 – Society

A big part of our conditioning as humans is due to our surrounding environment. What is your surrounding environment like? Are the people around you toxic substance abusers or are they free from attachment, warm and supportive?

There’s so much pressure in society now-a-days from media, advertisers and those around us that most people have formed unrealistic expectations in their daily lives. It’s an odd realization but its safe to say most people live in denial of the truth to some regard.

Do you live in denial of the truth? are you happy?

Do you have control of your health? your life?

Do you live in denial from the truth? Do you act like your addictive habits aren’t so harmful? Do you act like you can live forever? like you’re invincible? like you can eat anything you want and get away with it?

Hard work pays off, and that’s that. There’s nothing more to it. Your disciplines and self-control will determine your levels of happiness.

What controls your life? the external or the internal?

Denial is putting the blame on anything other than yourself. Sure we all come into this world with different troubles than one another but its our responsibility as individuals to vanquish our demons and whatever plagues us. As humans we all need to build courage and face our fears or we forever live a life of discontent and discomfort.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it, that’s where most people get lost. Reach out to someone close or find an institution near you that could possibly help you with some counseling. We all need therapy and it doesn’t hurt to start helping ourselves. If someone you know is experiencing these kind of problems let them know you have a waiting ear and a supportive frame of mind. If their problems exude anything beyond what you’re capable of discussing encourage them to reach out.

Influence # 3 – Psychology

So culture says “abuse this” while society says “be accomplished“, the psychological aspect becomes tormenting as we get stuck in-between.

Are your thoughts impulsive? bad? negative? do you feel toxic? This is more common than you’d think now-a-days.

Have you ever come across the law of attraction? the idea, you become what you think about most?

Making smart choices means being a smart thinker, being a smart thinker means monitoring your thoughts. Do you’re thoughts generate negativity? positivity?

We create the worlds we live in with our words. Believe it or not the thoughts you think today (if given enough substance) will become tomorrow’s beliefs. So what are you thinking today that’s creating tomorrow’s anxiety? creating tomorrow’s opportunities?

The truth is 9 of 10 things you worry about will never happen and the 10 things that did happen, 9 of them you didn’t worry about. Stop worrying. Stop draining yourself psychologically.

It’s okay to have bad thoughts, fact of the matter is we all have them. The important factor is not to act on them or let them consume you. Fight your way to establish good thoughts, good beliefs.

Consider this thought: “I believe in the good things coming” – A lyric by Nahko Bear’s Black as the Night

What a beautiful thought.

Whether we believe we can or we believe we can’t we are usually right. Find messages that lift you up, work towards your faith.

Influence # 4 – Habits

What a better way to build positive thoughts than actually acting on well-being.

CONSIDER THIS: Your levels of healthiness and wellbeing are determined by your ability to act in ways that are whole in terms of mental/emotional, physical and social health. 

Are you healthy? do you have a healthy body? a healthy mind? Do you do the things you have to do? or do you escape and retreat as an act of denial from what is?

Don’t let stress consume you, accept the moment for what it is and work on being present with the moment.

Notice the cycle for change:

  • Pre-contemplation – being unaware.
  • Contemplation – planning for action.
  • Action – following the path set forth.
  • Maintenance – holding true.

Don’t get stuck overthinking you can’t always think your way out of a bad situation. Thinking is important when it comes to planning but without consistent action thinking is worthless. Work to get to point of maintaining your healthy habits, work one habit at a time until they become deeply engrained routines.

Influence # 5 – Biology

Okay so maybe we’ve come to terms with society and culture’s influence, maybe we’ve established good habits and have redirected our thinking patterns. Maybe something still feels off and we keep falling back into our destructive patterns?

Some of us are born with pre-dispositions which opens our body to be susceptible to illnesses. Unfortunately there’s no way around it. Some of us need medication in order to feel whole, don’t fight it if that’s you. Of course, always talk to a doctor before taking any prescription drugs.

How to start creating a healthy life.


  1. Start taking responsibility and control for your life.
  2. Start being grateful, be happy regardless of whatever circumstance.
  3. Love yourself unconditionally, we all make mistakes and at times look foolish.

There’s so much wisdom to gather and to share. Let your light live on in others. Work to reach new heights of being then spread the lessons you’ve learnt with those who value your word.

Start making healthy choices. Stop accumulating unnecessary risks whether financially, socially or in terms of your health. Start living to prevent risk, making wise choices.

A healthy body means a healthy mind and a healthy mind makes smart decisions.

Holistic Healing

In terms of holistic healing we can always be smarter with what we put in our bodies. Most people don’t focus on a well-balanced diet so they become weak. When we listen to our bodies and give them what they need we can destroy pathways to negativity. Building stronger connections with ourselves and mother earth based on what we put in our body is important to establish that mind-body connection.

Becoming Self-Aware

As individuals we must learn to give time to our concealed thoughts. Work to understand your feeling and emotions. We can’t always get our emotions completely on our side but with practice we can influence them in a way where they no longer carry so much weight into the situation.

The Health Triangle
Balancing Happiness and Creating Success

When it comes to being a whole happy person there are 3 aspects that determine our potential levels of success and well-being.

  • Physical Health
  • Social Health
  • Mental/Emotional Health

When all pillars are strong we are most likely to act fully and whole, becoming our best selves. When one pillar is missing or lacking, just as a tripod would, the balance shifts sometimes to the point where we tumble over destroying the other two pillars.

So how can we focus on improving these pillars?


Focus on the message being said, the tone in which you say it and how it’s interpreted by others. Work on making good connections with others. Work on being assertive and removing/distancing yourself from toxic influences.

Focus on building good character. Focus on things that create intrinsic value, things that benefit the greater good, work on your trustworthiness, your integrity, your word.

Be compassionate, warm, kind and supportive towards others. Not everyone wants to hear about how they can improve sometimes people just need to be heard.

Work on becoming the best listener you can be.

When it comes down to it the most important thing sometimes is having someone to turn to in times of distress.


Start now. Start taking charge of your health, your muscles your joints. Treat your body as a temple. Focus on nutrition and improving your physical health. Dedicate minimum 30 minutes a day to physical activity, you won’t regret it.

30 Minutes is enough to influence big change especially if you’re doing it consistently.

If you’re not the most physically inclined focus on little wins until you can accomplish greater feats; the goal being to always challenge yourself.


Are you taking time for “me” days? or do you spend every waking moment working, plugging away?

Stress management is something we all need to determine for ourselves, therapy can come in many forms. Sometimes we need to abide by one therapy to get to the next, each having their own lessons and way of profoundly creating transformational change.

So what do you find value in? how do you de-stress? re-charge your batteries?

You have greatness within you, the question I ask now: are you up to the challenge to unleash it?

Thank you to all my readers! I wish you all the best on your endeavors. Don’t give up on yourself. Always get back up no matter how many times you fall down. You may not know me personally but I can tell you that my life is a testimony that you can rise above the suffering. Don’t let your current situation define you, you are stronger than you’ll ever know.

4 Aspects to Obtaining Higher Consciousness

What is consciousness?

Consciousness is the state of being awake and aware to one’s surroundings.


What does it mean to live unconsciously?

The unconscious mind is a shadow of the “real” mind it’s not identifiable less flexible, complex, controlling, deliberative and action-oriented than its counterpart (the conscious mind).

– Paraphrased from

To live unconsciously is to act on the emotions we don’t understand, when we do this we give away our power and life-energy acting out of routine, patterns and old conditioning.

We tend to live according to our “current feeling” rather than seeing life as it is and working towards the bigger picture.


What is higher consciousness?

Higher consciousness is the consciousness of a higher self, transcendental reality or God. It is “the part of the human being that is capable of transcending animal instincts.

– Excerpt from


How do we influence higher consciousness?

We can influence higher consciousness by understanding ourselves and our place in time and space. We must become aware of all the conditional patterns that have influenced our behavior up until this point.

We need to learn discipline and control in order to train the mind and body to abide to our higher self.

To reach a higher consciousness we need to transcend the current circumstances… we need to stop living through the senses, stop living through emotion and rather live through our objective intellect and spiritual needs.


How do you transcend your current circumstances?

We transcend our current circumstanced through a process of self-actualization.

Through understanding ourselves fully, spiritually and physically we are better able to see clearly and better able to work along side the laws of nature rather than against them.


What is the process of self-actualization?

We can build awareness by challenging our trials and tribulations with a can-do attitude, only through giving yourself fully can we learn best from experience. Knowledge is power and knowing thyself is the beginning of all wisdom.


How do we begin the process of self-actualization?

We begin by realizing we’re human just like everyone else. We must also realize the world is full of chaos and we can’t always make sense of everything; we need to learn to control what we can and to let go of what we can’t.

The process of self-actualization begins the moment we accept ourselves as who we are and begin to release the negativity that has plagued us up until this point in time.

The good and the bad of the past have come together to make this very moment in time, accept it and give in to the moment. Focus on creating memorable moments so tomorrow’s moment can be harvested better than today’s.

The process begins when we start taking initiative and responsibility for the direction of our lives.


I still don’t know where to begin, where do I start?

Start by determining what it is you truly want in life if money was no object. Where would your soul guide you if you weren’t tied down by your cash resources?

Okay, I determined what I want… but I still haven’t figured myself out…

Honestly dreams are dreams and can sometimes becoming true realizations but until we are able to distinguish our deeper reasons for these dreams they will direct us and cause mayhem on our psyche.

One thing we need to truly come to realize within ourselves is life isn’t about the destination, its about the journey. Embrace your journey and you’ll have arrived at your destination. 

Most of us are to focused on the past and future leading us to our biggest flaw; emotional-based thinking. We need to focus on this current moment with our full awareness and continue honoring each moment remaining fully present to grow as individuals.


Understanding the Flaws in Emotional-Based Thinking

Living in a reaction-based consciousness we tend to hold in various emotions simultaneously, these emotions identify themselves when we feel threatened. Most of the time when we get into this defensive state we can only identify ourselves with the strongest emotion out of the bunch, usually anger or sadness.

We are “unconscious” to our emotional thinking. When we become emotional it’s not an instance of one emotion becoming to strong to contain, it’s more of an instance of how our various emotions react with one another.

More often then not we’re feeling more than one emotion at a time and this can becoming confusing to us on the conscious level, which causes us to react at times on surface level and not fully understanding why.

Higher consciousness begins with discipline first and foremost.

Discipline is everything; the road to liberation is a dogfight that will knock you down time after time again… not everyone will be able to live and find what is known as “Christ consciousness” some of us live on low levels, others on high ones.

The frequency in which we “be” and frequently reside in will determine our circumstances, how we handle them and how they introspectively change us.

Only through a commitment of excellence are we able to find our own strongest levels achieving clarity and true direction.


Overcoming Subjectivity

To live in higher consciousness we must fight to see the objective truth. There is a lot of man-made deception with the intent on keeping humankind focused on basic needs.

Keeping the mass population focused on these lower level needs takes the attention away from things that could truly benefit our nature and overall existence.


Personal Growth and the Road to Achievement

Read, read, and read… there’s so much to understand about human nature and existence itself. Anyone who knows anything knows there’s always more to learn.

Find a way that you work on yourself so that you can add value to others. Find your beliefs and allow others to find theirs even if ideas may vary from your own; we all need to come to our own realizations and need to express ourselves without fear of being judged.

Start learning about personal development, check out business gurus like Brian Tracy, Jim Rohn, Earl Nightingale and Chris Widener, listen to audio books, podcasts or if you don’t have many books google for PDFs versions of whatever it is you’re interested in; find anything that inspires you and let it do its thing.


4 Key Aspects of Higher Consciousness

Thinking outside of the box, outside of labels and outside of predetermined patterns.

Transcendentalism – the belief that man is at his best when independent, and not part of organized religion or politics. To discover the nature of reality by investigating the process of thought rather than the objects of sense experience.

– Definition from

Don’t cling to strongly to one idea, we are flawed thinkers and constantly make breakthroughs with new paradigm shifts. What you believe at this very moment may not be exactly what you believe in the future so don’t criticize others because before you know it you’ve become a hypocrite yourself. We all make mistakes and need to embrace the inner journey, don’t force others, focus on what you can control.

Commitment, initiative, releasing the negative and influencing the positive.

We feel lost or happy usually based on the extent of control we have over our own lives. Choosing to live through our senses typically comes with consequences physical in nature such as depleting our resources that could have been allocated to a better cause.

Living through senses creates the cycle of dependency and inner struggle which creates more conflict and barriers to happiness.

When we’re in this state of low self-esteem we tend to attract others in the same state which can create a faulty support system where everyone likes to see each other lose. With this feeling of lesser worth and inferiority we tend to feel envious and defeated when others mention their accomplishments. As a unconscious or conscious manipulative act using peer pressure and our influence we tend to hold people in the same position; we like change as long as it doesn’t affect us to much.

Finding silence, transcending energy through meditation, prayer or reflection.

A big part of finding silence is accepting our thoughts and ourselves as we are. We are all that we are, it is all that it is and if it’s meant to be it’ll be.

We must see life and reality not as something that happens to us but something that happens through us, and how we react will spawn and re-spawn through out our lives.

Choose to find your calmness. Choose to give time to your concealed thoughts, choose to see your thoughts but to realize you are not your mind but an eternal consciousness that cannot be scientifically shown as existing within the human body.

We are not trapped by our thoughts. What we generally do, however, is create thoughts that trap us.” Joshua David Stone

Those who carry the biggest burden have the greatest message with the greatest influence.

Choose to live life with a sense of passion, determine your values/principles and address what truly matters.

Live according to the greater good and praise all who see worth in you. Choose to add value to others, aim to ignite the ascension of others spiritually, and they will come back ten times stronger to influence you in your own endeavors.

Focus on good karma, do unto others as you wish to be treated yourself… choose to see the good and help people grow.

Reaching higher consciousness isn’t easy, but that doesn’t mean it’s not worth it. We all must find our own virtues to happiness, all I ask is we all do our best to encourage positive change; peace, love and positivity.


Be sure to check out my article Ego and the Path to Enlightenment for more information about higher consciousness. Check out some of my other articles too such as Sparking Transformational Change, Getting/Staying Motivated, Finding Inner Peace, & Learning to Accept Today.


Embracing the Soul Factor

We’re all destined for great things.. We all have so much potential we refuse and neglect.

We overwork and overconsume to the point we have no energy left to do the things that nourish us soulfully.

So busy plugging away at the day to day duties we quickly forget the importance of nurturing this part of our being.

Why do we put so much focus on the brain and heart but never the soul?

Just cause you don’t see it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

Everything you do has an impact on your soul. You can choose to listen to your inner voice or avoid it completely.

Living through the ego we are ignorant to the concept of the soul. We may think we abide by the soul’s purpose but sooner or later we come to find out we’ve fooled ourselves.

Don’t attach yourself to a piece of knowledge, it is what it is, if its fact and cannot be changed just let it be.

Focus on elements under your control. Take care of your body, it’s a temple for heaven’s sake.

Your body is your passage way to the other elements of being. Don’t be restrained because you’ve neglected movement for so long. Challenge yourself to move and take action.

Build up your endurance gradually.

Don’t worry about having the body of your dreams just worry about having a body that meets the functionality of the soul. Prepare the body so it’s ready for action, ready for whatever stress may arise.

Activities such as something so simple like going for a bike ride can be a joyful experience some people just aren’t able to enjoy.

To think our ancestors walked for days, weeks and even months at a time. We need to be able to endure and persevere and a lot of having the proper mindset comes with being in control of your physical health.

Taking care of your body doesn’t have to be some daunting task, depending on our perspective we can actually make it quite enjoyable.

Taking care of your health isnt about getting a huge pump or having 90% of the blood in our body rushing to our arms, its about being able to physically endure whatever it is that comes our way.

Why does the average joe nowadays have a beer belly and uneven posture?

Most of us have the wrong attitude when it comes to taking care of the body.

We don’t have to spend hours at the gym to have a good health we just have to utilize our muscles to reduce potential muscle atrophy (prevent muscles from weakening over time).

The longer you neglect your health the harder you’ll have to work to get to square one so start becoming accountable.

As long as you have a brain and two feet you can choose your own direction. You’re not a tree.

“If you are willing to do only what’s easy, life will be hard. But if we’re willing to do what’s hard, life will be easy.” T. Harv Eker

Learning to Accept Today

Self control sucks, why is it we want the things we want so bad? Yet we get mad at ourselves the moment we have at it.


Some people go their whole lives caught up in addictive behaviour, their whole lives with intentions to quit but never really taking action.

Life and its moments will never be perfect we need to begin today. We need to see today in a new light, free of attachment and desire. Free of the thought “I need _____ to be happy” (fill the blank with whatever it is you abuse)

We all have certain behaviors we wish we could quit; to bad it’s not that easy.

Most of us are conditioned by our environments; it’s easier to accept what is rather than fighting against the current. Whether deliberate or not, subconsciously we adapt to our surroundings making them our reality.

Peer pressure is impossible to overcome if you constantly are bombarded by people you consider influencers. These influencers appear to have it all going for them on the surface yet on the other side of the coin they don’t realize the harm they’re inflicting on themselves in the long-term.

Everyone wants to be happy. You see it everywhere, advertising messages of happiness; it’s what’s being sold. Don’t let anyone sell you on the idea of happiness it’s nothing you can buy or consume.

Happiness comes from taking part in the journey of life, its heart-aches, its ups, downs and everything in between. It’s all a lesson.

The lesson is to become one with suffering and to accept your life as it is. We can’t change the past or future all we can do is act within the very moment we’re given.

Act in the moment, don’t grieve any longer. Don’t let self-sabotaging behaviour control the direction of your life. It’s never to late to start again. It’s never to late to reinvent yourself and change the course of your life.

Start today, start with the intentions to make today better than yesterday. Make everyday better than the last and complete everything you start. Don’t live with resentment of “I didn’t do this” or “I didn’t do that”.

Prioritize with the future in mind, start taking action against anything that’s eating you away. Start scheduling time to do the things that actually matter and following through with your word to do them.

Capitalize on your strengths and refuse to neglect your weaknesses, choose to participate in the journey of life. Choose to grow and develop yourself into something. Build the strongest version of yourself.

Find your grit; find your purpose for starting and don’t let anyone convince you it’s not worthy. Make a mission statement, write it down, and make sure you see it everyday. Use it to remind yourself in remembering the reason you put forth the effort you do. Let it be a symbol of your journey, a reflection of the transformations that are and will be.


Obtaining Fulfillment


What is the difference of fulfillment and being satisfied/content? How does one obtain fulfillment? Why is fulfillment important? All reasonable questions that if one doesn’t understand the term fulfillment they would never know.

Do you live a fulfilling life? What is fulfillment? Fulfillment is gaining satisfaction from your actions. Why is this absurd? Because not everyone acts in a fulfilling way. Most of us are conditioned by our environment to accept what is our true reality. Without coming to terms or learning to grasp why we perform the action we incorporate the action into our daily living never resulting in any satisfaction. More often then not these tedious patterns deplete us mentally and physically.

Then why do we do it? Simply because we are unaware.

A lot of individuals are unaware of the truth of how happiness and success is obtained. Some individuals believe success is money, this just isn’t true. Success and happiness is something that’s fashioned through determination and hard work. Success and happiness isn’t gained from a place we arrive at but instead it’s something we pick up along the journey. It comes from embracing the highs and the lows but ultimately being able to control the weathered storm.

Lost in the illusion of what’s right and wrong people have come to the understanding within themselves that material possessions and money is what makes them happy. This corrupted view creates a lot of greed and animosity amongst society. Living with our envy and greed we are conditioned to one-up each other’s belongings. The newest this, the newest that with the end result depleted cash resources and little satisfaction gained. This is why we must come to understand fulfillment and what it means to be happy.

Are you enjoying life? Do take time of out of your day to have fun? Fun is crucial in regards to happiness. We must give ourselves the freedom to act without criticism from our thoughts. So often we are overanalyzing ourselves and being super critical. Stop and smell the roses. Don’t be afraid to take pause breaks. Take a moment to breathe in the beauty of life. Taking a pause break can be extremely beneficial and even heighten our alertness the moment we bring our energy back into our body.

Schedule time to do whatever activities you define as fun. Take all thinking away from the activity and just be. Find your childlike sense of wonder and explore. Consider making a list of all the potential activities you’d like to do someday. Use this as reference. Remember to have always have fun.

Remember to have fun in new and engaging ways. Engaging in the same activities we regard as fun quickly lose their spark of interest if we overdo it. Remember balance is key in all aspects of life. In regards to fun think of moments that would take your breath away whether it is different trips you would like to take, places you’d like to go, or things you’d like to do.

Don’t be afraid to start living the life you always wanted to live.

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What is Happiness?


Everyone’s definition of happiness is different. The concept of happiness never changes but how we attain it does. Happiness is gained by simply valuing yourself and your role in society. Plain and simple.

Not everyone is born into great power. A lot of us are born below the poverty line and because of this we have barriers to our happiness. Happiness isn’t having money but money does allow happiness to flow. We can attain happiness through personal growth and what better propels personal growth than income. Having the income to buy the things you need to move forward is a huge relief. Constant burdens of debt and financial trouble easily put a strain on life making the future seem hopeless. For these reasons financial stability is extremely important when it comes to bettering yourself. Regardless if you love the job or not it’s important to have consistent income. Be gritty and don’t give up.

Bettering yourself comes hand in hand with valuing yourself. I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times “love yourself”. Seems easy yet it couldn’t be any more difficult. So often we forget how critical we are on ourselves and stand in the way of our own happiness. Remember this moment is all we have no need to reminisce about the past or worry about the future just live and let live. You are the sum of all your choices and moving forward with good intentions will help to balance a strong healthy well-being.

Another method that brings us to value ourselves is the service we render to others. We all need a purpose and a reason to get up each morning. Sometimes we lose our purpose and forget who we are when we live in isolation with our thoughts. We need to be free with the outside world. We need to find reasons to get outside, our reasons to be healthy and our reasons to live a truly great life. Having influences outside of ourselves helps this. We need a support system when times are tough, a mentor to teach us wisdom and a family to call home. Love is everything. Love, love, love don’t forget it.

Ultimately happiness comes from appreciating yourself. How you love yourself will influence how you treat everyone else. Remember to work on yourself be proud, be humble and always have the best intentions in mind. Live life to the fullest and don’t be afraid to get outside. Find your niche. Find a hobby and someone to share it with that’s where true happiness comes from.

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Understanding Laughter

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Laughter has become a natural instinct; the blind, deaf, even some infants laugh before they are 2 months old. It is more common we laugh in social settings than when we’re alone. Even laughing gas loses it’s “oomph” when taken in solitude.

Men claim to chuckle and women claim to giggle yet most laughter isn’t from jokes but from spending time with family and friends. Humour helps us to build stronger connections and to build rapport.

Laughter harmlessly releases negative emotions such as anger, sadness and fear. If you can laugh at a situation your upsets may not seem as important as they once did. Finding humour in our circumstances can help us to cope with the stress or even relieve most of the tension. Laughter can be of the “ha-ha-ha” variety or the “ho-ho-ho” type but not a mixture of both.

Humour increases learning and retention, not to mention it’s engaging and uses the whole brain. Some professors or teachers use humour in their lectures as a means of controlling the emotional climate of a group.

There are several obvious differences in what people find humorous, the most significant seems to be age. From infants and children our appreciation for “toilet humour”, pre-teens/teenage years tend to laugh at jokes that focus on sex, food and any subject that adults consider off-limits to mature adults where our sense of humour is more developed. As mature adults we tend to laugh at other people and ourselves in shared common predicaments and embarrassments. Basically we laugh at issues that stress us out.

Another factor determining what’s funny to us or not is culture. There are economic, political and social issues that are not easy to laugh at which only people living in that culture can understand. United States may be the exception of this rule due to the much observed media and movies. Most people know what’s going on there so jokes about the United States are shared and enjoyed pretty much across the globe.

For someone to take offense to a joke he/she must have some attachment to the principle or the person is being put down in the joke. Racist and sexist jokes are offensive to many people who feel strongly about fighting bigotry and prejudice in the world so they should be avoided altogether.

“Your attitude is like a box of crayons that color the world. Constantly use gray colors and your picture will always be dark and depressing. Use humor to add bright colors and your picture begins to lighten up” – Allen Klein

Start laughing at life. Laugh at the stresses, laugh at the uncommon, laugh through the hard times, laugh through the good times. Laughing can be a life-saver easing stress, lowering blood pressure and elevating your mood. Laughing has a cleansing effect similar to deep-breathing allowing us to rejuvenate and regenerate our energy. Laughing makes us feel good and allows us to have fun while also connecting to those around us.

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