No Pressure Guide to Happiness

The path to greatness is a road we all must travel ourselves.

The demands we place on ourselves will determine our final outcome, our final result. Are you placing the right demands on yourself? or are you being to demanding?

There’s so much pressure this day in age. Not only does the pressure come from our peers but it comes from all of society, all of culture. It’s ironic how we have it better than any civilization has before us yet we struggle more-so than ever before.

The demands we place on ourselves are killing us rather than actually helping us grow.

What pressures are you putting on yourself?

Are you pressuring yourself so much that the stress and anxiety consumes you?

Don’t be so hard on yourself, we all struggle.

Do you live in a sea of hopelessness or is everyday something new? a new day to conquer? a new day to win? a new day to be all that you can be in all that is?

Now-a-days everyone struggles and it seems no one knows why.

The truth seems obvious yet we all live in our own world’s of ignorance. We deny the truth as a means to protect ourselves, ultimately hurting us and leading us towards our bitter end.

5 Major Influences on Well-Being

Influence #1 – Culture

We live in a party culture, negative influences are everywhere. From the moment we wake up to the moment we go to bed we are bombarded with endless messages.

What kind of art do you part-take in? What kind of movies? music? Why do you listen to this type of music? do you listen because you love the music itself or do you listen to gain popularity? to fit in? What kind of habits to you part-take in? do you abuse subtances? drugs? alcohol? food?

Do any of these things actually make me feel good about myself? Will any of these things make me feel better?

There’s good and bad in everything, choose to take pride in acknowledging the good in all things. Seek out good, find ways to make good known.

Do you believe in God? I do. I’m not saying its a pre-requisite to healing but it does help to alleviate depression and anxiety to know someone is looking out for you. It’s also relieving to think our souls are eternal.

See I think of the good as God. Seek out God.

When people channel good from themselves, through themselves unto others this is the act of God. The act of a higher power and the act of a deeper understanding.

Do you seek out Good/God in others?


Influence # 2 – Society

A big part of our conditioning as humans is due to our surrounding environment. What is your surrounding environment like? Are the people around you toxic substance abusers or are they free from attachment, warm and supportive?

There’s so much pressure in society now-a-days from media, advertisers and those around us that most people have formed unrealistic expectations in their daily lives. It’s an odd realization but its safe to say most people live in denial of the truth to some regard.

Do you live in denial of the truth? are you happy?

Do you have control of your health? your life?

Do you live in denial from the truth? Do you act like your addictive habits aren’t so harmful? Do you act like you can live forever? like you’re invincible? like you can eat anything you want and get away with it?

Hard work pays off, and that’s that. There’s nothing more to it. Your disciplines and self-control will determine your levels of happiness.

What controls your life? the external or the internal?

Denial is putting the blame on anything other than yourself. Sure we all come into this world with different troubles than one another but its our responsibility as individuals to vanquish our demons and whatever plagues us. As humans we all need to build courage and face our fears or we forever live a life of discontent and discomfort.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it, that’s where most people get lost. Reach out to someone close or find an institution near you that could possibly help you with some counseling. We all need therapy and it doesn’t hurt to start helping ourselves. If someone you know is experiencing these kind of problems let them know you have a waiting ear and a supportive frame of mind. If their problems exude anything beyond what you’re capable of discussing encourage them to reach out.

Influence # 3 – Psychology

So culture says “abuse this” while society says “be accomplished“, the psychological aspect becomes tormenting as we get stuck in-between.

Are your thoughts impulsive? bad? negative? do you feel toxic? This is more common than you’d think now-a-days.

Have you ever come across the law of attraction? the idea, you become what you think about most?

Making smart choices means being a smart thinker, being a smart thinker means monitoring your thoughts. Do you’re thoughts generate negativity? positivity?

We create the worlds we live in with our words. Believe it or not the thoughts you think today (if given enough substance) will become tomorrow’s beliefs. So what are you thinking today that’s creating tomorrow’s anxiety? creating tomorrow’s opportunities?

The truth is 9 of 10 things you worry about will never happen and the 10 things that did happen, 9 of them you didn’t worry about. Stop worrying. Stop draining yourself psychologically.

It’s okay to have bad thoughts, fact of the matter is we all have them. The important factor is not to act on them or let them consume you. Fight your way to establish good thoughts, good beliefs.

Consider this thought: “I believe in the good things coming” – A lyric by Nahko Bear’s Black as the Night

What a beautiful thought.

Whether we believe we can or we believe we can’t we are usually right. Find messages that lift you up, work towards your faith.

Influence # 4 – Habits

What a better way to build positive thoughts than actually acting on well-being.

CONSIDER THIS: Your levels of healthiness and wellbeing are determined by your ability to act in ways that are whole in terms of mental/emotional, physical and social health. 

Are you healthy? do you have a healthy body? a healthy mind? Do you do the things you have to do? or do you escape and retreat as an act of denial from what is?

Don’t let stress consume you, accept the moment for what it is and work on being present with the moment.

Notice the cycle for change:

  • Pre-contemplation – being unaware.
  • Contemplation – planning for action.
  • Action – following the path set forth.
  • Maintenance – holding true.

Don’t get stuck overthinking you can’t always think your way out of a bad situation. Thinking is important when it comes to planning but without consistent action thinking is worthless. Work to get to point of maintaining your healthy habits, work one habit at a time until they become deeply engrained routines.

Influence # 5 – Biology

Okay so maybe we’ve come to terms with society and culture’s influence, maybe we’ve established good habits and have redirected our thinking patterns. Maybe something still feels off and we keep falling back into our destructive patterns?

Some of us are born with pre-dispositions which opens our body to be susceptible to illnesses. Unfortunately there’s no way around it. Some of us need medication in order to feel whole, don’t fight it if that’s you. Of course, always talk to a doctor before taking any prescription drugs.

How to start creating a healthy life.


  1. Start taking responsibility and control for your life.
  2. Start being grateful, be happy regardless of whatever circumstance.
  3. Love yourself unconditionally, we all make mistakes and at times look foolish.

There’s so much wisdom to gather and to share. Let your light live on in others. Work to reach new heights of being then spread the lessons you’ve learnt with those who value your word.

Start making healthy choices. Stop accumulating unnecessary risks whether financially, socially or in terms of your health. Start living to prevent risk, making wise choices.

A healthy body means a healthy mind and a healthy mind makes smart decisions.

Holistic Healing

In terms of holistic healing we can always be smarter with what we put in our bodies. Most people don’t focus on a well-balanced diet so they become weak. When we listen to our bodies and give them what they need we can destroy pathways to negativity. Building stronger connections with ourselves and mother earth based on what we put in our body is important to establish that mind-body connection.

Becoming Self-Aware

As individuals we must learn to give time to our concealed thoughts. Work to understand your feeling and emotions. We can’t always get our emotions completely on our side but with practice we can influence them in a way where they no longer carry so much weight into the situation.

The Health Triangle
Balancing Happiness and Creating Success

When it comes to being a whole happy person there are 3 aspects that determine our potential levels of success and well-being.

  • Physical Health
  • Social Health
  • Mental/Emotional Health

When all pillars are strong we are most likely to act fully and whole, becoming our best selves. When one pillar is missing or lacking, just as a tripod would, the balance shifts sometimes to the point where we tumble over destroying the other two pillars.

So how can we focus on improving these pillars?


Focus on the message being said, the tone in which you say it and how it’s interpreted by others. Work on making good connections with others. Work on being assertive and removing/distancing yourself from toxic influences.

Focus on building good character. Focus on things that create intrinsic value, things that benefit the greater good, work on your trustworthiness, your integrity, your word.

Be compassionate, warm, kind and supportive towards others. Not everyone wants to hear about how they can improve sometimes people just need to be heard.

Work on becoming the best listener you can be.

When it comes down to it the most important thing sometimes is having someone to turn to in times of distress.


Start now. Start taking charge of your health, your muscles your joints. Treat your body as a temple. Focus on nutrition and improving your physical health. Dedicate minimum 30 minutes a day to physical activity, you won’t regret it.

30 Minutes is enough to influence big change especially if you’re doing it consistently.

If you’re not the most physically inclined focus on little wins until you can accomplish greater feats; the goal being to always challenge yourself.


Are you taking time for “me” days? or do you spend every waking moment working, plugging away?

Stress management is something we all need to determine for ourselves, therapy can come in many forms. Sometimes we need to abide by one therapy to get to the next, each having their own lessons and way of profoundly creating transformational change.

So what do you find value in? how do you de-stress? re-charge your batteries?

You have greatness within you, the question I ask now: are you up to the challenge to unleash it?

Thank you to all my readers! I wish you all the best on your endeavors. Don’t give up on yourself. Always get back up no matter how many times you fall down. You may not know me personally but I can tell you that my life is a testimony that you can rise above the suffering. Don’t let your current situation define you, you are stronger than you’ll ever know.

Over Stimulation & Loss of Self Control (2 of 2)



Why is the general population so unhappy? Why do we instantly become envious of other people? Do we live through greed and hate? Have we lost the ability to love and show compassion?

Living according to the celebrity ideals is destructive to one’s well-being. The truth is most people are not in tuned with these patterns of conditioning.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate” – Carl Jung

Its time to find new role models with strong morals. The celebrity attribute most commonly displayed in music videos, movies and TV shows is partying. Self-indulgence at it’s finest.

We have to become aware of the influences we surround ourselves with. Thoughts become things and the ideas we collect will change the way we perceive the world. Collect ideas of lightness, become aware of the dark and be conscious of the threats it imposes.

Choose to live in the light rather than the darkness. Be particular with the media you choose for entertainment. Be aware that shows/movies and music which display passive-aggressiveness (dark humor and sarcastic remarks), violence and images of sex will most definitely take a toll on your overall psych.

Back to Overstimulation & Loss of Self-Control Part 1

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Almost Famous; The Celebrity Influence

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We all have different ideas of how we would like to retire but not all of us live in a way that we will be able to do so. The way we consume day-to-day takes a toll both on our health and our overall financial status.

We live in a day of age where wealth is more emphasized by the things you possess such as clothes, cars and odd commodities rather than actually owning money itself. Instead of collecting savings we’ve chosen to collect debt. We’ve chosen to emphasize lifestyles we can’t afford conforming to the so-called celebrity lifestyle.

Truth is most of us aren’t celebrities and never will be. Most of us aren’t all-star athletes and will never make millions of dollars. Although this truth should be universally known the rise of social media has influenced many to convince themselves they are “almost famous”.

Fame doesn’t bring happiness. Fame is more of an delusional lifestyle that’s sold to fans. Truthfully, a celebrity’s life is not much more spectacular than yours or mine.

Emotional stability and consistency

The biggest advantage celebrities possess is the income and support they receive. They are able to stay on top of their development with numerous coaches, trainers, managers who keep their heads in the game.

Remember we aren’t all raking in the big bucks like celebrities or all-star athletes and most of us likely never will. Thus why we need to be our own coaches, trainers and managers. We need to take initiative to correct our own mistakes day to day. We need to build momentum and keep looking ahead. We harness the power to accomplish great things with consistent action.

To retire healthy and with savings should be the focus for everybody.. so why are we thinking short-sighted?

“Are these things really better than the things I already have? Or am I just trained to be dissatisfied with what I have now?” – Chuck Palahniuk

Back to Diluted Realities – The Ego Illusion Part 1

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Technology & Loss of Willpower


Technology is great and has improved humanity dramatically within the past 50 years. Think large appliances and where we’d be without them.. think vehicles.. cellphones…think mass media such as television and Internet.

All this technology was created to benefit humanity by making things more efficient and that it does but it does have its drawbacks. If you look around wherever you go you could probably suggest the robot takeover has begun (just kidding, kinda).

We’ve become so excited and obsessed over the advances in technology we refuse to put our devices down. Smartphones and tablets are captivating for entertainment purposes and can be efficient for organization but are mind-sucking time wasters when overused. Most people refuse to turn the TV off when they get home from work, binge watching complete seasons over a single night is becoming more and more common. It’s so normal now-a-days for people to have unhealthy attachments to their devices. 

Try to separate someone from their distraction and watch out!

Most people identify themselves with their social media accounts and refuse to give up their phone for the day. Most people look forward to watching a movie or TV show when they get home from work and don’t turn off the TV until they go to bed.

Most people feel paralyzed and need to remain attentive to their screens. Whatever new craze that is about to be, technology fanatics have to have it.

“Live fast die fun” – Travis Barker

Television nowadays is so good and there’s so much variety. Social media can be good to establish a network of strong connections.

To each their own when it comes to how you use your technology just remember not to lose yourself. Media can have strong influences on a person’s personality and behavior. Remember your values and remember moderation is key. 

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Fragmented Realities


Most of us are living diluted realities of the truth. We over sell and over consume most of the times as a means of convincing others or ourselves of our value and worth. Some individuals live fragments of what others consider reality – the world becoming strongly narcissistic thus shifted the collective thinking – people  became so focused on themselves yet they are unaware of the bubble they place themselves in.

Sure becoming more self-conscious is great.. people are making a stand for their worth for fairness and equality. Most of us live fragmented illusions of what we call life.

Although it appears we have more friends than ever according to our Facebook profiles that couldn’t be any further from the truth. Human connection has been lost and the demand for attention is more prevalent than ever.

The products we use have a strong influence with the way the world perceives us. Moderate spending is fine the problem arises when we spend in order to gain approval. People acquire debt in order to finance fancy cars, pay for trips or to satisfy spending addictions. Many unconsciously put themselves into difficult financial crisis and bankrupt even when the crisis could have been avoided entirely.

In my eyes the view towards the need to thrive or the so-called “American Dream” is more a superficial image filled with material desires rather finding balance and true happiness – it’s based off the ego. In reality the “American Dream” should be finding personal happiness in our daily lives without the need to showboat or compete.

As individuals we should shift our focus and attention away from material possessions and wake to each day with expectations to have every instance filled with hope, excitement and adventure.

Wake with hope to grow mentally and physically. Wake with the means to support yourself financially. Most importantly wake to love yourself, don’t worry so much about material possessions.


Continue to Almost Famous – The Ego Illusion Part 2

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Over Stimulation & Loss of Self control (1 of 2)

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Whenever you’re away from home you can list piles of things you wish you would’ve done while you were at home or when you get there (whether it be housework, exercising or personal projects – like writing blogs).

We have these hopes of accomplishing these things yet the truth is a lot of us experience a total loss of self control in the moments we spend isolated in our comfortable homes.

Addictions to drugs, alcohol, food, and technology have us spiraling out of control. We become unconscious as we routinely follow the same patterns – these bad habits can wreck havoc on an individual’s self esteem and their financial future.

“You’re not using your heart for what hearts are for” – Brother Ali

Life’s hard but let’s remember what our values and goals are. Remember goals are important but so is enjoying every moment as it happens. Choose not to stress when critical moments demand your attention. Cherish each day and do you’re best with what you’ve been given. Do you’re best with today it’s all you’ve got – if you get tomorrow make the best of that too.

Remember balance in everything you do. Work towards moderating your bad habits eliminating your unneeded time wasters. We can become our own worst enemy if we beat ourselves up so remember life’s meant to be enjoyed. Do you’re best and enjoy It. Take action everyday to improve your well-being but always remember life’s a roller-coaster ride so don’t lose your sense of adventure. It has its ups and downs but hang on, embrace every moment and have fun.

Continue to Overstimulation & Loss of Self-Control Part 2

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