No Pressure Guide to Happiness

The path to greatness is a road we all must travel ourselves.

The demands we place on ourselves will determine our final outcome, our final result. Are you placing the right demands on yourself? or are you being to demanding?

There’s so much pressure this day in age. Not only does the pressure come from our peers but it comes from all of society, all of culture. It’s ironic how we have it better than any civilization has before us yet we struggle more-so than ever before.

The demands we place on ourselves could potentially be killing us rather than helping us grow.

What pressures are you putting on yourself?

Are you pressuring yourself so much that the stress and anxiety consumes you?

Don’t be so hard on yourself, we all struggle.

Do you live in a sea of hopelessness or is everyday something new? a new day to conquer? a new day to win? a new day to be all that you can be in all that is?

Now-a-days everyone struggles and it seems no one knows why.

The truth seems obvious yet we all live in our own world’s of ignorance. We deny the truth as a means to protect ourselves, ultimately hurting us and leading us towards our bitter end.


5 Major Influences on Well-Being


Influence #1 – Culture

We live in a party culture, negative influences are everywhere. From the moment we wake up to the moment we go to bed we are bombarded with endless messages.

What kind of art do you part-take in? What kind of movies? music? Why do you listen to this type of music? do you listen because you love the music itself or do you listen to gain popularity? to fit in? What kind of habits to you part-take in? do you abuse subtances? drugs? alcohol? food?

Do any of these things actually make me feel good about myself? Will any of these things make me feel better?

There’s good and bad in everything, choose to take pride in acknowledging the good in all things. Seek out good, find ways to make good known.

Do you believe in God? I do. I’m not saying its a pre-requisite to healing but it does help to alleviate depression and anxiety to know someone is looking out for you. It’s also relieving to think our souls are eternal.

I think of the good as God. Seek out God.

When people channel good from themselves, through themselves unto others this is the act of God. The act of a higher power and the act of a deeper understanding.

Do you seek out Good/God in others? GOD = Good, Orderly, Direction

Influence # 2 – Society

A big part of our conditioning as humans is due to our surrounding environment. What is your surrounding environment like? Are the people around you toxic substance abusers or are they free from attachment, warm and supportive?

There’s so much pressure in society now-a-days from media, advertisers and those around us that most people have formed unrealistic expectations in their daily lives. It’s an odd realization but its safe to say most people live in denial of the truth to some regard.

Do you live in denial of the truth? are you happy?

Do you have control of your health? your life?

Do you act like your addictive habits aren’t so harmful? Do you act like you can live forever? like you’re invincible? like you can eat anything you want and get away with it?

Hard work pays off, and that’s that. There’s nothing more to it. Your disciplines and self-control will determine your levels of happiness.

What controls your life? the external or the internal?

Denial is putting the blame on anything other than yourself. Sure we all come into this world with different troubles than one another but its our responsibility as individuals to vanquish our demons and whatever plagues us. As humans we all need to build courage and face our fears or we forever live a life of discontent and discomfort.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it, that’s where most people get lost. Reach out to someone close or find an institution near you that could possibly help you with some counseling. We all need therapy and it doesn’t hurt to start helping ourselves. If someone you know is experiencing these kind of problems let them know you have a waiting ear and a supportive frame of mind. If their problems exude anything beyond what you’re capable of discussing encourage them to reach out.

Influence # 3 – Psychology

So culture says “abuse this” while society says “be accomplished“, the psychological aspect becomes tormenting as we get stuck in-between.

Are your thoughts impulsive? bad? negative? do you feel toxic?

Have you ever come across the law of attraction? the idea, you become what you think about most?

Making smart choices means being a smart thinker, being a smart thinker means monitoring your thoughts, so do your thoughts generate negativity? positivity?

We create the worlds we live in with our words. Believe it or not the thoughts you think today (if given enough substance) will become tomorrow’s beliefs. So what are you thinking today that’s creating tomorrow’s anxiety? creating tomorrow’s opportunities?

9 of 10 things you worry about will never happen and the 10 things that did happen, 9 of them you didn’t worry about. Stop worrying. Stop draining yourself psychologically.

It’s okay to have bad thoughts, fact of the matter is we all have them. The important factor is not to act on them or let them consume you. Fight your way to establish good thoughts, good beliefs, defeat your negative self-talk.

Consider this thought: “I believe in the good things coming” – A lyric by Nahko Bear’s Black as the Night

What a beautiful thought.

Whether we believe we can or we believe we can’t we are usually right. Find messages that lift you up, work towards your faith.

Influence # 4 – Habits

What a better way to build positive thoughts than actually acting on well-being.

CONSIDER THIS: Your levels of healthiness and wellbeing are determined by your ability to act in ways that are whole in terms of mental/emotional, physical and social health. 

Are you healthy? do you have a healthy body? a healthy mind? Do you do the things you have to do? or do you escape and retreat as an act of denial from what is?

Don’t let stress consume you, accept the moment for what it is and work on being present with the moment.

Notice the cycle for change:

  • Pre-contemplation – being unaware.
  • Contemplation – planning for action.
  • Action – following the path set forth.
  • Maintenance – holding true.

Don’t get stuck overthinking, you can’t always think your way out of a bad situation. Thinking is important when it comes to planning but without consistent action thinking is worthless. Get to the point of maintaining your healthy habits, work one habit at a time until they become deeply ingrained routines.

Influence # 5 – Biology

Okay so maybe we’ve come to terms with society and culture’s influence, maybe we’ve established good habits and have redirected our thinking patterns. Maybe something still feels off and we keep falling back into our destructive patterns?

Some of us are born with pre-dispositions which opens our body to be susceptible to illnesses. Unfortunately there’s no way around it. Some of us need medication in order to feel whole, don’t fight it if that’s you. Of course, always talk to a doctor before taking any prescription drugs.


How to start creating a healthy life.


STOP LIVING IN DENIAL!

  1. Start taking responsibility and control for your life.
  2. Start being grateful, be happy regardless of whatever circumstance.
  3. Love yourself unconditionally, we all make mistakes and at times look foolish.

There’s so much wisdom to gather and to share, let your light live on in others. Work to reach new heights of being then share your lessons and stories with those who value your word.

Start making healthy choices. Stop accumulating unnecessary risks whether financially, socially or in terms of your health. Start living to prevent risk, making wise choices.


A healthy body means a healthy mind and a healthy mind makes smart decisions.


Holistic Healing

In terms of holistic healing we can always be smarter with what we put in our bodies. Most people don’t focus on a well-balanced diet so they become weak. When we listen to our bodies and give them what they need we can destroy pathways to negativity. Building stronger connections with ourselves and mother earth based on what we put in our body is important to establish that mind-body connection.

Becoming Self-Aware

As individuals we must learn to give time to our concealed thoughts. Work to understand your feeling and emotions. We can’t always get our emotions completely on our side but with practice we can influence them in a way where they no longer carry so much weight into the situation.


The Health Triangle
Balancing Happiness and Creating Success

When it comes to being a whole happy person there are 3 aspects that determine our potential levels of success and well-being.

  • Physical Health
  • Social Health
  • Mental/Emotional Health

When all pillars are strong we are most likely to act courageously, when one pillar is missing or lacking, just as a tripod would, the balance shifts disrupting the the integrity of the whole.


So how can we focus on improving these pillars?

Socially

Focus on the message being said, the tone in which you say it and how it’s interpreted by others. Work on making good connections with others. Work on being assertive and removing/distancing yourself from toxic influences.

Focus on building good character. Focus on things that create intrinsic value, things that benefit the greater good, work on your trustworthiness, your integrity, your word.

Be compassionate, warm, kind and supportive towards others. Not everyone wants to hear about how they can improve sometimes people just need to be heard, work on becoming the best listener you can be.

When it comes down to it the most important thing is having someone to turn to in times of distress so build an encouraging support system for yourself and others.


Physically

Start now. Start taking charge of your health, your muscles your joints. Treat your body as a temple. Focus on nutrition and improving your physical health. Dedicate minimum 30 minutes a day to physical activity, you won’t regret it.

30 Minutes is enough to influence big change especially if you’re doing it consistently.

If you’re not the most physically inclined focus on little wins until you can accomplish greater feats; the goal being to always challenge yourself.

Mental/Emotional

Are you taking time for “me” days? or do you spend every waking moment working, plugging away?

Stress management is something we all need to determine for ourselves, therapy can come in many forms. Sometimes we need to abide by one therapy to get to the next, each having their own lessons and way of profoundly creating transformational change.

So what do you find value in? how do you de-stress? re-charge your batteries?


You have greatness within you, the question I ask now: are you up to the challenge to unleash it?

 


Thank you to all my readers! I wish you all the best on your endeavors. Don’t give up on yourself. Always get back up no matter how many times you fall down. You may not know me personally but I can tell you that my life is a testimony that you can rise above the suffering. Don’t let your current situation define you, you are stronger than you’ll ever know.

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55 thoughts on “No Pressure Guide to Happiness

  1. I think we have a normal need to be healthy, something that is already inclusive. Focussing too much on trying can actually drift us away from it. You might then need more discipline where it just kinda comes naturally and the only reason it didn’t come naturally was cause of the trying frame which we felt wouldn’t be it really. So we naturally opposed it. But yeah bit of discipline is good and hard work can also feel really good when it is expressive and not mentally draining by straining.

    As for blame, generally every struggle can not really be one’s fault cause that be like blaming a raindrop for the movement of the stream. It might seem that this creates a powerless, helpless drifting image but it doesn’t apply cause selfblame is part of drifting.

    I wrote a song about it: How can it be that something that I struggle with could ever be my fault, when you think about the fact that I live in an environment that is really affecting me. Would you blame a raindrop for the movement of the stream. Sometimes things can get crazy, but I guess the blaming is all part of that. But I guess the blaming is all part of that. But I guess the blaming is all part of that. But I guess the blaming is all part of that. But I guess the blaming is all part of that
    🙂

    I mean, I think you kinda mean the same anyway.

  2. These days, existing peacefully is such a big challenge for so many. However, in my experience, if one takes responsibility for one’s life and makes a conscious decision to simplify life, being happy and at peace is possible. Appreciate your postive posts.

    1. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment 🙂 I appreciate it. I wish you the best too, hope you have a good day filled with blessings and miracles. ☺

  3. Taking the “me” time is really important, yet, most people simply won’t be able to distance themselves from everything. I think, any space is crowded nowadays, that refers to social space, work space and sometimes even family space.
    It is also the quality of “me” time. Snoozing in front of TV or scrolling through social media sites isn’t really going to improve one’s life.
    All things that refer to a better quality of life are really simple, it isn’t a rocket science and everybody should be able to figure them out. It is also an issue of balance. When it comes to a human or a human life, or even the Universe, balance is the one thing that puts everything else in the right place and in the right order.

  4. I can definitely relate to much of this post. I really liked the observation about change. I think it was simplified perfectly, coming out of denial has changed the course of my life immensely. I had to face some harsh truths about myself but it’s only helped develop the person I always TRIED to be and I am now just a human being…which feels so nice.

    1. Thanks for reading and your comment! 🙂 and it’s true, we face our denial only to retreat back into it sometimes… and only once we realize those harsh truths can we see reality for what it is and actually find our way to peace.

  5. “Whether we believe we can or we believe we can’t we are usually right. Find messages that lift you up, work towards your faith.”
    Very good point and essential for everyone to practise. This is why praying is so powerful , no matter what religion you are. Even using a mantra in meditation does the same thing.
    focuses you mind on what you want, on one thing rather than 100 pulling your emotions in all different directions.
    Personally I found that your post had a lot of good info but was hard to read. Just a little constructive feedback.

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